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  #21  
October 17th, 2012, 02:03 PM
Mountain~Mama's Avatar ThePastHasNoPowerOverMe
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Ladies, tell your husbands what a turn on it is to see them _____ with the baby. It will give them a different kind of motivation to step it up.
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October 17th, 2012, 02:06 PM
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very true! and the flip side is, withhold sex if they dont step it up claiming u feel too darn tired/ill/down all the time...then when they ask why...lol
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October 17th, 2012, 02:09 PM
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Sharron, I've considered this, but you know what will happen? He'll get frusterated and take her up to his mom.

We live on over 90 acres, so his mom & dad, his grandmother & her husband and us all live within VERY close proximity of each other.

I can guarantee she'll wind up with either one or the other.

Sad, huh?
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October 17th, 2012, 02:10 PM
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I will not miss not knowing how to balance having a marriage and being a mom. My hubby is so helpful and understanding, but I miss having free time together, even just to talk. Hectic life, but I still feel so blessed to have these two babies so I just tell myself this will pass too quickly. I am crazy and got really sad putting newborn baby clothes away. It's a bittersweet time.
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October 17th, 2012, 02:14 PM
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sophie, i put our 0-3 clothes away today. shes only 2months old, but gestationally 2wks over because she was so late. they just dont fit her in the leg anymore. it is sad, i do love my baby girl and will miss this time when its gone for all the nice reasons, there are just certain things i will not miss at all. as a mom i am definitely better at the sorta 3-11 bit. prob to do with teaching primary school!
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October 17th, 2012, 02:23 PM
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I can't use that, Melanie, cause then he'll want some booty and I want that less than help.
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October 17th, 2012, 02:38 PM
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2 things I have been making my dh do since he won't help with the baby is get up with the girls in the morning to get them off to school & cook breakfast.
The other night he fell asleep at 8 pm & woke up at 2 am and couldn't get back to sleep. One of the times Luke woke up I asked him to hold him for a while so maybe he would go back to sleep without me feeding him & he said no, I think he needs to be changed. I said, change him & of course he wouldn't do that. So, when 5 am rolled around & Luke woke up again, I fed him & dh said he was just getting ready to fall asleep. I told him he might as well stay up since he would be getting up in an hr to get the girls ready as I was going back to sleep. He did & I didn't feel bad one bit that he was up from 2 am until 10 pm that night!
As for breakfast, he's been saying how I'm getting used to having breakfast made for me and I said, well, you're used to dinner being made for you every night, aren't you?
I don't think it will kill him to at least do these 2 things.
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October 17th, 2012, 02:41 PM
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Sounds like he's having a crappy attitude Donna. I'm glad you're making him do stuff!!!
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October 17th, 2012, 04:12 PM
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I just want to add - I do complain about DH, but its not all bad! He'll cook dinner (I'll just do the dishes later), he enjoys sweeping/swiffering/wet jetting the floors (which happens twice a month). He's doing his half how we split things when it was just the two of us...I think he feels I swan around all day relaxing so he feels justified, although he says he knows I don't. And he just always puts Cam down when he has him. I love holding Cam, and do it all I can since he gets bigger every day and will never be small again. I guess I can't understand why he doesn't have the same attitude. Especially since he's gone for 12 hrs a day and sleeping in a separate room. We have a wedding to attend this weekend, hopefully since he'll be forced to spend 10 hours straight in our presence he'll have a better appreciation.
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October 17th, 2012, 04:43 PM
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I have to say that 14 years ago before we got married, George and I discussed all the possible scenarios of marriage and children. There have been no surprises, as we already knew what to expect out of each other. That helped a great deal!

Also, his parents sucked, and he doesn't want to be like them.
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October 17th, 2012, 05:03 PM
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First - Ladies who are having issues with your husbands, I went through that same sh*t with DH when we had DD1. It was SO frustrating that I had to ASK my HUSBAND to help with HIS CHILD. The older she got and the more she started to interact and play, the more and more he helped. Now they have a GREAT bond!

Some days, I am tired of being the only one Adalyn wants. I love her to death and I feel very guilty for saying this. . . But the truth is, it's HARD being the only one your baby wants 98% of the time. I don't always feel this way, but lately I have been. DH tries - He really does - But she just wants to be in mommahs arms.

My biggest vent though is how much I HATE acid reflux an that my poor baby has it. I hate all the spitting up. I know, from experience, that it WILL get better and she WILL out grow it. But it sucks right now!
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October 17th, 2012, 07:07 PM
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Wow, you guys really make me appreciate my DH!! I had a rule when dating. No men who played video games He's more than helpful, no complaints there.

I am fed up with my shoulder - I have a separated AC joint and it is near impossible to let it rest with a 2 year old and the baby...so it hurts....bad...all the ****** time!!

I am fed up with hte lack of me-time....from 5 am to 10 pm I am attending to everyone but me. Thank goodness Millie sleeps 10-5....but still...I'm exhausted.

I am fed up with not being able to lose this weight~!~
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October 17th, 2012, 07:21 PM
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I am royally fed up of Rich not having a set shift! I never know when he will get home and too often he is working 12 hour days. I feel bad for him since Theo is always asleep when he gets home late so he doesn't get to play with him except for a bit in the morning and on the weekends.

I hope to Christ that it slows down now with winter coming. We have already sort of agreed if it doesn't slow down by mid-December then he will look for another job even though this one pays the best he can get for what he does. This is the only baby he will have and he wants to be around him.

I am fed up of my lower back hurting. I fell over while I was trying to get up off from the floor while I was holding Theo the other day. It never hurt pre-Theo.

I am fed up with not being able to go to the gym when Rich doesn't come home until late. I need that to keep from getting depressed.

Rich is good with taking care of the baby - but I wish he would take the initiative a bit more though with baby-related chores and not wait until I ask for help with washing bottles, making formula, emptying the diaper pail.
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October 17th, 2012, 08:04 PM
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Big hugs to the ladies whose husbands are sucking. I felt bad because my husband has had a bad attitude lately, but I can't complain after reading some stuff here.

We've had a virus running through our house the past week. I'm fed up with fevers and winy sick kids. Even Rowan has a fever I'm fed up with throw up, diarrhea, the whole shabang. I'm also fed up with feeling like crap while having to take care of everyone. But, it's what I signed up for.

I'm also fed up with my dry vagina. My stupid vagina won't work and I want to have some sexy time back so bad but it feels like razor blades. This better get better quick!
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October 17th, 2012, 09:41 PM
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I fed up with not having any real me time. Meaning, no time to take care of me like I used to. I'm also fed up with the kids making things harder on me at times. I know they're kids, but they're a lot older for the most part and should know better by now. I'm fed up with how DH can be at times. He's getting better and more hands on with E, but not as much as I would like. I'm also fed up with being told that I better do this or that in regards to E. I'm his mom, I know what I'm doing. I told Dh today that when he's the one pushing the kid out and sticking said kid on the boob all the time, then he can speak. Until, don't tell me I should have done this or that!
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October 18th, 2012, 06:39 AM
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I am fed up wth having to ask for Andrews help. He font wake up with her at all! And if I ask him to feed her ha props her up and puts a blanket under the bottle so he can ... wait for it... sit and watch tv! Who in the heck can't hold a baby and feed her while they do nothing.
I'm also fed up with my step mom telling me how to raise carli telling me that she is sleeping to much not eating an entire bottle.. I hate how she says CarlI is getting chubby the stupid nick names she gives her link hooch, because she is drooling.
Fed up with work being away from carli I want to be there with her all the time and it kills me that I can't.
Whoa. Your guy needs a smack upside the head. Bottle propping is a no-no. If he's not paying attention she could choke. Time to nip that in the bud.
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October 18th, 2012, 07:33 AM
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OH I need this.


I am fed up with... my older kids, ever since I came home from Melbourne and they spent a month with my Mother and Grandmother, they have been HORRIBLE. Everytime I'm breastfeeding Harper, they destroy the house. My younger two won't go to bed at night, I have a routine that consists of tv off at 5, dinner, bath, pjs, reading a book with just a lamp on, and bedtime at 730. They go to bed and Ill sit down to give Harper her last feed and the younger two will get up and stand there just smiling at me. They wont listen to me ever, they have no respect for me anymore. Chris is away until Sunday for work and I couldnt get Mianna to sleep until 12am!!! I eventually called Chris in tears and he talked with her on the phone and she went to sleep. She listens to him, they all do, but not me.

I'm fed up with Chris' job. I just want him to get a full time job, every week we are barely scraping it by and we dont know when he might get more work. Its so stressful I'm over it,'

I'm fed up with MONEY, I got my power bill the other day and it was 1500, on that note F*** YOU Julia Gillard! and your carbon tax!

I'm fed up with being in pain, my arthritis has been playing up bad lately.

I'm fed up with the weather, one day its hot then its cold and the kids keep getting sick.

I'm fed up with Jaelahs school and their infestation with NITS! Im fed up with the half hearted hopeless parents!! I have to comb her hair thats thick and almost butt lengthed everynight to make sure she doesnt get them again. I cant deal with it anymore, I'm drained! It takes an hour everynight but I have to do it because if even just one gets in her hair while shes at school and lays eggs.. ugh. I put her hair in a ponytail and then plait it. I hairspray it I put that stuff in it that pil that they hate god I cant think of the name now... i spray it in there but yet every few days I catch one. I want to cut her hair but it would break her heart

I'm fed up with being fat, and I'm fed up with not having the motivation to do anything about it.

I'm fed up with my small house, I need a bigger house but nothings available.. nothing in our price range.

Harpers about all that gets me through. She has this Aura that just makes everything okay. She smiles and it melts me, completely calms me down. Shes so perfect.
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October 18th, 2012, 07:48 AM
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And I feel like I should add, its not a jealousy thing. I spend loads of time with the older kids, I spend loads of one on one. I don't know what their issue is.
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October 18th, 2012, 07:48 AM
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Harpers about all that gets me through. She has this Aura that just makes everything okay. She smiles and it melts me, completely calms me down. Shes so perfect.

I totally get this. Sarah was the only reason I made it through the hard times that happened recently.
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October 18th, 2012, 12:40 PM
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It's terrible to say but you guys made me appreciate all that my husband does

I'm tired of being fat. the weight is coming off but all my nice clothes are still too small. I want to wear pretty things and have nice hair (it sucks too).

I want to make a friend here. All my/our friends are a few hours or days away. We know people where we live but we haven't really connected with anyone. I'm lonely and I miss drinks and coffee dates.

I'm tired of family - both sides. It's completely understandable that we don't get to see everyone often beacuse travel is expensive but everyone has phones, internet and webcams. If you don't want to communicate with your son/daughter, fine - we're grown ups and we can deal with it... but take some time for your gd grandchildren. One of my gf's out west gets more excited and wants to talk about my children more than their grandparents. it ticks me off.

I'm sick to death of my youngest sister's attitude, her bf and my parents'...gullibility...or something...I haven't a clue what they're thinking. Overview: sister, 16. Bf - recently 19. He gets kicked out of housing continuously (but it's never his fault), work a couple of short shifts a week (and gets fired more often than evicted), spends what little money he has on useless crap (like headphones and hats) and (ready for this) he's been living with my parents since early summer. He pays no rent, doesn't cook or clean - not even his own laundry, 'borrows' (bums) money from my parents (who are struggling as it is), expects and GETS rides all over the place (to party, not work) and he sleeps in my sister's room while she sleeps on the couch. He says nasty things to my other (middle) sister and when she says anything to mom and dad (like 'I'm not driving them to the party'), she gets reamed out for it. My grandmother refuses to let him in the house and DH and I refuse to stay there while he's there but we're all treating him unfairly and have been influenced by my middle sister...yes, you heard right: my 19 year old sister brainwashed DH, myself and our 76 year old grandmother into hating him (Chad and I had our own opinions the first time we met him - months before this started and sister said anything). The whole situation is ridiculous and who's going to be hurt? my baby sister. Just ugh.

and one last thing that I don't really talk about with anyone
I hate tandem nursing. HATE. It. and it sucks because I don't have many people I can talk about it to as they just don't get it (cough DH). I was so looking forward to nursing my babies together but it's just not working. I mean we have these beautiful moments that make say yes this! and it makes me cry but then there are moments when I cry because I want to crawl out of my own skin.
and I hate myself for hating it. I feel like a horrible mother because I often feel so negative nursing my son. It's so unfair to him. I limit him but he's just not ready to wean and it causes even more meltdowns than he's already having. I suck.

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