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So turns out I was right. My Bubbers is not getting enough to eat He's almost 28 inches long and just makes the 15 pound mark (and they swear if he had pooped before he came he might not have). He's in the top % in length, but in the very bottom % for weight. I want to cry.
Although the Doctor said he was still healthy and fine, she teased me that he must be on a diet. He's so skinny. She said to feed him at least 32oz. of formula a day and 3 meals (around 5oz) of solids. She said the spitting up is fine as long as he's gaining weight better. I told her I thought that spitting up meant I was over filling his tummy, and she assured me that was not the case.
I feel like crap! Here I was, trying not to over feed him and make him spit up too much and I was starving my poor baby. Will I ever get this stuff right? I feel like I'm failing here.
The Doctor said it was fine, not to worry too much about it, just to change it now and he'd be fine. I understand I'm new to all this and I'm not going to get everything perfectly correct, but I still feel like a crappy mommy. How could I not know sooner he wasn't getting enough? Poor Elias.
Other than that, everything went fine. He got his shots and cried for a few seconds, then he was fine. He got a book they were giving out, part of an outreach program trying to get more parents to read to their babies. We get a new book every time we go.
His eyes are great, ears are fine and he's developing fine with his milestones she said. All in all it wasn't a bad check up, other than the part where I had my 6 month old on a diet
Summer is only 13lbs 9oz and just a few days shy of six months. I was really worried but she eats, is happy and hitting milestones so I'm not too worried about it. Some babies just gain differently. You're not a bad parent at all!!
Don't beat yourself up over it. Doctors often have certain "goals" they follow or want you to follow doesn't mean that he really can eat all that. Babies and children, even teens all grow at different paces so I wouldn't worry too much. You're doing a great job!
I'm disgusted with your doctor over that comment. It's not professional and surely they realise that sort of comment is going to lay a guilt trip on an emotional mother.
Tina, you have not been starving your baby! If Elias had been hungry he would have been crying for food. Michaela is the same, she's not gaining as they would like in an ideal world, she has some mild spitting up issues too, and she's satisfied by what she has. The health visitors have asked us to try and get "an extra ounce here and there" into here but honestly we've tried and it just makes her sick. We're beginning to wean but there is NO WAY she would take 3 meals a day plus still 32oz of formula, that's ridiculous, that's a day's worth of formula plus 3 other meals! When Daniel went onto solids he went quickly on to 3 meals a day, and then only had 3 7oz bottles so 21oz alongside his food - which is the guidance on every formula tub over here.
I'm not saying don't do what the doctor said or anything, I'm not a doctor, you can certainly try - but please don't be beating yourself up if he won't take it because certainly to me, that seems like a massive amount of food. You are doing great and I do wish medical so-called professionals would realise that most moms do their best and get off the case a bit!
You are a great Mommy and if Elias was missing something believe me he would let you know.
Don't make yourself crazy about it. He is growing and he is healthy.
Congratulations on doing such a great job!
Broken record here too. Don't dwell on the doctor's comments. And don't continue to beat yourself up if he doesn't take a full 32 ounces of formula and three meals. That seems rather excessive and could quite possibly head him into the other direction and form bad eating habits in him. Perhaps I'm wrong on that, but that just seems like a lot for a 6-month-old.
Wow your doctor is a moron! His weight is FINE and you are doing amazing as a mother Tina! He doesn't need 3 meals a day, you're not starving him!! Solids before 12 months is for practice and fun!! Ugh I'm so sorry you're feeling so down after all this pay no attention.
I agree with everyone! Don't beat yourself up. I am a firm believer that a baby will tell you when he/she isn't getting enough to eat! If he doesn't seem hungry then I don't think you are starving him. Try to cheer up.