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I have tried to pop in for as long as I could for a bit but things have been crazy. I figured it is time for a proper update.
I am officially working from home now. I have a TON to do so Micah is still in daycare but only part time now. He loves his daycare though so it isn't bad. His daycare has rooms so everyone in his room is pretty close in age with him. They are all under a year with Micah being the 2nd youngest at 7 months. I am LOVING IT! I Love that I get more time with my boy but I also get to use my fancy business degree. My old job was great but there was a lot of people who did my same job. Now I am really going to see the progress and results of my efforts. It's also nice that I am a mom FIRST and a business woman second.
Last week I had to go up North for work but I took Micah with me. My ergo was a god send lol. My parents are there so we stayed with them but I was still the only one doing the parenting. It was a little tough to be working so much and taking care of Micah without my husband but I made it... I did have a small break down last night though when I could not get Micah to stop whineing (I had him fall asleep in teh co-sleeper.) Mommy just needed a break. I should not have to go up North for that long by myself again though so I should be okay.
Back to the whining. The time has come I think to get little man to sleep in his crib. I can get him down in his crib but he seems to wake up right away. The longest he has gone is 2 hours. When he wakes up in there (or even his co-sleeper) he takes FOREVER to get back down. When he is in bed with us I can get him back down right away. Scott thinks we have to CIO but I don't know that I feel good doing the CIO method... Our pediatrician keeps telling us to do it though I am a lucky mama and Micah never cries so I don't know how I will bare it. Has anyone here done it? I have tried the french method of "wait" and that just did not work. Micah would have carried on all night that way... He is also getting so big we aren't fitting in our bed... and My husband really wants to the bed back to just us. Also for those of you using a crib do you only use it for sleep? I know some people put toys in the crib sometimes but I was thinking that might send mixed signals... or maybe I am just over thinking things.
I've been speaking with a sleep specialist because of Cam's sleep issues. She very much recommended not doing CIO with a bed-sharing baby. It is usually counterproductive. I had asked her for some ideas, but I still have to email her our full situation to get more ideas. I can pass them on when I get them! There is also a post on babycentre my friend sent me, and it discusses different cries which has really helped us at this point, even if he does still sleep with us...I'll see if I can find it.
Otherwise sounds like you made a great decision and you're mostly enjoying it
I wouldn't do something you aren't comfortable with. Have you tried a white noise machine? I don't know how effective they are but I am assuming Micah is used to the rhythmic sounds of two sleeping adults. If you don't have a white noise machine what about a cool mist humidifier, they are fairly loud. I basically use mine as a white noise machine.
Finn has been sleeping really well on his crib but let me tell you it took a good 3-4 weeks.
The first week I tried the CIO method. It didn't work. I wasn't comfortable. What did work was nursing him to sleep and then transferring. If he woke up I would either sooth him or nurse him and put him back. The first few times he woke up at least twice a night but as he got used to it it got way better.
I started putting him in there for his naps in the day too. I don' t put any toys in there. He has to know the difference between sleeptime and playtime. We bought this music machine from Baby Einstein. It's called the Dream Soother and it comes with a remote. It attaches to the crib and glows in the dark and Finn loves to fall asleep to it.
Last edited by 1fabulousfem; March 4th, 2013 at 04:48 PM.
This is totally normal. Transitioning takes time. It's not something that's going to happen overnight. There are many different methods besides CIO (which i personally disagree with). Check out the No Cry Sleep Solution for one. Look into everything and use what works for you even if you take a little bit from each method. I second a white noise machine or a fan. try a soothing mobile, or a light up thingy that plays music. You'll find something that works. And don't despair, every child eventually sleeps on their own all night.
I second Missa's suggestion for the No Cry Sleep Solution. We've been going through the same issues transitioning Emily from bed sharing to crib sleeping. I started reading that book and I feel like we're already starting to see progress.
The book does recommend letting them have playtime or non-sleep time in their crib so they get comfortable with it and don't freak out when they wake up. For the past 4-5 days, I've been letting her play in there for a little while everyday while I fold laundry or do other stuff around the house. She knows I'm close by and doesn't worry about being alone.
When she starts getting sleepy, I rock her in her room and/or feed her and put her down in there. Yesterday she napped in her crib for about an hour and when she woke up, she didn't even cry, she just rolled around and was watching her mobile and chilling out. I'm still working on night sleeping in the crib but we'll get there over time.
Elias sleeps well in his crib, but then he's been taking naps in it since around 2 months and sleeping at night since about 4 months. He has his good nights and his bad. Normally now if he wakes up, I can pick him up and cuddle him for 5 minutes and he's right back to sleep. But sometimes he just won't go back to sleep. I have to wait until he's ready and do my best to calm him. I use the no cry and just pat his butt, shhhh in his ear and sing to him if I need to. But I agree, it will take time. I also agree with not doing anything you're not comfortable with. You know what's best for you and your family. I hope the book does help Good luck.
It's great to hear from you Britt, and I'm really glad you're loving your new job!!
We put Michaela to sleep in her crib from the outset and it was very hit and miss at first, she would prefer sleeping on Daddy's chest, which we didn't want to encourage as not terribly safe. But neither of us are people who could do CIO. I just can't let my baby cry and ignore it.
Something that really helped her was having a hot water bottle in her crib for an hour or so before bedtime. We whip it out just before she gets in and she seems to find it really snuggly.
Something else I've done with both her and Daniel is putting them in the crib and then holding their hand or stroking their hair until they settle. No eye contact, no talking, but just that presence there so they know they're not alone and Mummy is on hand. Then I've worked from that to just sitting within their eyeshot. Then in the same room. Eventually with Daniel it led to him getting himself off to sleep. Still on the eyeshot phase with Michaela. She is ok as long as she is sure I'm in the same room.
Everyone has great advice here... I had Leo sleep in his pack n play or the first month with us sleping in the room. The second month we put him in his crib and he took to that fairly well...
I would sooth him by "shhhhhhh'-ing him and slightly rubbing his belly... But this was when he was smaller and not able to move and wiggle around.
Now we have a lullaby music playing in the background and when he is a bit fussy I resort to the "binky/pacifier" This makes him at ease and I stay in the room till he is about to sleep and then I slowly take out the binky.