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March 6th, 2013, 03:52 PM
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I have a co-worker who works in the Richmond VA office. I've never met her in real life but we talk a lot, are FB friends, etc. I guess you could say it's a long-distance friendship on top of working together. Her husband has cancer in several places in his body including his liver.

Today she IM'd me and said...are you still breastfeeding? I said....yes. why? She said....Will you sell some of your milk? I said....ummmm....for what? Then she told me that there are some studies that breastmilk helps with cancer and she wanted it for her husband. She said that she would do anything to try to keep her husband alive. He's going to a specialist in Chicago and is getting the best medical treatment he possibly can but she wants to ensure that he's going to make it. He already went through at least one round of chemo and the oncologist told him that it basically didn't help.

I told her that I wouldn't sell it but I would donate some to her if she'd pay for shipping. One issue is that I have no breastmilk saved. I stopped pumping awhile back because the conditions at work weren't very good and my supply didn't drop so I just breastfeed at home 3 days a week and before/after work the other 4 days. I told her I would pump for a week and see if I got a significant amount and we could evaluate from there.

So.....would you donate breastmilk for something like that? And for those moms who have donated breastmilk....can you even ship it and if so, how and who would ship something like that?
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March 6th, 2013, 04:29 PM
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I would definitely donate to something like that! I've read a few of those studies, and if there's even a chance it would help, it would be worth it! As far as shipping it though, I have no idea.
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March 6th, 2013, 04:31 PM
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Maybe Sherry can help with this as I know she's currently donating her milk (although I believe it's to someone who lives nearby).

I might consider it if I had an excess amount but I could never even keep up with Emily's supply let alone have enough to donate. There are national milk banks that people can buy from. Maybe that would be a better option.
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March 6th, 2013, 05:16 PM
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I probably wouldn't be able to tell her no.. but you have to feel comfortable doing it. Not sure how it would work to ship it, so it doesn't thaw?? Sorry not much help there...
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March 6th, 2013, 06:59 PM
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If I were in your shoes I would. You can ship it on dried ice in a styrofoam cooler. If you don;t feel comfortable or can't produce enough direct her to the milk donation sites
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March 7th, 2013, 04:15 AM
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I had planned to donate to a cancer patient this time around so YES absolutely I would donate. You could be saving his life.

Modern Milksharing: Shipping Breast Milk
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March 7th, 2013, 04:33 AM
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I have a friend I work with and we were pregnant at the same time back in 2011. I was 6 weeks ahead of her.
It turns out she got diagnosed with a tumor while pregnant (they found the tumor while doing an ultrasound on the baby) She ended up giving birth and not being able to bf because of hormones, medication and a surgery she had to have.
I donated a ton of milk to her. My whole freezer stash, I think it was over 100 ounces. I would do it again in heartbeat.
So I guess what i'm saying is yes, do it. it is going for a great thing and there is so many benefits to human breastmilk. I wish more people were accepting of its added nutrients and would/could try and use it for treatments maybe in addition to other things.

It did take me a long time to build my freezer stash back up and I ended up getting pregnant again when my baby was around 6 months old. I then lost my milk by the time my baby was 7 months old. I ran out of milk in the freezer when she was exactly 8 months old.

even though the extra freezer stash would have given my baby maybe another 2 weeks on my bm when I could no longer bf I don't regret donating it to my friend.

Oh where I work there are some sales reps who when traveling will ship their milk back home on dry ice. I believe it can go regular fedex, ups, or usps.

Good luck and I wish your friend the best.
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March 7th, 2013, 05:21 AM
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I wouldn't give if a second thought, I'd donate in a heartbeat.
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March 7th, 2013, 05:34 AM
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I would totally donate mine if I were in your shoes. I think it's a really nice gesture and you might even save his life. I have no idea how much the shipping is...sorry..
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March 7th, 2013, 06:11 AM
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It's definitely something that would be nice and rewarding to do, it could have amazing benefits for him. But in saying that don't feel you have to put pressure on yourself to up your supply to accommodate this, juggling a baby and work is hard enough. Give it a shot, and if it doesn't increase naturally, you could still suggest a milk bank as other ladies have said. I really don't know about shipping but the dry ice suggestion sounds like a possibility - but I'm sure your friend would look into that for you and contribute/pay the shipping, it's not your whole responsibility. Xxx.
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March 7th, 2013, 07:18 AM
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She also could look at Milkshare.com. When I donated on that site there were cancer patients asking for milk on there. I'm not sure if it's allowed on HM4HB though.
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March 7th, 2013, 07:35 AM
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Absolutely!!!!
I would do it to help. But then again I guess it depends on how much milk you can pump out. If not so much then what the other ladies are suggesting about milk donation sites are a great idea for your friend too! I'm not sure which sites are the good ones though.
If you were to ship I would assume you would freeze it first and then pack it up in an iced cooler....
Good Luck on the supply and for your friend! That is one great act of kindness...
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March 7th, 2013, 09:20 AM
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If I had enough supply, yes. If not, your friend can go through several different companies who hire wet nurses.
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March 7th, 2013, 06:08 PM
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Thank you everyone for your input! I initially thought it was a strange request but you all made me realize that it was perfectly normal to help her out. I am going to give it a try. I will also pass on the resources and ideas that you ladies suggested to her as well. I will update and let everyone know how it goes.
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March 8th, 2013, 07:59 PM
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I probably would. I've shared my frozen milk with two local mommies now. One for a fairly close friend who was going through mastitis and was on medication that she couldn't breastfeed (long story) and just tonight I gave about 50 oz of milk to a momma that I've become friends with over the last several months who's newborn is not gaining well and the dr wanted her to supplement an oz of formula after every feeding and she was in tears at the thought of giving her baby formula. I also gave that same mom about an oz or two a few months ago when her 4 year old daughter had pinkeye to try to treat her pinkeye with breastmilk. haha

I can definitely understand how it would be awkward for someone you only kind of knew, though. And awkward that it was for a grown man and not another baby. The resources that the other ladies provided sound like great options for your co-worker too.

best of luck!
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March 9th, 2013, 02:46 AM
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Do let us know how it goes Amy.
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