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March 9th, 2013, 12:48 AM
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What do you think is the ideal age gap between children? Is your ideal age gap from experience in your own family or others? If you have more than one child, what is the age gap and do you like it? If you don't but plan on another, what age gap will you be aiming for?
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March 9th, 2013, 02:38 AM
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Maybe around 2-3 years so they get attention while a baby/toddler but so they're close enough together to be into the same things a lot of the time. There was almost 3 years between me and my brother and I'd say it was pretty ideal, whereas Daniel and Michaela (by circumstance rather than planning) are a bit too far apart.
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March 9th, 2013, 02:48 AM
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My kids are all 2 years apart which I love because I like them to be close in age especially as they grow. All my siblings are at least 6-9 years or so apart and so i feel like an only child in a sense. I feel more like a parent figure to them. Sometimes for selfish reasons I wish I had of waited 5 years between 2 and 3 then had a 2 year between 3 and 4. Maybe my body would of coped better and also i wouldn't be "done" already (so depressed about that lol).
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March 9th, 2013, 02:50 AM
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Aww honey.
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March 9th, 2013, 02:52 AM
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It's silly and no matter how many kids I have, or age I am; I know I will always be sad about being finished... Sooo I mentally tell myself I am willing to have a fifth child, that way i feel better about being done I won't have a 5th ever...but the options there if ykwim?
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March 9th, 2013, 02:55 AM
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I know what you mean. I'm done, but I wouldn't be heartbroken if there was an oops (though I would be absolutely terrified of l&d and would be telling the doctors that it's their choice, they either do a scheduled c-section or when I get to 42 weeks I will just refuse induction and what happens is up to nature).
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March 9th, 2013, 03:04 AM
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I can't see you only having 2 kids, I see you with at least one more.. a boy in the next 2 to 3 years with blonde hair (where would that even come from?) and blue eyes. I don't know why but I do.
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March 9th, 2013, 03:10 AM
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3 years. I was originally going to wait until Doc was two to start TTC again but got baby fever and wanted to see him with a sibling around the time he turned one so we started TTC when he was 13 months. I honestly thought getting pregnant with him so fast (first try) was a fluke and that it would take a while. Yeah, i got pregnant right away, lost that one and got pregnant immediately after with Harper who was born right around when he turned two. It was rough but nowhere near as rough as I thought it would be. However having Paxton when Harper was 3 and a half was a lot smoother and gets easier and easier as she gets older and cements my thinking thst a three year age gap was the perfect ideal for me. Of course not sticking to it got me my little Hapa babydoll so it's ok.
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March 9th, 2013, 06:37 AM
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I want them closer in age for several reasons...
- I want the hardest part to be done and over with!
- Rules change so fast, its easier to keep up if they're closer in age
- All 5 of me and my siblings were 8 years apart from beginning to end, so even me and my brother enjoyed some of the same things as kids
- I think they can relate to each other better...that said, me and my sister that is 16 months apart from me don't get along AT ALL and we are so totally different, vs my sister that is 6 years younger than me is one of my best friends...so it really depends a lot on the personalities of the children whether it works out best anyways.

So around when Cam turns 1 we will start TTCing again...
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March 9th, 2013, 09:23 AM
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I think 3 years apart would be perfect. Mine are exactly 2 years apart and it has been very difficult for me. The day we came home from the hospital with baby girl was my DS's 2nd birthday. He is very active, and the end of my pregnancy during the hot summer was brutal & we had to stop going outside because he would run towards the street & I couldn't catch him. After having the baby, my 2 year old wasn't able to stay busy on his own, he was still too young for crayons & playdough & refused to feed himself with a spoon, etc. and all the terrible 2's tempter tantrums started. Now at 2 & half he is much better - also he is a boy and had a speech delay making things even harder. Maybe having a little girl 1st would have been easier since girls are usually more advanced.
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March 9th, 2013, 04:12 PM
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I love the spacings between my kids. There is 17 months between #1 and #2, 2.5 years between #2 and #3, and 14 months between #3 and #4. I would say anything under 3 years is ideal for me. Sadly though, i think we're done, although I would totally be open to 1 or 2 more..
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