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Last night around 10:30, my roommate/landlord sat all of us (my boyfriend, mom, and I [the people that are currently renting his house]) down and told us he was planning on selling everything he owns (including the house we are currently living in), packing up his car, and moving to Phoenix, AZ. =O Some of the things that he's selling are things we USE everyday (the fridge in our half of the house, the washer and dryer, the dining room table and chairs, etc.), so needless to say, I am a little worried.
Within the next three weeks, I'll be moving into a new apartment or house that I've done absolutely nothing in to prepare for this baby... Who will only be a few weeks away from showing up at that point.
And the best part of all, we (since we can't afford rent alone, my mom will be moving in wherever, so the three of us) will be gaining a new roommate as soon as we move. One of my boyfriend's bandmates is in a really bad situation at home and has been looking for roommates to move in with (and he'll probably be bringing his girlfriend, and with her comes a ball python, a hedgehog, and the possibility of a finnic fox -.-'). So, we'll have to look for a 3 to 4 bedroom apartment (that's pet [we have a cat] and exotic pet [for all of her crazy pets] friendly) in a town that has pretty much no vacancies whatsoever.
Just under a lot of stress right now, and feeling even less ready for this baby than I was before. But, we'll see how everything goes... God never gives us more than we can handle, right?
Oh man! I'm so sorry this is happening for you right now. Do you have to move right away? It takes a bit for houses to sell, at least from what I've seen.
I'd be so hesitant to move into a house with a baby and a snake. No offense to snake lovers but they scare the crap out of me.
I hope you can find a way to make everything work, and find a suitable place quickly!
I'd rather be in the new place and settling down as soon as possible, because I'm about five weeks from my due date NOW, by the time we get there, it might just be two... Who really knows? He said he'd prefer us to be out when he leaves, but that's just a suggestion, I think.
My mom absolutely refuses to let the girl bring her snake. I don't care HOW "docile" she says ball pythons are, they are houdinis at getting out of their enclosures. She told me, "They do tend to get out, but you just wait a month or so, and they'll be back in there. They just like to get out and explore." -Shudder- I hate snakes.
We're looking as hard as we can, so hopefully we WILL find something. Thanks.
Sorry you're dealing with this additional stress right now. I hope the move goes well and you get settled in before baby makes his appearance. I'd be most nervous about roommates i don't know well, but i'm also not used to roommates at all. I've known people with pet snakes but definitely would not feel comfortable with it if the snake is allowed to get out and roam!
It takes two small metal pieces on the top of a tank to keep ANY snake in it's enclosure. They can't be popped off from the inside, especially like a ball python. I would be more worried about the fox. They are very difficult to litter train, and if the girl is jumping place to place with the thing most likely it's not using a box like it should anyway. I would rather have a loose ball python than step in fox crap/ pee every day. Depending on where you live as well getting the correct vaccinations for the fox is going to be near impossible, not to mention some counties/ cities are very strict on the keeping of exotics.
Keep looking for a cheap new place, and hopefully something opens up before he gives away your fridge and furniture.
I've been around snakes before, having worked at a haunted trail, so I can deal with them, it's just me not wanting them around the baby. What if he gets bitten? Also with the hedgehog, scratching? And the fox is a "future pet idea" for them, so hopefully it will NOT be happening soon.
I don't know when this little one is going to be making his big appearance, but I really hope its not until we're sufficiently settled in. Failing that, at least MOVED in. Lol.
Mom's checking with a friend that owns rental properties to see if he has anything available at the moment.
There's no reason that baby even has to be in contact with any animals. We don't have any reptiles anymore, but in the 8 years that we did, not a single one of the kids got bitten. They have been damaged more by the cats we own!
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I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this all at once. Sounds very stressful! I really hope you, your bf, and your mother are able to find the perfect place and very soon. Is it a must that your bf's band-mate move in as well? If at all possible, it may be a lot less stressful if you can avoid that. If not, I hope it works out and ends up being easier than it seems at the moment. I feel like all of your concerns are valid ones, and I just hope the move will be a stress free one
Mom and I looked at a house earlier (boyfriend had to head to work). It's 2 bedrooms, but can be modified into three, with one bathroom (that's gonna be a killer), for $450 a month, not including utilities. Big backyard, in a pretty good neighborhood, and it's 10 minutes from where my boyfriend just got hired (about 6 minutes less than where we live now).
It'll be a bit of a drive to get to my doctor's appointments, and tack on an extra 15 to the already 45 minute drive to the hospital I'm giving birth at... There is a hospital not five minutes down the road, and they do deliver babies there, but they're not affiliated with my doctor, so I can't go there unless it's a dire emergency. But it's a place to live, and it's not bad.
Gosh, that is a ton of stress to be under so close to your due date! I really hope you find something quick! We had a red tail boa and she never bothered any of our babies. She did bite our older son but didn't hurt him. He reached into the cage to pick her up and she startled and bit...fortunately she is a constrictor so her bite was relatively harmless and she made no effort to constrict at all....so he just said "ouch," and put her back down. I agree with Reptmom...our cats and dogs have scratched our kids way worse than that. Our boa never tried to espcape. We put two metal screws through the top of her enclosure, she couldn't open it...when we did take her out to strectch in the grass outside, she was very calm and nice. I admitt though, I didn't care for having her around the babies just in case they looked like a meal to her when they were super small....she ate rabbits normally that weren't that much smaller than a newborn! I never really worried about her with the toddlers and up.....then again, I never left her unattended with them either. She was in her cage unless my DH was with her.
I hope things improve for you and you can find somewhere to live. In a last ditch emergency do they have any extended stay's in your area- you know, those hotel like places that have living rooms/kitchens in them where people stay longer term than a normal hotel?
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In a last ditch emergency do they have any extended stay's in your area- you know, those hotel like places that have living rooms/kitchens in them where people stay longer term than a normal hotel?
There is ONE place that allows month-long stays, for about the same as rent in a small apartment, but there's only a coffee pot, a small bathroom, the bed, and tv. It's a really cheap motel too.
We've, fortunately, found a cute little house, and we all agree that we'll fit there well. If the girl does move in, she won't be bringing her snake (my mom has a serious phobia that she's never really faced, so the girl understands), but she will be bringing the hedgehog (which I'm totally okay with).
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. =D If it wasn't for that, we might not have found this place so suddenly.
