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You're right, its not always hard. But for a lot of women and babies there is a bit of a learning curve, even if its only the first few times. All my kids have latched like champs from the first time at the breast but not everyone is as lucky, sometimes it takes a few tries to get the hang of it. And its not exactly one of those things you can practice before the baby gets here--wouldn't that be nice if you could? My suggestion is to be as informed as you can be. Watch youtube videos of latches and holds and nursing. That has really helped a lot of women I know be better prepared before their baby comes.
Its not scary though. Breastfeeding has honestly been one of my most favorite things about being a Mom. I love it!
Try and form some sort of routine even if it changes every two months. When you have a routine it makes you feel a bit in control and makes you less overwhelmed. That said, it may take you two or three weeks after birth to form one.
Also, if you have c/s use your pain drugs when you need them, don't try and brave the pain.
Be understanding and forgiving of your dh because he will annoy you bcos of his cluelessness so many times after birth. They do eventually get most of it.
Do whatever feels good to you for birth and afterwards. Don't feel compelled to bring out your baby everytimeto entertain visitors. I decided not to have guest at the hospital just my aunt and dh,it made it such a peaceful time for me. When people called I told them we'll let them know when we are ready for guests or that they can come anytime next week. By which time I didn't feel too overwhelmed and was able to enjoy the visits.
That's a good idea!
I know that is one thing that has crossed my mind a few times; once you bring the baby home there is going to be a constant stream of people wanting to come visit. And with the whole trying to get on a schedule with baby, I bet that can get overwhelming really fast. I guess it's ok to say "no" when you need a break...
im all for breastfeeding, and i seriously felt like it was awkward breastfeeding, i used to have people look at me weird when i said to me it didnt feel natural, to me i didnt feel a bond with her, when i was weaning her into a bottle i felt more of a bond with the bottle when she looked at my eyes ( with breast milk in it) than her on my nipple, i think with this baby im going to breastfeed until my milk has fully came in and then pump