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Of course one of the most frequent questions we have gotten is if we have any names picked out yet. Inevitably, once we reveal some of the ones we like so far, people start sharing their opinions of them, which are often times critical. Why do people think this is open for discussion?? lol. I didn't ask their opinion! So we have been considering keeping the name (once we chose one for sure) a secret.. Is anyone else thinking of doing this??
On a side note, I have the absolute HARDEST time finding girl names I like. I mean, I don't even have any I really want to consider yet. I know there is plenty of time still, but I don't have this problem with boy's names. We already had one that we were both very in love with but now that it looks like we are having a girl, I am kinda freaking out because I don't feel like I will ever find the perfect one. I know eventually we will, but it's so difficult!! lol.
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you can search all the way back to 1879 and just scroll through popular or not so popular names each year. dh and i love older, less common names so scrolling through all the lists in different time periods was just so much fun for us.
good luck! youll find the perfect name, im sure. you have plenty of time too. as things progress you'll have intuitions about her personality and it will come to you. have fun with it! theres no rush. i have a friend who had a nameless baby for weeks after she was born. weird but it all worked out.
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I'm okay with sharing our names. They're unique and mean a lot to us and I know no one will steal them. Plus, I already know who the people are who will have something negative to say and those are the same people who ALWAYS have something negative to say so I don't really care.
No haven't kept the ideas secret from others but we will not be telling the gender of the kids. We figure they should figure out by now we are gonna have a girls, but rather keep them in suspense till the end so everyone else is on team green except us. I love choosing names it just has to be to my liking and taste but roll of the tongue like beautiful music.
Hmm.. I've been considering keeping names a secret. I've thrown out some ideas and the negative comments were of course from the people who usually have something negative to say.. about any situation! So true. I really like VERY unique names and although no outside opinions will change my mind, i'd rather just not hear it.
we have already told people what we have for a boy! lol and no one has said anything about how they dont like our name... lol as for a girl we dont know either... but I have some ideas of what I like... Mark on the other hand is not sure about them! lol
Thanks Kristen, those websites are really helpful!! We (well me more than DH ) likes different, and old fashioned names as well so after I get done playing around on Nymbler, I'll look through the other one!
I think often times people don't even think when they blurt out the first thing that comes to their minds when we mention a name. They try to come up with weird nick names and I guess that has been the main thing to get on my nerves! lol.
Thanks for the input. We are going to try and decide soon if we will reveal it or keep it a secret. I guess once we decide on something for certain, it will be easier for me to stand my ground and back it up against stupid comments!
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I don't know if we'll share our final pick or not...if this was a girl it was going to be Sienna May though. I've always thought of it to be kind of special & traditional to announce the baby's name for the first time along with the birth announcement, weight, length, etc so it might be nice to keep it a secret
kristen's site suggestions are great though; I especially like finding the less popular names I think as long as you're happy with your choice, that's all that matters; it's your baby!
We aren't telling anyone our names this time around. People are too opinionated and think its their right to give their opinions on what WE choose. So we are with ya :-X
LOL that's so funny! People ALWAYS think you are "asking" them for their opinion when really your just telling them because they asked. lol. I wonder why people can't just say "oh what a beautiful name" no matter what. sheesh. I don't think we'll keep our name a secret. My husband lost his sister a couple of years ago to leukemia. She was just 26 years old and was pregnant with her first child (a boy) So it's REALLY important to him that we name her after his sister. SO....this little girl will be ......something.......April. We just haven't decided on a first name yet. He wants something "A". I THOUGHT we had Allison April picked out.....but now I'm rethinking it. I don't know, we may end up with that one We'll see. We've got plenty of time So....we probably will tell everyone what the name is as soon as we've got the whole thing picked out
Nicole that is really sweet of you guys to name her in honor of his sister!! That brings tears to my eyes. I think April will be a beautiful middle name. I bet his family will feel so honored.
I am glad to hear I'm not the only one experiencing the opinionated replies to the name questions! lol
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We didn't tell anyone anything with Claire...not her name or sex! I really loved that we did it that way, because so much of our infertility/pregnancy was very public, and we wanted to keep something for ourselves.
This time we will be sharing the sex(es) with everyone, but we will keep the names to ourselves again.
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I really don't mind sharing my thoughts on name. I'd rather hear all the negative critique from the people who are going to have something to say regardless a few months in advance than after the names been given. If I love a name enough it doesn't matter what people think of it. For instance, my mother hated the name Mia Renee and told me how god awful it was every time we spoke for months, but that name has a special meaning to us.
I think we'll keep the names secret from most people we know, just for fun. But I don't worry at all about what people online say. They're not even in the same country as me (on JM for example - very few members in Japan), so if they have something negative to say they'll just sound a bit dense to me. No one should criticize other peoples name choices in my opinion. We chose names because they have meaning to us. Plus, if we all chose names EVERYONE found "acceptable", we'd end up with a million babies with the same name. How boring that would be!
Love your point Jack! That's why I like names that are different.
I am sorry your mother was so open in sharing her negative opinion; how rude! I love that name and I think it's very pretty.
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Yes we'll be keeping the name a secret. Just b/c I also don't want to hear any negative comments about the name before the childs even born, and I can be a push over sometimes and don't say or speak up for myself when I should. I find it easier just to keep it to myself, the name that is. Plus my mom wants to wait and hear the name when the baby is born.
We haven't even looked at names yet. With each kid it's like we wait longer and longer to look at names. But when we do pick some out we will keep them a secret. We learned that mistake with our first. The first time I was pregnant I told my sister what names we had picked out, Jacob being the top boy name (and this is before Twilight was huge). But that pregnancy ended in a m/c...but the next time we got pregnant my sister got pregnant to and was due before us. We were talking about names and she said Jacob was their top boy name. I was PO'd!! She knew that was our top name still and was stealing it. Well she never did use that name and so far we haven't either. I think we're both afraid to use it now. So because of that we do not tell anyone the baby names we pick out.
