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........ gender reveal. I didn't even mention this on the day I had my u/s because I was so upset about what the tech did I didn't even want to get into it.
I had a close friend come with me to the ultrasound and as soon as the tech said "boy" she posted it to facebook, tagged myself and my boyfriend and told everyone the news!!!!! We didn't even get a chance to. I had something cute and special planned but she totally took that away from me. I was already in tears and when I saw that it just made everything so much worse. I never confronted her about it. But she really stole that moment from my boyfriend and I. What if I had something planned, what if i was keeping it a secret? She had no right to make the announcement for us. Both of our families found out from HER. Because she posted without telling us and without giving us a chance to do it ourselves.
I had planned a really cute photoshoot with a photographer friend of mine for gender reveal photos and that had to be cancelled all because of what this "friend" did.
How upset would you ladies be?? You would think it's common sense to let the parents be able to announce the sex of their child.
I made sure to warn my sister not to blab on either facebook or a family member. I wanted that right for my husband only. If I were you, I would at least inform her how disappointed you were. That something like that is considered special and important. Honesty helps. So as long as you don't come down hard on her and try to make her understand, I'm sure she'll show some remorse.
I would be upset but at the same time if you didn't tell her that you had something else planned then you can't really blame her for something that she didn't know. She probably also figured since she was coming along with you to see the gender of the baby, you would have told her if you didn't want her to tell anyone. Thats how I would think. Although, I would never post one of my friends gender reveal before she could. Maybe she was just really excited for you, I have no idea lol. I don't know if you should say something because it will not change the past but if you feel very strongly about it and think she should know then I would definitely say something. It may prevent her from ruining something else for you in the future. I am really sorry that she ruined your moment, I know that whole situation for you was very hard and I am sorry she made it worse.
I understand she didn't know I had something planned. But i trusted her enough to know that we would like to reveal the sex of our baby.. Her and I have never had any issues in the past and i just didn't expect this from her. I know she did it out of excitement. But at the same time I am almost positive she knew that I would want to share this info first.. regardless of whether or not i had something special planned I shouldve been the one to tell people.
I agree. Some people just do not have common sense, sadly enough. I would decide if you want to take on the stress of confronting her. It may be stressful, it may not. I just got into a HUGE fight with a girl who I thought was a friend, all I asked her was if she told everyone at my old job if I was pregnant and she freaked out. I just do not have time for the immaturity anymore, and I would rather cut those kinds of people out of my life. Not saying that your friend would be immature about what happened, I just would hate for you to deal with any stressful situations that some people can cause.
That would make me really upset - you should be able to trust your friend not to spill news that isn't hers to tell. I guess all you can do is decide if a confrontation with her is worth it. I have a friend who has also shared stuff that I thought was obviously private (like when we started trying for a baby!) and after getting burned a few times I decided not to confront her but to be sure in the future to either tell her explicitly not to tell people or to just not tell her until I was ready for the news to be public.
I'm really sorry you had such a stressful experience with the u/s tech and this...hopefully all your planning for the little one will make it a distant memory soon!
Agreed. That's exactly why i didn't say anything to her. On one hand it really hurt my feelings that she ruined one of the moments i was most excited about.. But on the other hand I didn't want to make her feel bad about it when I know it was an accident. I just wish she would've thought of me first though. It was really inconsiderate.
The only extra thing I have to say also is that I think you should look back into doing photos. I know everyone knows the gender but it would still be very cute and would be a nice memory to show your little boy when he gets older. It may not be a reveal but a conformation.
Ugh... I HATE how quick everybody is to post things to social media, even things that they have no business posting! I would have been really upset. And I would let her know you are upset about it so that she never does it to anyone else!! She probably just doesn't even realize how special that piece of news is to an expectant Mom... I'm guessing maybe you're one of the first close friends she has had that is having a baby, so she doesn't know the ropes yet. I'm really sorry that happened!
WOW! Im sorry that your friend did that to you... so not cool! Im sure she was just really excited and just didnt think about it when she did it! I know LAME excuse...
I am sure your friend meant no harm and was probably super excited for you guys, but that sucks! I'm sorry you didn't get to be the star sharing the news, but you'll have plenty of great updates to share! I'd be sure to make it clear to her that you really want the opportunity to tell people things before she takes the liberty to post it on Facebook.
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