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Normally it would be Wednesday Whines and Wahoos, but I've been thinking a lot about our upcoming births, so I decided to switch things up So, share some of the "what if" thoughts you've been having pertaining to your L&D, or early days of parenting! We all have fears, things that cross our minds...
Here are some of mine:
1. What if he comes out a girl instead of a boy?
2. What if there is some kind of medical condition we weren't aware of prior to birth?
3. What if I go into labor before my c/s?
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Oh geez; this will give my ocd brain a place to vent, hopefully! I am really bad about "what ifs". lol.
What if there are complications and I can't attempt my water birth in the birth center?
What if I'm not strong enough to make it without pain meds when I do attempt the water birth?
What if I go into premature labor? Will she be ok?
What if we will be completely overwhelmed when she arrives and won't be able to stop her crying, for example?
Honestly, I could go on and on with this I think. I'm trying to focus on how I want things to go because I believe a lot in the power of positive thinking! Thanks for letting me get some of my fears out though!
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My dr. actually just helped relieve a lot of my anxieties about being back in a hospital for this birth so I'm a lot better than I was a couple days ago.
However...I do still have a couple worries. The main ones being:
What if I don't make it in time and deliver at home or in the car without any help. (This is a huge worry)
What if I hemorrhage again after she's born.
What if something happens to her.
What if I have complications and need a c-section (terrified of major surgery!!)?
What if I am not able to breast feed?
What if I go into labor during the daytime and things progress so quickly my hubby can't get back from the city (where he works about 1.5 hours from home)? Thank goodness on this one my parents are on call to take me to the hospital and my mom would be with me during birth (my dad would probably be willing to, too, but that's too embarrassing!!).
My biggest "what-if?" is "what if I don't know when to go to L&D (again)?"
With Claire I went to L&D because I thought I had a UTI...I had no idea I was 4cm and in labor
This time I have contractions every evening, and they always taper off after a while. I kind of ignore them now, but what if it is the real deal and I don't know it? Assuming these babies come soon, they need a NICU...I can't have them on the couch!!
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I definitely think about what if he's a she! And conditions we don't know about as we only had very basic screening done.
What if I can't breastfeed? And probably my biggest fear: what if my heart gives up (I have lots of issues with it) before the rest of my body does & I am not conscious for his birth? That would be really hard for me to deal with. I'm going to have to work a lot on not exhausting myself, however much that will be in my control.
What if he comes way before his due date?
This is what worries me, bc I do have GD this causes them to grow bigger faster... I hope he stays put till the end of September
What if I go into labor before my scheduled c-section....what am I going to do with Ryan?
What if this baby comes out a boy instead of a girl?
What if there are complications with labor/delivery that are beyond our control? (this scares me the most since my sister had a stillborn at 38 weeks last year)
What if I go into labor while my husband is teaching class and I can't reach him?
I'm not really worried about gender - if he turns out to be a she, most of our stuff is pretty gender neutral, anyway.
I think my biggest concern is the fact that the hospital is 45 minutes to 1 hour away (depending on traffic) and I have no idea what going into labor feels like. I'm a little nervous that I might wait too long to go in or that DH will get stuck at work (even though his unit is just around the corner) and I won't be able to get there.
I'm also worried about going into labor while I'm at drill in October. I shouldn't be worried - I'm in a hospital unit and the drill hall is closer to my hospital than our house - but I don't know what would happen. Would some one from my unit have to drive me and I would meet up with DH at the hospital?
Some other big ones:
What if the nurses/doctors try to push medications or procedures that I don't want or need?
What if they are so used to circumcising that they forget that we want to leave him intact and do it anyway?
What if they don't let me move around during labor or let me deliver in a position that is comfortable for me?
What if I can't handle the pain?
What if he comes early like his dad did?
What if I make it to 42 weeks and he still doesn't want to come out?
What if my kids don't bond well with the baby (it will be their "half" brother).
What if the military does not send my husband home for the birth.
What if I go into labor before scheduled c-section and my hair and make up are not done!
I'm not a worrier, so thinking of "what ifs" is hard for me to even do! I rationalize my way out of all of them.
The only one I think that I would REALLY be concerned about would be: What if I end up with an emergency c-section, and the bonding and breastfeeding processes are interrupted? How do I deal with that and overcome those challenges? It's the only thing I can think of that I have zero frame of reference for and would find hard to deal with, emotionally.
Problems with the birth, health problems, everything else I could deal with. But to have a healthy baby at the end of it and still have problems with bonding and breastfeeding... I can't wrap my head around that.
I'm not really a worrier, but here are a few what if's on my mind!
What if this dang placenta doesn't move and I have to have a c/s?
What if baby comes so fast we don't have time to get the kids to their Grandparents; and they accidentally witness everything and are traumatized for life?
What if my birth pool pops and we flood the house? (Really need to check it for leaks soon, we haven't blown it up in over 4 years!)
What if the doctors pressure me to get interventions because i'm not "progressing fast enough"?
What if they tell me I need a c/s, but really they just want the baby out of there faster? (No medical need for it)
What if they won't let me be in a squatting or standing position to deliver the baby and force me to lay flat on my back?
What if in all the chaos they give him the hepatitis/vitamin k shot without my consent???!
What if something is wrong with him and they have to take him away from me?
What if somebody slips him formula or sugar water if he gets taken to the nursery?
What if he is unable to breastfeed properly because he was taken away for some reason?
What if he is born prematurely?
I have a LOT of what-if's. Most of them are based on me not trusting the staff to respect my wishes. I am TERRIFIED they are going to give him shots without my consent and are going to take him away from me instead of letting me bond with him right away...
So, share some of the "what if" thoughts you've been having pertaining to your L&D, or early days of parenting! We all have fears, things that cross our minds...
I am really bad about "what ifs". lol. 
Thanks for letting me get some of my fears out though!
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