[bryan and nina]

I think this thread is pretty much just going to be for the purpose of venting/ whining, but girls, I've been having SO much anxiety the past few days! Emmy hasn't been kicking as much (although I do feel her throughout the day; it's just less strong than what I am used to and a little less frequent). It does seem like she goes through phases where for a couple of days, she will kick less, almost like she is resting or something.
I used the doppler yesterday and her HB seems fine. I just have this paralyzing fear that the cord will be wrapped around her neck. I mean, how would midwives know that? We aren't doing another u/s through them (but we are doing the 3D one Saturday after this coming one, on the 11th) so I don't think they would ever catch it in time. I could hardly sleep last night or the night before because I am so worried and stressed out and every time I did feel a little kick from her, I woke up because I was so excited. Ugh, I guess it's mostly hormones but it's just petrifying to me to think the cord could be wrapped around her neck.
Thanks for reading, girls. I think I will try to drink some tea before bed tonight to see if that helps relax me...

[cincy1luv]

I am sure she is fine. Maybe with getting bigger she is moving and you are just not feeling it all and she could be facing another way! I am sure her schedule could be changing up to. Hugs to you. I pray that the cord is not around her neck. This is a big fear of mine to.

[bostoncreampie]

Start listening to your hypnobabies positive affirmations track!!

[~*rach*~]

I know it is a scary time. I am sure everything will be fine

[KMH]

I think it is somewhat normal to be anxious...I worry if the babies move more or less than usual and start to freak out sometimes. I'm a numbers girl, so I constantly remind myself that the chances of something happening like that are really low; statistics are on our side!

I love positive affirmations, too, and hope that and the tea helps you feel better

[Sawyers_Mommy]

Lurking- When I was pregnant with DS the last month or two where he was just growing so much and getting cramped, I hardly felt him move. I felt him everyday but not like I did before. And like you described it didn't feel strong anymore, but more like he was pushing instead of kicking/punching/ect. I believe it's just cause they run out of room in there and only have enough room to stretch a little and thats what we feel instead of big kicks

I'm sure everything is just fine with your little girl

[MommaSunshine]

Oh Nina, big hugs to you! :hugs: Your fears are normal, I get very anxious about things like this too. I am willing to bet she has shifted positions and is in a spot that you might not feel her as much, that happens to me a lot and its always nerve wrecking. I thonk you should call your midwife to ease your mind. Maybe she can send you for a quick non stress test, where they hook you up to the monitor and trace babys heartbeat and whether its accelerating and decelerating appropriately, it also monitors contractions. But that is usually a good indicator of babya well being, and it will also put your mind at ease. I hope you feel better!

Oh man, sorry for my crummy grammar, posting from my phone!

[**Jenn**]

I was a mess my pregnancy with Liam. I even had a bit of a breakdown around 35 weeks because I was sure he was better off outside than in and something was going to happen. Didn't help that my MIL would always ask "How do you KNOW the cord isn't wrapped around his neck strangling him?" Yeah, that helped. He was just fine though! And I would get super paranoid if it had been a few hours not feeling him--I'd drink something cold and sweet like orange juice and start poking my belly. Then of course I'd feel horrible for waking him up. At this point they are getting bigger and running out of room, movements are more restricted and may seem less frequent as they're getting into a sleeping pattern as well. Newborns sleep A TON and so they do when they're inside too.

I am sure everything is just fine with her. Try not to worry.

[LoverlyJules]

Aw, I'm sorry you are stressed, mama! I'm sure Emmy is doing great! Just try your best to stay positive. Try bonding with her quietly by reading her a story or singing. Sending hugs!!

[Leanne78]

(((Hugs))) Nina!!! I'm sure she is just running out of room but I totally understand how you feel. I'm terrified of a cord accident. I know it's pretty normal though as they run out of space for their kicks not to be as strong. I'm paranoid about the cord though so I'm pretty sure I'll be scheduling an elective u/s in the next few weeks just to make me feel better.

[Shamogue]

Aw Nina, not that it helps but I think how you are feeling is totally normal! I go through phases of being exhausted at how much she kicks all night, to getting anxious if I don't feel her move her "usual" amount. Sending you hugs!

[doremi]

I'm always anxious until that baby gets put in my arms! I DO remember the movement slowing down and freaking me out with Josiah. It's normal... they get so crowded in there, that they can't do the big movements toward the end of pregnancy. Hang in there, Nina! We'll all be holding these beautiful babies soon!

It is so normal for movement to slow down towards the end!!! But even knowing that and having done this already four times, I still get worried as well. The best advice I can give is to take a deep breath when you start feeling anxious and visualize holding Emmy, talk to her if it helps. I usually put a DVD in for the other kids if I need to do that, so I can go be in my room and chill out for some brief moments. Clear your mind from the clutter and negative thoughts. And we all understand, Nina!!! Come here for reassurance if you need to!!! *hugs*

[hiskid1324]

As everyone has said, it is normal for movements to slow and change toward the end! Cord accidents are statistically uncommon, I'm sure she is fine! And, if it is any help, Rebecca was born with her cord around her neck 2x and head/face one time (the only loop that moved was the one around her head, she was somersaulted as she was born), and Elias had his around his neck 2x, both so tight they didn't budge so he also was somersaulted as he was born. They are both fine! It's actually very common to have a nuchal cord (to the point that my midwife is more surprised when there ISN'T one!), and very uncommon to have cord accidents in-utero.

[Mrs.Paradise]

HUGE SUPER DUPER FREAKING BIG FAT GIANT MONSTER HOOKER FANGBANGER Nina... Im sorry you have so much anxiety... its not fun... you just have to trust in your baby and your body that everything is fine... I cant remember if your doing hypnobabies or not... but I love it! it helps calm my fears and anxiety! just to listen to the pregnancy affirmations cd is worth getting it! lol

my SIL all of her babies cords were wrapped around their necks and they are all healthy and happy! Idk if that helps or not... but thought I would throw that in there...

[bryan and nina]

Aww you girls are so awesome! It warms my heart how sweet and supportive you are! Thanks a million for all the reassuring comments; it does help to read that I'm not the only one worrying. I just did a kick counter and she was moving a lot during the 15 mins or so that it took to get 10 kicks but they still aren't the huge punches I've gotten used to feeling... but like many of you said; it's probably because she is getting a little cramped in there.
I so, so appreciate that I can vent here and that you girls are so sweet in making me feel better. Thank you all so much for that.

Yes Jessica, I'm doing hypnobabies as well; just started Saturday! How far along are you? I didn't know you were doing it too until I read it in a post yesterday. That's so neat! I have to start listening to the positive affirmation CD; so far I've just done week 1. I fell asleep today doing it! lol. Not good... I'm planning on having the positive affirmations in the car and listening to and from work, the store, etc.

[Mrs.Paradise]

I took the classes and just finished my last one on thursday! I LOVE IT!!! it works AMAZINGLY WELL!!! just make sure you practice practice practice!!! I still listen to my cds I try to do it every day but lets face it... some times that doesnt happen! lol but I use it at night to get me to sleep!

[bostoncreampie]

you're supposed to listen to positive affirmations everyday, mama! get on it!

[JillN31]

Hugs to you. I find that I have more anxiety than normal during pregnancy and not just about the unborn baby. With all of my pregnancies, I have had major anxiety about DH getting hurt or killed or something happening to one of my kids. I can hardly stand to be around swimming pools with my kids this pregnancy because I'm petrified that one of them will drown. For me, the increased anxiety is just from the hormones. I have to talk myself down on an almost daily basis. I hope that you get some peace of mind when you have your ultrasound.
The rest of you pregnancy will fly by and you'll be holding that baby in no time!

[jessjillmama]

I agree with everything all the ladies have said. I do understand your worries. I have them too, especially since I have lost a child. I feel like its to good to be true to have a healthy son. I am so worried something will happen to him to take him away from me. All I can do is have hope. Hope that my dreams will come true and I will have a healthy son. This is what I try to think of when I get worried. There is no use worrying it will just cause stress on him and I don't want that. I hope you start to stress less and big hugs to you.