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I "met" a group of people on a very popular tv show's website a few years ago. We were all fans of a contestant on the show (lol, I know) and decided to add each other on facebook. Not the smartest thing to do, I know, as you never know who people really are. Fast forward to this year. We are all still in touch. They see all of my posts on facebook. Everyone was really happy when I announced the pregnancy and have continually been supportive.
One in particular, was really interested in the pregnancy as she wants to get pregnant. I felt really bad for her, as she has been married for 15+ years and has not gotten pregnant. She has a condition that makes it difficult. I decided to keep pregnancy posts to a minimum to avoid making her feel bad. One day, she posted pictures of a nursery that she is making in her house even though she is not pregnant. I talked to her about it and she said she has a promise from God that she is going to have a baby. She posted a picture of a brand new crib and said her mom bought it for her. I hadn't even started buying things for my baby and I was in the second trimester. I just couldn't imagine preparing a nursery while not pregnant, but I figured different people do different things.
At one point, I announced that I was having a boy. A few weeks later, she told us that she thinks she is going to have a boy and started asking me what I am naming mine. She listed her boys names. After all of us threw around names for fun, she asked if "we" were all set on a name.
One day, she changed her facebook description on her second facebook profile to "soon to be stay-at-home mommy." Several people asked her if that means what they think it means. She did not respond to anyone and later said she couldn't log into that profile anymore and, as far as I know, stopped using it.
After this, she posted a Bible verse that said something along the lines of "For this child I prayed, and my petition was granted." I even asked if she was pregnant that time (along with several others) as that is how it sounded. She never responded, so I decided I wouldn't ask anymore.
She lives in a different state, but her brother and SIL (who is a medical assistant) live near us. The other day, she posted, "Test" or "Testing" and I asked about it. She said she was testing where her location is showing up as.
I mentioned some of these things to my husband and parents and they all said the whole thing is weird and creepy. I decided to post a recent news story about baby kidnappings to see if she would respond and my other friend said those people are nuts and she agreed. I stated that people should have their own babies, adopt, or foster parent instead of stealing someone else's baby and she said it's expensive to adopt. ???
I mentioned a few of these things to my OB to see what a neutral party would say and he said that our conversations need to be over with and I never should have talked to strangers online.
What do you think? Is this weird or are we paranoid? I keep thinking this woman is probably completely innocent and we are thinking horrible things about her, but my dad (who is in law enforcement) said the behavior isn't normal and that I should make a police report so if something happens, everyone will know who did it.
I feel so embarrassed even posting this, as I am a Christian and I feel like this lady is my friend and I feel badly that she is having a hard time getting pregnant. She might just have lots of faith that she will have a baby, and I do think having faith is a good thing, but at the same time, I do not know her in real life. She might not even be who I think she is. You just never know.
Can you tell me what about the whole thing you think is weird? All of it or something specific?
Yesterday, she posted about girl names, but my mom said she might have realized how she sounded and is trying to throw me off, lol. I'm not so sure about that one.
I find it very strange as well. It just doesn't seem right and I agree with the others about being VERY cautious! The fact that she posts the things she does shortly after YOU do is what strikes me as very off. How she doesn't respond to certain questions and such. I would be very careful!
the WHOLE thing sounds weird, granted almost all of us on here are strangers with each other, i would delete her now, block her and then change your city ....but before doing that i would be posting that you are moving ...send a text to family members and close friends so that they know you really arent moving ...and be done with her ....you need to be veryyyyyyyy careful with this one!!! seriously this strikes me as odd and major red flags are all over this!!
I left something out... Most of these conversations happen on a private facebook page so her friends and family cannot see them. Only the two where people asked if she was pregnant were on her profile. The point is that only the private members see the strangest stuff (like the nursery). I'm trying to figure out what her family thinks. I questioned her mom buying a crib and she said her mom believes the promise. There is no way my parents would buy a single baby item without someone actually being pregnant, which makes me wonder if her mom thinks she is.
I agree with everyone else...this whole story is very, very odd! Be super careful and I would take the advice of your dad about filing a report. Better to be on the safe side!
I find it very strange as well. It just doesn't seem right and I agree with the others about being VERY cautious! The fact that she posts the things she does shortly after YOU do is what strikes me as very off. How she doesn't respond to certain questions and such. I would be very careful!
People do very crazy things out of desperation!
One time, when she was thinking about taking a pregnancy test, I did ask her in private if she is pregnant (afterwards) and she did say no. She says so many things that make you wonder if she is, but it's odd she doesn't answer publicly on her page if asked.
Last edited by Jinnah; September 10th, 2012 at 11:45 AM.
That woman is a few fries short of a Happy Meal. Unfriend her and block her. You can continue to pray for her, but you are endangering your family by letting her have access to your personal information and photos.
if some one told you this story ...what would you think????
I would think it's creepy. It's just hard when you are in it because you don't want to be falsely accusing someone of something. I keep second guessing myself. I researched when I got creeped out and got all of her info and her family's info and I'm giving it to family members just in case. I guess it can't harm anyone to make a police report just in case. That way they will have all info if they need it. If nothing ever happens, then nothing will happen to her.
My mom says we should say something to her, directly, about it but I just don't know what we would even say. She befriended my dh when he stopped using my facebook page and got his own "for his sports updates". He will say something if he needs to.
Yeah, with all the bad situations that I have read with women wanting a kid befriending pregnant women, I would flee with my tails between my legs. I am a christian as well and believe in having faith but she takes things a bit far and doing all these around the time you are pregnant also just makes me uncomfortable. I hope she doesn't know where you live or anything personal.
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Yeah, with all the bad situations that I have read with women wanting a kid befriending pregnant women, I would flee with my tails between my legs. I am a christian as well and believe in having faith but she takes things a bit far and doing all these around the time you are pregnant also just makes me uncomfortable. I hope she doesn't know where you live or anything personal.
I'm sure she could find out where I live if she really wanted to. I didn't have my guard up as we were "friends" for quite awhile before I found out I was pregnant, but all of this seems excessive to me. I really think it's fine to have faith that God will do something for you, but this just seems off for some reason. Someone else told me that after 15 years, it's going to take a miracle, so why would you start making a nursery and having your mom buy a crib now?
Phew!! Wow that is pretty creepy.... I can see that she is probably desperate, wanting a baby so badly. But what she is doing isn't helping herself, mentally, at all. Preparing a nursery when you aren't even pregnant yet?? I'm sorry, I know miracles do happen, but after 15 years and no baby yet, I think I would be looking into adoption! It sounds like a very sad situation and I do feel for this lady, but like someone else previously said; the nicest people can do crazy things out of desperation! Be careful and I would totally recommend ending all contact with her and completely removing her from your friends list!
You don't want to have to worry every time you will be posting pics of your little baby how that will effect her or what she will do in response... I'm sure your "bond" to her isn't that strong, to where you'd be greatly upset ending your friendship with her, right? Be careful!!
I think it's very creepy, especially the part where you said you are having a boy, and then all of a sudden she thinks God has promised her a boy. It seems like she is trying to live through you...does she know where you live specifically, or how to find you? It sounds like she wants to steal your baby!
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