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Things they do not tell you about after you have a baby :/


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January 9th, 2013, 10:28 AM
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This was on my friends facebook page and wanted to share. Sorry if it's been posted before but it's so flipping true lol

THINGS THEY DO NOT TELL YOU ABOUT AFTER YOU HAVE A BABY :/

1. You will have a really heavy period. No matter how you give birth (c-section or va-j-j) you will have postpartum bleeding. This delightful discharge is called lochia and it sounds about as appealing as it is. It lasts as little as two to three weeks or as long as six weeks after birth. The best part is you're given giant, thunderpads in the hospital because you can't use tampons during this time (it can introduce bacteria into your healing uterus) so you have the added pleasure of feeling like a 15-year old girl from 1974.

2. Your crotch might be a mess. You may be dealing with a swollen, stitched up mighty mess that even Stephen King couldn't dream up. There are a variety of elixirs and contraptions to help ease the horror including sits baths, frozen bags of peas and a little water bottle that you squirt on yourself while you pee. In my experience I've found that it's best not to look – it was actually worse than I thought it would be. Dear God so bad.

3. You're still fat. You will need clothes after you've had this kid because you'll be sort of second trimester doughy for a while. This is yet another reason I hate those dam model asshats that are wafer thin 10 minutes after they've given birth because it isn't realistic. Everything is very different when you've had your tummy tuck during your elective c-section and you can hand your baby off to a nanny and have a personal trainer up in your face everyday. Pilates and brown rice my ***. Stupid starlets. Except Heidi Klum. I love Heidi Klum and that woman earned her wings.

4. You might cry. A. LOT. Some women get off really easy with this one and don't ride the hormonal roller coaster after they've had a baby and to them I say "lucky, lucky hoe". It doesn't help that it can run the gamut from absolutely nothing to full blown post partum depression so not everyone is sympathetic if you have the Niagara Falls boo hoos if they didn't. The other tricky thing is that you might not recognize how bad it was until you're out of it. It's best to have people that actually know you keep an eye on this one. If they tell you that you're losing it, you probably are so listen to them and go see your doctor. Nobody wins if you're miserable.

5. Your hair might fall out. I know. Don't you feel pretty now? So here you are all post partum and doughy and to add insult to injury you might start losing some of your hair. Here you were all excited about your luscious locks while you were pregnant, well, sorry Cinderella but the party is over and the hair fairy wants her glass slippers back. This is one of those wonderful hormone side effects that can come with giving birth. At least there will be less to worry about when pulling your hair up into your new-mom crack-ponytail.

6. Breastfeeding might be difficult. If you choose to breastfeed your baby, be prepared for a little bit of work. Not everybody has a smooth ride (me included) and it can be anything the soft, bonding vignettes they plaster all over "Breast is Best" pamphlets. The good news is once you're over the hump it's pretty maintenance free and you can never forget your baby's lunch on the counter. If you have an easy time of it, awesome! Don't brag though, you're liable to be beaten to death with Bugaboo strollers by hormonal mothers in the park.

7. You might hate your husband. I have two theories of nature. One, babies look like their fathers when they are born so the father is reassured that the baby is his and won't take off. Two, nature takes care of you not conceiving right after giving birth by making you want to punch in his face every time you see him. Again, it's probably hormone related. Again, this isn't always the case but I'm just warning you that you might stare at his peaceful sleeping face at 2am and wonder what the hell the point of him is and how can that son of a ***** just lie there sleeping like while you try to get your baby to sleep for the umpteenth time. You're not alone and a jury full of mothers with newborns wouldn't convict you if you bludgeoned him to death with a breast pump. That said, he may be worth keeping around so take a deep breath and ignore the urge......for now.

8. You might be hot. No, not good hot. Gross, sweaty, fat man hot. Thank your hormones. Once again they may be to blame for giving you hot flashes and making feel like a high-noon hoe. Nothing says sexy like a woman with 20lbs of extra baby weight, who's losing her hair and walking around like she just ran for a bus. I'm adding that to my theory of nature's birth control along with number 7.

9. Hard boobs. You know those crazy porn boobs you see on some women that are just gigantic and don't move? No? Well, try skipping a feeding while you're nursing and you'll have a pretty good idea what that's like. It sounds cool but it isn't so don't add stripper heels to your registry....well, not for this reason anyway.

10. Pooing is scary. I saved the best for last, non? No matter what exit your baby used, your BM equipment is close by and you'll have to use it eventually. I think the phrase "tentative terror" best sums up this act and may I suggest picking out extra names because you're going to want to name your first poop after you take such tender care bringing into the world. Gross? Sorry. Fact? Yep

Happy Birthing!!!!!
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January 9th, 2013, 10:47 AM
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HAHA! This is great & soooooooo true!!
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January 9th, 2013, 10:48 AM
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i swear there should be a book called "what to really expect after the baby comes"
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January 9th, 2013, 10:49 AM
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Makes me laugh every time I read it...so true!!!
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January 9th, 2013, 11:02 AM
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Very true! lol.

Although, I'm not so sure that I would actually WANT to hear this before hand.
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January 9th, 2013, 11:09 AM
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I think we covered most of these in our DDC days
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January 9th, 2013, 11:37 AM
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Love the poop one. I remember being terrified to take a #2 with a second degree tear. Haha
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January 9th, 2013, 12:08 PM
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Love it!
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January 9th, 2013, 12:42 PM
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Ugh yes, the sweating. Seriously, no-one told me I would wake up drenched for weeks.
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January 9th, 2013, 04:45 PM
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Very funny although she left off how those crazy porn boobs can turn into pancake in just a matter of minute
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January 9th, 2013, 07:14 PM
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Very funny although she left off how those crazy porn boobs can turn into pancake in just a matter of minute
It's totally noticable too if you just fed off of one side. You have very lopsided boobs. One's perky and the other flat. lol.
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January 9th, 2013, 08:24 PM
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I didnt have any of these problems lol except the breast feeding but it wasnt hard just too much workfor me to go to school and work.
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It's totally noticable too if you just fed off of one side. You have very lopsided boobs. One's perky and the other flat. lol.

Ha so true.
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January 9th, 2013, 10:30 PM
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I agree with every bit of it ESPECIALLY the POOP!!!
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January 9th, 2013, 10:53 PM
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o m g...i was so relieved to go number 2!!!

yashobo sooooooo true about the boobs!! hence why i really want to get mine done!
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