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Well, ladies, it's back to work for me on Monday, full time. I'm somewhat devastated but also looking forward to getting back to it. I'd prefer to work part time, I think that would be a good life balance for me, not too much of one or the other (I obviously need to get out at least part time). I found a nanny I love and she's been babysitting for us -- I've met her mom and everything -- so I feel confident/comfortable leaving my girl although I think it will be wildly painful to do so. I'm worried about a lot of stuff, but financially I need to go back for us. I'll still be on JM and now I'm on the FB group.
Work has been ok for me. I really think that it helped my mental state to get back to my normal routine. It also helps that my mom is the one watching Madalyn. I'd also love to work part time, but financially it's just not possible for us.
I am loving been back at work. I find that I actually have more patience for my kids (particularly dd1) now that I am not with her 24/7. I hate the commuting part since I work downtown and it's an hour commute. DH also works downtown and we go together on the 2 days that dd1 does not go to school so its made some time for us. Mentally its been a great thing for me; it took like a week for my brain to "reconnect" with work but it is going well. It has helped that my kids are with my mom; when she leaves at the end of May and Luyando goes to daycare I will re-evaluate how I feel. DD1 started daycare at age 1 because my mom took care of her until then so I sort of wish Luyando could stay at home till age 1 too. Oh well,...Enjoy your time back at work; the first few days may be tough emotionally but it does get better, particularly as you trust your baby's carer more and more.
I hope your first day back goes well! That is great that you found a nanny that you feel comfortable with! I have been working part time since the beginning of January. The professional side of me loves my time at work, because I am actually doing something I am passionate about. However, the Mommy part of me just wishes I could be home ALL the time! I don't think I could do it unless I had my Mom watching the kids on the mornings I work, and DH watching them in the evenings when i work. I feel like I have the best of both worlds.
Turns out I start Tuesday rather than Monday, so it's nice to have one day. Thanks for all your words of encouragement, especially some of you feeling better because you went to work (staying sane!) I think it will be good for me too once I get through the rough part emotionally. I'm a little worried because I feel like my brain isn't working as well as it used to, I forget things, and my husband will try to explain stuff to me and I don't get it even though it's simple. So who knows what will happen once I get to work!
Since I don't have to go to work tomorrow the nanny is spending the day with us which is nice -- for her to get acclimated and for me to get a little free time to get some things done. I'm jealous of all of you whose moms are helping -- my mom passed away last April (almost one year, unbelievable) and I'd give anything for her to be here.