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How do you decide who to pursue friendships with? Do you think age makes any difference with who you decide to be friendly with? If not, at what point did things change?
To me, having children was the changing point for me and now I don't really care how old people are, if they are mothers then I am interested in being buddies. I feel like life experience is more important than a number.
Ditto, Kristen. I have the most in common with other Moms, no matter what their age.
Most of my friends are other military wives or are in the military themselves...it is a lifestyle with its own unique challenges and it is nice to have friends who understand deployments and the frequent moves.
Melissa - Mama of IVF babies Claire (3), George (1), and Abigail (1)
I don't age discriminate with my friends. I have noticed, however, that my "friends" that are a few years younger than me have little to no interest in me now that I'm married and have a child. No effort at all, even when I reach out. That doesn't mean it's just because of their age, but I think being in different places in life has a lot to do with it.
I think a lot of them also judge me because we got pregnant a few weeks before the wedding and got married so quick. They act like perfect Christians when I could call them out on stuff I know about them, but I don't. Me and God take care of me, they don't need to worry about me.
I've always had friends of different ages and now that remains true. I am also finding that I have more in common with other moms now but I think that's to be expected. I feel lucky that a few if my good friends who don't have kids enjoy being around Sean so it doesn't affect my relationship with them.
I'm naturally more inclined to older people as friends. I've always had friends that were a few years older than me, and a few that were my actual age. I didn't feel like I related all that well with my generation. Especially now that I'm a mom, I'm careful who I let in my life, because "Teens" my age obviously have different priorities than me. Of course I've come across other young mothers my age, so I lean more towards them simply because they understand my lifestyle. I still see my friends but they are a little distant since I'm a mom and engaged, they understand my life is different now.
Gia - young mommy to a beautiful princess and wife to one amazing man.
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I would say age does not matter but I lean towards making friends with other moms. Like Melissa, most of my friends are other military wives. We have a lot in common. All of our husbands deploy at the same time so it's a very good support system we have going.
Age isn't as big a factor as common life experiences for me. The people I spend most of my time with range in age from late 20's to early 40's, but all are parents of young children. My closest friends are within a five year range of me, all friends from college.
I'm like Gia; I've always had older friends since I didn't fit in well with people my age. I was never interested in drinking and partying so that made me "uncool".
I really don't care as far as age goes; I look more for common views on issues that are important and dear to me.
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I have friends of all ages, but the people I spend most of my time with, understandably, either live very nearby (neighbours) or have children my kids' ages. That is 100% because we are in similar places in our lives, and no other reason.