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I am planning on telling my kids this weekend & I am a nervous wreck about it... I don't know why, but I am so nervous about telling them. I just don't want them to think I am ruining their lives by having a baby - especially my daughter; she is very dramatic sometimes.
I know they are going to have to accept it because it's not changing, but how do I broach the subject???? I mean they know I'm not with the baby's father any longer- I'm also going to be needing them to do a lot more around the house because I definitely don't want to end up on bed rest in the hospital... *SIGH*
There are some good things about them being older, but telling them is something I'm not looking forward to...
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I'm sorry I don't have any advice, because I don't have any other children... but I really hope that they embrace the idea, and are really supportive of you! (((hugs))) Good luck breaking the news!
I wish I had advice, but that's a tough one. I guess you could say their little brother or sister is going to love them and look up to them. Maybe they will be excited about it!
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Sorry don't have any advice but hope all goes well but if they're the children you raised them to be everything will be fine and they should be excited!!! Fingers crossed everything goes well! Update us on how it goes.
I really don't have advice from a parenting standpoint. But, I was 15 years old when my dad and stepmom got pregnant with my youngest sibling. I was pissed. I got over it pretty quickly, especially when we found out the gender, I saw the growing belly, felt her move. And when she was born, I had completely forgotten I was ever mad. So, I don't know how old your kids are, but I'd just explain to them that you know this is something that will have a big impact on their lives, but it's not a bad thing. If they feel upset at all, let them know it's okay, and to take the time they need to be upset, but that they will get over it. Tell them that you are 100% open to any discussions they'd like to have with you about how they are feeling. And make sure they know that happy or not, you will need their help because too much stress on you could cause health problems. And obviously, make sure they know that none of this changes the way you feel about them, that you love them just as much as ever, and that won't change no matter what.
Good luck!! It might be rough, but it won't last. I do hope, though, that they are both welcoming of the news!!
I'm in a similar situation. I dread telling my 8 year old. She has been vocal about how much she likes being an only child. And to make matters worse this baby will be her half sibling. Adrianne's advice was great and I'll use some of that. Also I believe that babies choose their families before they come to them. I plan on telling my daughter this baby chose you to be the big sister and needs your love and support.. I hope it works..
I'm going to try to hold off til summer....
Molly - I hope you are able to hold out telling till the summer... I am already showing & the kids will know what that means- also, I'm getting the cerclage done and will need their help.
Good luck! I hope she takes it better than you think she will!
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I hope they take it well and are excited for your family to grow. But if their not just give them some time to process how they feel. I know they will come around, but it may take a little time. Also be willing to answer any questions they have if you can, and if they question things that you may not have the answers to yet explain that and let them know that you will keep them in the loop as you figure things out.
How old are they? My 6 year old celebrated, he was so cute about it! My 3 year old is just mad that I can't hold him everywhere we go.....MY 9 year old on the other hand, cried....tears were flowing! She was bawling, I felt terrible! She said she had no idea why she was crying, she just knew she couldn't stop. That was when I was 7 weeks, my mom actually was the one that slipped. Now DD is much better and asks all the time if she can tell her class, so it seems like after her cry fest she is now super excited! Hope it goes well!! KUP!
Oh my! Teenagers!!! Eeep! I have no advice! I'm so sorry. Let me know how it goes though and if there is anything I can do. Even if it's just talk. I'm afraid of teenagers. Deathly afraid. Like Adrienne said though, it sounded like she was in the know.
Oh my! Teenagers!!! Eeep! I have no advice! I'm so sorry. Let me know how it goes though and if there is anything I can do. Even if it's just talk. I'm afraid of teenagers. Deathly afraid. Like Adrienne said though, it sounded like she was in the know.
Oh thinking of you in this emotional time <3
that is my big problem - teenagers! Sometimes they are so mellow and understanding & others they are crazy - I think they are more hormonal than us preggos!!!
Adrienne did give some good insight! I think I'll just take it one day at a time with them and try to not interrupt their lives as much as I can.
Thanks again ladies! I will have an update for you tomorrow morning-
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Well... their reactions were not exactly what I envisioned... They were definitely not mad, but they didn't seem too excited either. The thing my daughter was most concerned about was whether what happened to Daniel would happen to this baby too - the only thing I could say is that I'm praying it doesn't and told her what the plan was for the cerclage. She also said that she's happy because since they will be leaving me soon, I will have someone to be with me - I can't even express how that made me feel... my babies are growing up My sister told me that they probably are just worried and scared and won't get excited until they know the baby is going to be ok - I pray every night he/she will be, so I guess it's in God's hands...
The only thing that they seemed to care about was that it be a boy I'm right there with them, but I guess they will be sorely disappointed if it's a girl. They were both also very adamant that the baby not go in their rooms!! That is too funny - I explained to them that by the time the baby is 5, my son will be 22 & my daughter 19 - then they laughed & I started crying because I can't even believe they are going to be those ages - where did the time go???
I guess it went better than I expected, but not as good as I hoped. We shall see if they start getting excited the further along I get...
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that is my big problem - teenagers! Sometimes they are so mellow and understanding & others they are crazy - I think they are more hormonal than us preggos!!! 
My sister told me that they probably are just worried and scared and won't get excited until they know the baby is going to be ok - I pray every night he/she will be, so I guess it's in God's hands...
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