[NewGurl]

so me and the BF opted out of *I forgot the name* but its a trisomy testing because we decided It wouldn't make a difference. But mostly that we didn't like the way it was really testing possibility then we may go through a bunch of other tests and be all worried and in the end we wouldn't be able to fix it anyway so whats the point. and I never really thought about it again.

so the other day I realized hes been watching shows about people with disability like tourettes and autism I was like why are you watching that all of a sudden and he said "so I know what to expect just in case". I was totally shocked I had never even thought about that. Its like iv been stressing over things like blankets and hopeing baby stays inside tell its all done cooking but I never really thought about something like that happening. I mean I know it does Im not stupid but it never really occurred to me to prepare for that possibility I guess. except now that it has I dont know what to do.

Im already stressing about stupid things so I dont want to drive myself crazy thats part of the reason we opted out of the testing to start with. But I also dont want to be all like well thats just something Ill never have to deal with because what if I do. whats the norm here I mean is this like a worry about it if it comes up thing or do most people do some kind of prep work?

[-Brandy-]

Honestly, (not speaking from experience here) but my take on it is that you can never really prepare for the unknown. Maybe I am just being naive but IF something is wrong with my baby I will learn as I go. I choose to enjoy my pregnancy, and will deal with the necessary items when necessary.

Completely just my take on it though!

[Leanne78]

I'm with Brandy. I say enjoy your pregnancy and don't try to prepare yourself for every condition or disability your child could/probably won't have. It will just stress you out. Take it a day at a time.

[~Tanya~]

There is no way to prepare for every possibility... Like the others have said enjoy your pregnancy!

[Belita]

I agree with the other. Working with kids makes me very aware of things that can come up after birth even if you pass the genetic testing with flying colors. Heck, we could all die tomorrow. I'm trying to take it one day at a time and just enjoy.

[RootBudSkyTree]

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[meddleman]

There are a million possibilities of what could go wrong. And a million more once they are here. There is no way to prepare and you can't live life in the "what ifs"

My husband has a brother who is severely mentally and physically handicapped (his mental capacity is that of a 2 year old, can't talk, he can walk but limps, etc) and my in-laws have taken sole care of him since he was born. He just turned 40years old and wasn't supposed to live more than a few weeks. If something happens, you just do what needs to be done. Nothing could have prepared them for the last 40 years even if they had done a test.

The best thing to do is relax and trust that you are never given more than you can handle!

[kristap4]

I have to agree with the others.. There is nothing you can do to prepare for every little thing. Just like if your child is born with a disability or handicap or disease, its not anything you did wrong. I have a mentally handicap brother, who wasn't supposed to live past the age of 3 and he turned 45 last month. My parents learned as they went along and I think a lot of the time, your instincts kick in and you just know for the most part what to do and how to best care for you baby..

[Sam914]

I agree you really cant stress about it.. i had the testing with my ds and everything was a low as can be and i was feeling great, then, low and behold, he was born at 25 weeks which is something i could have never prepared for! Overall he's doing well health wise but hes got some big delays (hes almost 2.5 and just now almost talking for example)... but i wouldnt change him for the world! I am very worried about at least getting this baby to 25 weeks but i know even if by some miracle i could get to be full term something else could happen so theres really no point to worry about it for me until something comes up

[Country928]

I only did the first round of testing, I have opted out of everything else. I know my chances of having another special needs baby. You learn as you go. Enjoy being pregnant and dont worry.