[May14th2011]

Worried about miscarriage? I'm so scared about it, I'm driving myself crazy. I want to just not be worried, but I can't seem to not be.

Anyone have any tips or thoughts? I know that if it's going to happen, it will happen, no matter what I do or say and that helps a bit.

TIA!

[crystalcherry]

It's always in the back of my mind even with 3 successful deliveries my losses are still a reminder that things can happen. Sometimes I think the internet (Google) is the worst thing ever. I try to keep positive thoughts through the day.

[Tammyms]

I'm definitely worried about it, I've had one chemical pregnancy and 1 miscarriage at 6 weeks 6 days... my lines showed nice and early this time and much stronger so I do feel better about this pregnancy, but it's still in the back of my head. I have a lot of symptoms which I didn't last time and I'm trying hard to just be positive but it's easier said than done, this would be my 1st so I don't know what's good or bad!

[gardenbelle]

I'm worried and I try to think about how I will be totally ok if this is another miscarriage (I've had three). I know that sounds weird, but if I think about how I'll be fine either way, it keeps me from obsessing and making me anxious. This week is especially hard for me because I've lost one at 8 weeks which will be tomorrow.

[BeckyBozeman]

I worry about it of course.... I had two miscarriages last year. I suppose that I'm feeling a little fatalistic about it - if the baby is supposed to hang around they will. And I may not be letting myself get completely attached yet...

But mostly I'm thinking of it as an introduction to parenting... that's just worry all the time right? So I might as well get used to it!

[taatie10]

DH & I are both nervous since I had a m/c last time. But I admit while I am concerned but not the neurotic lunatic I thought I would be because I have a good feeling about this pregnancy, if that makes any sense.
DH on the other hand I think is trying to stay emotionally unattached to the pregnancy until we hear the heartbeat and things progress because he is scared of m/c happening again. But he is coming around which is nice because last pregnancy it took him a month to accept the whole idea (its was a BC oops).

[Crystallee]

I am definitely worried. I have had 3 early early chemical pregnancies that had significant early spotting/bleeding. I am optimistic this round because I have good lines, good betas, good symptoms, and no spotting so my fingers are crossed.

[Blue_fire]

Becky I too had 2 losses last year. I feel the exact same. I'm glad we get to hang in this group for a while!

[dibbers]

I think everyone is worried, more so if you have lost one previously.
I lost my last at 4wks 3 days so Im glad to be a tiny bit further along this time and every day is a bonus.
I have mentally prepared myself for it to happen again but trying to stay positive at the same time.... jeeze this baby making business is hard!!!

[talscot]

It is in the back of my head. I look at it as it is what it is. I can't change anything and I have 3 beautiful boys so whatever happens happens.

[cadencesmommy07]

I honestly try not to think about it.. I've had two healthy pregnancies which i know doesn't happen for everyone. I think wasting my time stressing about it isn't going to help at all

[Mando5]

I'm worried but trying not to obsess. I have four kids to distract me though.

[M_Mama]

I am worried. Two miscarriages last year has me on super alert. Especially with my very mild symptoms. Staying busy helps because life does go on with 4 other children.

[Super - Mommy]

I don't really think about it. I've had three healthy pregnancies this far and feel blessed. I will feel better once out of the first trimester, but I do not often think/worry about miscarriage.

[Cassie.S]

Of course there is a worry there in the back of my mind, but since there's nothing I can do about it, I try not to think about it much. But this is also my first pregnancy, so since I've never experienced a loss yet, that's probably easier for me to say. I'm sure if I'd gone through a miscarriage before the worry would be a lot stronger.

[BabyBird]

The first trimester especially is scary regardless of previous losses. Some people are more easily distracted from constantly worrying though. I have had 3 losses and 2 healthy babies after the losses but I am still terrified of another loss. Once I see baby and heartbeat at 8w I will feel much better and be able to really prepare myself that it will actually happen. My girls keep me busy now though so I don't constantly think about it.

[Blcooper32]

I had one loss before my dd so the thought is always there but my worry this time is the fact the dr told me that sometimes with twins one won't make it through the first 12 weeks so I'm afraid of going in and one of them not being there but I have a one year old to help keep me busy