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March 21st, 2011, 02:26 PM
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Would you ever consider being a surrogate for someone?
Would you ever consider surrogacy as a way to have a child?


How do you feel about adoption?
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March 21st, 2011, 02:35 PM
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Right now, no. But I have said I would for my sis when I was younger and single(when she and her DH were discussing having kids and the what ifs).

No, Id not do surrogacy as a means to have a child.

Adoption rocks, imho, I just wish it wasnt so expensive. There are so many families and children who would benefit from adoption if only the "prices" were a bit more reasonable.

I would have adopted had I not been able to have my own kids or if I was younger and wanted more kids Id consider it. Not anymore though, our family is complete.
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March 21st, 2011, 03:25 PM
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I don't think I could do surrogacy either way. If I carried someone elses child I would get attached to it and I would have a hard time knowing someone could do something an permantly damage my child before birth.

As for adoption I wish it was not so expensive to adopt. I understand they want to check that the family is financially secure to adopt but do you think it is necessary to take that from a family when that money could be used to buy the child clothes and furniture.
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March 21st, 2011, 04:32 PM
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I think surrogacy is a beautiful gift and if I didn't get sick 24/7 for 3mo I might consider it. As it is, if I'm going to be that sick for that long (then go through the rest of pregnancy, L&D, etc.) I want it to be for a baby I keep.

Adoption: Dh and I met with an adoption agency after #7 and I was so excited...then dh said, "no". I was stunned. He is adopted, he knew it was my dream to adopt someday (especially from Vietnam), but he was firm on this and he never, never says no to me for anything! So we kept having babies instead. My heart still longs to adopt, though.
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March 21st, 2011, 05:38 PM
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Would you ever consider being a surrogate for someone? No-I think it would be too difficult for me to give the child away, even though it's not really mine biologically.

Would you ever consider surrogacy as a way to have a child? I'm not sure. I'd have to consider that the surrogate might feel the same way as I mentioned in the first question.

How do you feel about adoption? I'm not against it at all, but I would only put a child up if I really, really could not take care of him/her and had exhausted all resources to care for the child myself. I don't want more children then the one I have, but if I'd not been able to have her, yeah, I may have considered adopting at some point.
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March 21st, 2011, 07:02 PM
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I love the idea of surrogacy, and would love to be able to be a surrogate, but I know I'd get way too attatched....

As for adoption, I know that *I* couldn't adopt a child out - because of who I am & how attatched I get to a baby from so early on. I would consider adopting a child later on, depending on my relationship situation . I've had a tubal, there is no way I can have another baby (physically I can't, but I know I couldn't do it mentally or emotioanlly either) - but that doesn't mean I don't want another...
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