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  #1  
May 17th, 2007, 12:01 PM
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Sigh. I am having to do CIO with my daughter because in the last week or so, she has become impossible to get to sleep. It is our fault, we screwed up, sleep wise, from the beginning, rocking her to sleep, holding her while she slept, etc. STUPID, STUPID, STUPID. She was having to be rocked to sleep all the time, TEN I started putting her down in her crib and staying with her, holdng her paci, etc, etc, and that was working great for a few weeks. We were so excited. Except she still refused to nap in there. In the last week or so, she just....flips out when sh is sleepy. Screaming, crying, etc, etc, no matter what you do. She goes hysterical, and then is overtired, and blah blah, blah. Last night was a nightmare. She was up, creaming and crying until 2 AM (this was with me rocking her, walking her around, etc. Finally, I had to just put her down....I was so tired I couldn't see straight and was afraid I would drop her. SO I put her in her crib, left, and crashe on the couch. I could hear her crying but I was literally so exhausted I just passed out. I woke up 2 hours later in a panic, ran in her room, and she was asleep....bu I don't know how long she cried.

Today, she was doing the same thing around naptime...just...freaking out, for over and hour. I put her in her room 20 minutes ago out of sheer desperation and she is still in there, carrying on, crying, coughing, etc. It is breaking my heart, I am nearl in tears myself, but I just do not know what else to do.

And I always swore I would not do CIO......this is so hard.

I need some shoulders to lean on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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May 17th, 2007, 12:53 PM
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Well, she finally went to sleep after about a half hour, she has been sleeping for about 40 minutes.

I just hope I can keep it up....it is so hard, and I don't know if I will have the stamina for it in the middle of the night.

Also, it just makes me feel so guilty....will she remember this? hate me for it? Be upset?
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May 17th, 2007, 02:10 PM
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Aww, sorry no one was here for you! I know it can be really tough starting out, but you've got to be strong. As long as you know all her needs are met you have nothing to feel guilty about. You are just trying to teach her to get the rest she needs!

It does get easier, trust me! And no, she will not remember this, she will not hate you for it, NOT AT ALL!!! As soon as she learns to put herself to sleep you will have a happier (because she's well rested!) baby in no time!
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May 17th, 2007, 03:01 PM
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Thanks...I am already dreading her next nap....which is probably coming up, although we may be out running errands....and i am REALLY not looking forward to tonight!!!!!!!

Thanks for the support!

I also have another question....Ella only weighs 13.5 pounds, even though she is 6 months old. (She was a bit preemie and had IUGR) Anyway, she is still eating during the night, I know alot of people stop nighttime feeds around this time, even earlier, but since she is so small, should I continue to allow hers? Or not? How do I go about cutting it out? HELP!!!1 lol
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May 17th, 2007, 04:52 PM
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Yeah, if you are concerned about her weight I would keep the night feeding as long as she still seems really hungry when she wakes in the night. Is she breastfed or on formula? Eating solids? You could check with the FTT/Weight Gain Issues board for some tips on how to sneak in extra calories during the day, so that hopefully she won't need the night feeding as long.

I hope you have an easier night tonight!!
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May 17th, 2007, 06:10 PM
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Thanks...(I'll need it!)...she is formula fed, and eating solids...cereal/fruit/veggie, 2-3 times a day.
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May 17th, 2007, 06:24 PM
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She is gorgeous too, by the way!!
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May 17th, 2007, 07:55 PM
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Thanks!
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May 18th, 2007, 11:57 AM
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Aw im sure it will get better, I'm having to let my daughter CIO at the moment as I've swapped her bed time bottle to a sippy cup, last night it was 20 mins of crying tonight only 20 seconds

She is a beautiful little girl
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May 19th, 2007, 10:13 AM
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Thank you so, SO much for all the support! My DH supports this, but the rest of my family does not...my mother thinks I am scarring her for life and causing permanent damage....so the online support is much needed!!!


A little update...so far so good. The last 2 nights she went down with ZERO crying/fussing, at 9 o clock and slept until about 4!!!!!!!!!! FOUR O CLOCK!!!!!!!! People in you-know-where must be getting pretty chilly for THAT to have happened. She usually gets up 3-4 times a night. At 4 I gave her a bottle (I am not cutting her nighttime feeds because of how small she is), and she went right back down until 8 when we got up. DOn't know where Ella went, but this can't be her! LOL

Naps are a bit harder...for some reason she has more trouble going down in the day, but she still is only fussing about 10-15 minutes and then sleeping for an hour...which is a start. Considering a week ago I had to hold her while she napped and not move, I think this is pretty good!

Cross your fingers it continues to go well.......
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May 19th, 2007, 12:03 PM
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Great progress!! Fingers crossed she keeps it up!
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May 31st, 2007, 06:15 AM
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How is Ella doing now? I hope you're getting some more sleep over there!
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June 2nd, 2007, 03:17 PM
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Thanks for asking!!!!!!!

She is doing great! She now puts herself to sleep in her crib for naps and at bedtime!!!!!!! She does sometimes still have to cry, but I have realized it is not going to kill either of us, LOL.

She does still wake about twice in the night to eat, and because she is a bit small, I have been instructed by her ped to keep giving her those feedings....but she usually goes back down pretty quickly.
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June 3rd, 2007, 01:59 PM
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Fantastic, that's great to hear!
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