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My "home" on JM is the June 2006 PR, But,I thought I'd wonder in here and ask a ? to all you experienced TP mommas!!
I def. did not start out as a TP. I didn't beleive in CIO for one,and I could be wrong,but most TP mommas don't breastfeed right?(Totally clueless here)
Anyways,my little problem is this.
My son is now 13 months old and will NOT go to bed on his own!! Now,I do have to say,that w/our first son, he slept w/us in our bed until he was 17 months old.And I do NOT wanna go down that road again! Carson (my 13 month old) will sleep almost all night in his pack n play in our room,but,we have to put him to sleep,he will not just go in there and lay down and fall asleep. (this goes for nap time too) How do I get him the the same routine as my 3.5 year old? (Just going to bed when it's bed time. In his own room,and his own bed) What types of techniques worked for you?
13 months can be hard to break into bed at that point. it wont be easy, i wont lie to ya!
For me, i started putting my daughter in her crib at 3 months old. And that was the easiest way to
break her from my bed while she was little. Always had a routine, made sure she went to bed at
the same time every night. For a while i had to rock her to sleep and then put her to bed.
When she got closer to a yr old i could just lay her down read a book, turn the lights out and
she would go to sleep on her own. if she woke up in the middle of the night though, it was a struggle
to get her back in there and she would end up in my bed the last 1/2 of the night.
She didnt break that for about 3-4 months, but i eventually got her in her bed all night for good.
It may take some CIO to get him to stay in his own bed in his own room.
The best thing to do is lay him down when hes pretty drowsy and get him to learn how to put hisself to sleep.
If he crys, give him time to comfort hisself and go to sleep before you go in. Try not to talk or make much eye
contact or interaction with him at bedtime after youve put him down. BE CONSISTANT. Try over and over
to get him down. This may take 20 or more times of you going in and getting him calm, laying him back down ..walking out ... repeat....repeat...etc. It will so not be easy. But you CAN do it!!!
Hope that helps some. Im sure there are lots of ppl around here with some good advice. Stick around!
Welcome!!! Glad to have you here!
And I don't believe that is true that most TP mama's don't breasfeed. I think TP mama's are generally more open and accepting of bottle feeding, but breastmilk or formula should not be considered a parenting technique or grouped into any catagory, IMO. Many AP mom's can't nurse and have to turn to formula, but they can still fully practice AP parenting.
Anyways, back to your question!
Getting him to fall asleep on his own would be the first thing I would tackle, and then worry about getting him in his own room later, once better sleep habits have been formed.
What do you do to put him to sleep now, what is the bedtime routine like for naps and bedtime? Are you still against any type of CIO at this age, or only for infants?
Right now.. he pretty much has a bottle at 9,and falls asleep on the couch or in my arms, than I move him into the pack n'play in our room where he sleeps all night. I have,however,tried when he falls asleep to move him to his room in the crib.. he IMEDIATELY wakes up and starts screaming (this kid can scream!) So,none the less,I move him back to the PNP in our room so we all can sleep.
Naptime is pretty much the same thing except he doesn't have a bottle (he only has 1 or 2 at this point) so,pretty much, he gets fussy,I scoop him up and he falls asleep on me,and I lay him down.. Today,however, he did KINDA put himself to sleep for nap time I noticed him getting super sleepy,so,I put him in the PNP,sang him a song,patted his back,and he fell asleep.. slept a long time too!
That's what I would have suggested first, you have to get him to start falling asleep where he will be sleeping. It if has to be the PNP for awhile longer then that's ok, but start putting him in there when he's still awake and you can stay in the room with him if he needs you to. Just be consistent and it should take less and less time for him to fall asleep on his own, and less time that you will have to stay with him until he is asleep. Then you can work on moving to the crib. Good luck and keep us posted!!
First, Congratulations on making some progress. I do have a thought that I think might also help the transition go smoother and that is moving the PNP from your room to the baby's room, so he gets used to sleeping in that environment and then once he is comfortable in there, you can work on moving him to his crib. Also, I put a twin bed in my son's room when he was younger and I slept on that bed alot so that if/when he did wake up, I could quickly get over to him to soothe him back to sleep before he was completely awake.