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Gaby is now 13 1/2 months, and over the past month or so she has developed quite the temper!!! I do not know how to deal with her when she is in the midst of a temper-moment. She squeals and screams and cries and hits (! this early?)...
How does everyone else deal with a temper-y little one?! I guess i just want to have some strategies for dealing with her when she's like this...
As much as possible, I would ignore the temper tantrums. When she starts acting that way either walk away from her to put her in her crib for a cooling off period. It's hard at this age because they have trouble communicating so they get really frustrated. Once you get her calmed down start encouraging her to use her words.
Whatever you do, don't give in to them. The sooner she learns that this behaviour won't get her anything but trouble, the quicker this phase will pass. Good luck!
thanks for the advice.... Now that we're in our own place I guess I can start leaving her to get it out of her system. We were living with my parents & they'd get quite grizzly themselves if i left her to just squeal and scream & realise that I wasn't goign to give her attention.. so in the end i DID give her the attention!
DH and i have the same technique...we put our 16 month old in his crib when he starts throwing a tantrum or attitude. he will learn that we dont want to deal with a child like that and that the fun is elsewhere and not in his crib and when he decides he is done and wants to come eat or play with the rest of us, he will let us know.
other times, i just walk away and keep doing what i was previously doing before the tantrum and just keep ignoring him and not even talking to him. he soon realizes that "hey, mommy isn't talking to me, hugging me, kissing me, or playing with me...i better stop because i want my mommy back"...and he will stop eventually.
most of the time it isn't because of a wet/dirty diaper..it is because he is hungry or he really is tired even for only being up an hour or two.
thanks for the advice.... Now that we're in our own place I guess I can start leaving her to get it out of her system. We were living with my parents & they'd get quite grizzly themselves if i left her to just squeal and scream & realise that I wasn't goign to give her attention.. so in the end i DID give her the attention![/b]
It must have been rough living with the parents! I know I couldn't stand hearing someone else's opinion on my parenting everyday. I'm glad to hear you're on your own now, it must be a nice change! Just be consistent and Gaby will figure it out soon enough.
Ditto the other ladies! I normally just let Marshall do it and ignore him. When it's done, then I let him know why that behavior is not ok and how to handle it better next time, but I found that it ends quicker if you just pretend it's not happening. Good luck, I know it can be trying.