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  #1  
May 24th, 2012, 11:16 AM
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My husband and I are in our 5th month TTC. I feel like we have tried everything. I have charted my BBT, CM, cervix position, taken OPK tests. We have done the baby dance every day for three days before, the day of and the day after. We have tried doing it every day, every other day, me on top, him on top, him behind me (TMI???). I have laid there for hours afterwards and nothing!!!! We don't use lubricants or anything like that.

I am starting to get very worried. I know they say it can take up to a year but I am not sure if I can deal with the let down every month for a year.

Last month I took a pregnancy test on the day of my missed period and I had a faint 2nd line. I went to get a digital test and it said negative. I took another the next morning and it to said negative. I started later that day. Talk about disappointed.

What are we doing wrong???? Does anyone have any suggestions or tips?

I have thrown the basel thermometer in the medicine cabinet and plan to just do "it" this month. At the very least maybe it will cut back on the stress of it all. Maybe????
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June 4th, 2012, 08:23 PM
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It sounds to me like you are doing everything you can. Unfortunately, it can take a while, even when you are doing everything perfect! I think that is one of the most frustrating parts of TTC. I wish our bodies were such that if we did TTC right, we'd get pregnant the first cycle.

If it would make you feel better, some OBs will start running tests (bloodwork, SAs, ultrasounds, etc.) once you hit the 6 month mark, especially if you are sure you are timing BDing right.
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June 6th, 2012, 08:38 AM
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Ditto everything PP said.
The average couple only has a 15% chance of conceiving every month-the odds aren't in our favor. It sounds like you're doing everything within your capability to do, so unfortunately the rest is up to the powers that be. Keep doing what you're doing and you will get there in time.
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June 13th, 2012, 09:00 AM
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Thanks for the motivation. I do have an ob appointment set up for my annual wellness check. It will fall right after the 6 months mark. So at the very least maybe we will get answers.
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June 25th, 2012, 10:27 AM
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My husbad and I were trying to concieve our second child for 5 months. I tried the ovulation monitor, which had worked with my daugther on the first try, I tried ovulation kits and nothing was working. I found that I ovulated very late on a 32-35 day cycle and in addition to that my LP was very short which is what I attributed to me not getting pregnant. After 5 months of all BFN I decided to just stop trying. I was driving myself crazy and I think I was just stressing myself out. Last month I did nothing as far as checking ovulation and just relaxed. I found out last week that we're pregant. I hated when someone would tell me to stop trying and that it would happen when it was supposed to happen because I'm impatient and I didn't want to wait any longer. I really do believe now that if you just stop charting and checking and really have fun with it that it will happen! Good luck!!!!
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June 25th, 2012, 11:58 AM
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My husband and I are in the same boat right now... Everyone keeps telling me it will happen when it happens and relax... I think just relaxing and trying not to think to much about it is all we can do other then going in for your wellness just to be on the safe side. Although it does really make you dread AF. Good thoughts being sent your way your time will come!
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June 28th, 2012, 07:09 PM
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The hubbs and I will begin our TTC journey this cycle. Today marks CD1...I am super excited to have found JM, you all are so supportive and wonderful to each other! I don't really have anything to add to this post other than warm fuzzy feelings about this site and the women here...and of course best wishes and tons of prayer that we all reach our common goal!
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October 25th, 2012, 10:45 AM
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My husband and I are going through the same thing. I chart all my cycles and use ovulation tests but it just hasnt worked the past 5 months. Yesterday I went to the doctor and it really helped me feel more relaxed. I don't know what your cycles are like but mine are about 32-34 days and the dr told me that sometimes the longer your cycle is the less likely you are to ovulate even if you get the LH surge. I will be starting clomid this cycle and it is supposed to stimulate ovulation. They are also running tests to make sure that everything with my uterus and tubes are like they should be. Personally that dr's appt was worth every penny to me and it might be worth it to you as well. Good luck TTC!
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October 25th, 2012, 04:13 PM
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Hello All!
I have a kind of long back story so I hope this isn't too boring. I am 26 and I have been married for over a year. Last year I found out that I had a blood clot in my left calf caused by being on birth control. Since that time I have been on and off blood thinners and consulted with multiple multiple doctors. We received to go ahead to try for a baby and this is the second month we have been trying and I am so afraid that we will be infertile. I am over weight so I heard that makes it difficult but I was always very regular up until about 3 months ago. I still get my period I just never really know when which is why I started using an ovulation meter each month. I did everything right and when we should have (or at least I think). My last period was 9/17, this month I ovulated on 10/10 and to date I haven't had a period but took a test today and it was negative. I hate that feeling! Oh and to top it off I found out last week I have another blood clot in my leg. Again was doing everything right, staying active, taking my blood thinners etc. It is still safe for me to try to conceive I just have to do injections of blood thinners every day. I know I have a lot going on but I want a baby so bad and I am really starting to worry something is wrong. Any advice?
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December 17th, 2013, 12:14 PM
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I've been ttc 5 months and I stopped ovulating so my dr is doing as testing and blood tests . At least it puts us at ease
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February 1st, 2014, 03:59 AM
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Hi every1, TTC first cycle CD1( I hope I have all abb right lol) I can say from experience when I took meds an had charts etc it didn't work for us whenn ttc #2 it took 3yrs dr had no medical reason why we couldn't conceive...it literally happened when we stopped "trying"... I didn't even know I was pregos till I was 2 week late didn't even cross my mind as I had far too many BFN and lotsa tears to go with it. Saying that though I find myself still a little anxious now as we ttc now but finding this forum has been such a bonus for me I know it will be making this journey easier and even more special as I get to share in every1 special times
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July 24th, 2015, 10:47 PM
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We have also been trying for a few months and feeling the same as you, really start to get worried. I went to see an ob about two weeks ago as I was concerned about the fact that my cycles are much shorter than they used to be and I spot for a long time before they start. She just brushed all my concerns off and said it wasn't a problem. I was not happy with my appointment at all and left feeling worse than when I arrived. I made an appointment with another doctor for a second opinion and my word am I glad I did! She said there is no ways I will fall pregnant with my cycles the way they are and she is convinced my hormone levels are not correct. She immediately did my day 21 blood work and I will hopefully be getting the results today. She said she is certain I will need to go on clomid straight away and then things should be alright. So basically if you are worried don't leave it, ask for answers and keep looking until you find someone who will actually listen!
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September 9th, 2015, 12:14 PM
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hay my husband and i have been ttc for over 5 months i have an great app ovia that tracks everything and tells me when im ovulating we have tryed everything and are taking pre natal vitamins all right foods everything we can possibly do every month i think its going to be the month then i come on my period its really braking me now the disapointment every time it comes back negative just dont know what to do people keep telling me not to try but they had no problems they just got pregant anyone have any addvice to help us as its becomeing upsetting and stressing each month
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May 13th, 2016, 06:10 PM
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I am in the same boat. I know some of these posts are older, but I can only assume/hope others are currently feeling the same way I am. I am 28, and I am trying for my first child. I have been trying for about 5 months. I have more recently started taking fertility vitamins (OTC) and trying to track CM and BBT. I am not so good with remembering the BBT since I work partially from home and I sometimes have to jump out of bed for a phone call. Otherwise, I have been trying to figure out how all of my friends got "accidentally" pregnant and here I am with all the effort and no baby. My fiance has had a recent surgery, so we know his sperm is perfect (sorry for the TMI), as a matter of a fact, he told him that he needs to be careful if hes not trying.... Boy do I feel worthless. My OBGYN was really unsupportive. It was like, ok, things look fine, good luck and pay the lady on your way out.... I am never late more than 2 days and twice in 5 months I have been 5 days and now this month 7 days late. Its like a cruel joke. I dont want to stress over it, but I worry I was on Depo for so long that I may not be fertile. I get even momre worried that I am approaching 30 fast, and I want more than one. My man wants a baby so bad, I know it breaks his heart just as much as mine, but hes truly been my rock, he has such a positive attitude. I dont know where else to turn. my mother was a "fertile myrtle" as she put it, and my brother "crawled accross the bed" and she says not to worry, but I cant help but worry. Anyone else have some success stories for a stressed out Wanna-be mom?
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June 20th, 2016, 06:00 AM
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This is month 5 for us as well. We're both 32 and ttc # 1 *sigh* . I feel like it happened so quickly for friends and family around us who weren't trying. I use opks and log my info into my app. I know I've pretty much gotten my window and timing correct. Went to my doc 6 months ago who told me to start on prenatals and did bloodwork. I was told I was healthy and within a good weight range. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
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December 2nd, 2016, 06:55 PM
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I just wanted you to know that I'm in almost the exact same boat. I'm 28 and my fiancé is 31. We are on month 5 and my doctor pretty much said the same as yours. Getting discouraged, as all my friends are trying for baby 2 or 3. How's your ttc journey going?

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I am in the same boat. I know some of these posts are older, but I can only assume/hope others are currently feeling the same way I am. I am 28, and I am trying for my first child. I have been trying for about 5 months. I have more recently started taking fertility vitamins (OTC) and trying to track CM and BBT. I am not so good with remembering the BBT since I work partially from home and I sometimes have to jump out of bed for a phone call. Otherwise, I have been trying to figure out how all of my friends got "accidentally" pregnant and here I am with all the effort and no baby. My fiance has had a recent surgery, so we know his sperm is perfect (sorry for the TMI), as a matter of a fact, he told him that he needs to be careful if hes not trying.... Boy do I feel worthless. My OBGYN was really unsupportive. It was like, ok, things look fine, good luck and pay the lady on your way out.... I am never late more than 2 days and twice in 5 months I have been 5 days and now this month 7 days late. Its like a cruel joke. I dont want to stress over it, but I worry I was on Depo for so long that I may not be fertile. I get even momre worried that I am approaching 30 fast, and I want more than one. My man wants a baby so bad, I know it breaks his heart just as much as mine, but hes truly been my rock, he has such a positive attitude. I dont know where else to turn. my mother was a "fertile myrtle" as she put it, and my brother "crawled accross the bed" and she says not to worry, but I cant help but worry. Anyone else have some success stories for a stressed out Wanna-be mom?
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March 19th, 2017, 02:34 PM
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August 18th, 2017, 10:30 PM
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First of all, I want to sayyou to handle this difficult situation with positive attitude and positiveaffirmation. I am feeling sorry for your failure \conceive. You need not panicabout this horrible situation. You can handle this difficult situation in yourlife with my personal life experience to handle same problem like you just 2year ago. Now I am happy and healthy to enjoy baby gift in my life. I hope youalso enjoy and joy your life with brightness to become complete mother in yourlife. We also try each and every factor method like you but not succeed. I canunderstand your physical and mental stage at this time. It is the mostimportant thing to make proper bonding with your husband to understand eachother feeling and emotion in professional way. We consult with many popular gynecologistsof Kiev to conceive effectively. I want to suggest some easy and easy tips andtricks to conceive effectively that fulfill your life with baby.
You can start your planningto conceive effectively from first day. You should follow these tips and tricksvery strictly to get maximum benefit in limited time period. I sincerely followall tips just 2 month and got good news in my life. I hope you can achieve sametarget like me. You have to check up you and your husband status ofinfertility. You have to live Healthy lifestyle that enhance your husband spermcount and your eggs quality that create Win-Win situation for both of you. You shoulduse balanced diet that is necessary to maintain your body hormone level in balance.You should use rich iron food in your daily life to enhance hemoglobin in yourblood to conceive effectively.
I hope to hear good news soon.
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August 23rd, 2017, 07:28 AM
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So I'm on 5months ttc 7months off BC, I think we're doing everything right, however I just booked a doc appt cuz I've had cramping the last 3 cycles throughout the whole cycle. It's heart breaking cuz almost all my friends are getting pregnant and I'm so happy for them but apparently my sadness about my own situation is affecting others wondering any tips and tricks to keep positive while ttc?
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August 23rd, 2017, 08:23 AM
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I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time. With my son it took 6 months of NTNP before we conceived and then with this baby it took 7 months and I was using a fertility monitor too. Doctors say it can take even a healthy couple a year to conceive. My friend it took her maybe 14 months to conceive her second child.

The doctor can help and maybe perform an ultrasound to help determine if there is anything hindering conception. Good luck!
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