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I know this is several months late but I just joined the site.
Jayci was born at 34 weeks. I was diagnosed with Pre-E at 28 weeks and was in and out of the hospital for a few weeks before getting put in till the end of the pregnancy. I was on hospital bedrest for about a month before she came. I was having ultrasounds every 2-3 days because my fluid levels kept fluctiating between 11 & 7. When we checked it on October 25th my fluid level was a 3 so my doctor decided to do an emergency C-section. 2 hours later, when she was delivered, I had no fluid left at all. She weighed 4 lbs 14 ozs and was 19 inches long.
After the birth, Jayci was put on oxygen as a precautionary measure but after 20 minutes she was taken off. She had to spend time in the warmer several times a day but as long as she stayed swaddled she stayed pretty warm. We tried breastfeeding but she had no sucking reflex so they fed her through a syringe and worked with her with a pacifier. She learned to suck but she still wouldn't latch on to the breast so I pumped and we fed her with a bottle.
Unlike most moms, I did not feel an immediate attachment to my baby. My mom made me feel like a horrible person for it, but I think it was just the shock. It took about a week, but until then, she just didn't feel like my baby. I still felt pregnant. I wasn't expecting her that early. My doctor, even though I was in the hospital, had every intention of holding off as long as possible. We weren't expecting her for another month.
But after we got home (4 days after delivery) and DH went back to work, I was able to form a bond with her, just me and her. Now I dont' think it's possible for me to love her more than I do now.