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I honestly think my mother is against me breastfeeding. I know my BBs don't look like they will hold up, but I really want to give it a good try. It will save hundreds in money and I am totally for the benefits the milk will provide the baby. I asked her opinions and advice, etc. and the first thing she says is, "your BBs will hurt, do you want that?" "How will you go out and about?" My jaw dropped. I know she didn't breastfeed my brother and I but it seems like she is WAYYYY out of the loop. I don't think I will be confiding in her anymore about this topic and honestly dread the day when I whip one out to feed the baby around her...haha
Last edited by WENDYLL22; August 4th, 2012 at 10:22 AM.
My mom didn't bf either and I think out of all her kids I am the only one who did. I mean, granted, my siblings are all brothers, LOL, but I mean my SIL's, too. She was the same way at first, really weird about it and kind of like "eww, why would you want to do that!?" but she has really come around a lot since my first child was born. She's changed her thinking on a lot of issues thanks to me
I will be the first to breasted in my family too. My mom didn't but luckily she supports it just feels bad that she can't offer any real guidance. I actually probably feel weirder about it than than anyone else but I just remember that it is natural and there are great options out there to keep it discrete. I'm sure ill get used to it, it's just all very new to me!
Oh, when I was pregnant with my son, I felt VERY weird about the idea. I remember talking to my husband about it and telling him I just didn't think it was for me. I was so on the fence about it.
Nowadays I am very pro-bfing and it's one of the things I am so greatly looking forward to with this newest little one. It's an awesome thing! I didn't get to bf my son because he was in the NICU for a week and they give bottles of course, so he wanted nothing to do with my boob when he got home, lol. I pumped for him for 9 months, though.
Anyway, my point is that it's ok to feel a little weird about it and unsure, but once you get the hang of it is truly amazing!
I'm surprised about the going out comment, since most moms I know who've done both with different kids (depending on circumstances) have said BFing is SO much easier for going out because you don't have to take/prepare bottles. And if they both BF and pump (which some people do successfully), then other people can feed the baby, too, say, in the middle of the night when it's someone else's turn?
Anyway, point is, from a convenience point of view, it sounds like overall BFing is more convenient, even if you just do it the first 6 to 8 weeks.
I hope that in time your mom becomes more supportive and understanding of your decision... and has a less open opinion about your boobs.
Well, that's frustrating. I can tell you from my experience, I did have pain at first that went away when we learned how to latch well, and going out was never a big deal. You either cover or you don't care, and either way it's fine I traveled with Quinn when she was 2 months old and I hardly had to bring anything for her! She slept at my breast the whole ride and we never had to deal with bottles or formula or any of that.
Moms tend to blurt things out without thinking..I breastfed my last two kids and it is uncomfortable at first if the baby isn't latching right but when you are in the hospital have the lactation consultant come in ASAP and show you the ropes. It really helped me to have some support. And the size of your boobs don't matter at all. They were made for that purpose and I am sure you will do great..
Eh, my mother STILL thinks it's odd...even after watching me nurse three out of the four children. She just doesn't get it. She has no idea of the health benefits. But this is also the women who didn't even consider quitting smoking after her grandson almost died and had to be rushed two hours away to a NICU for three weeks and not being able to hold him for several months. She's just like that though. My grandmother breastfed most of her children, even my mother, but none of her children did more than try it once. Out of all my cousins (and I have SEVERAL), only one or two nursed.
It CAN be hard. Some babies just don't get the whole latching on thing but after some practice and trying some different positions/techniques it can be done. Sure, it hurts at first but after the initial tendernes is gone you should be fine.
I should also add...when I told my mother about my new full time position she rolled her eyes after she asked if I was just going to formula feed, I told her no, I will be pumping at work and while she is at the sitters! She thinks I'm just crazy.