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Ok so here is my dilemma. I found out at 7 weeks that I am O negative and since I didn't know what my DH was, they ordered the RH shot for me to take at 28 weeks and then after labor so that if the baby is O positive the bloods don't mix and all that jazz. They ordered it early so that in case I started spotting early, they could administer immediately.
Fast forward to my 12 week apt and I have found out that my DH is also O negative (sent him to red cross to give blood) and my in-laws are O negative and my SIL is O negative so we are one big negative family! I go to an office with rotating OB's and that OB said no need for the shot then.
BUT the shot came in and I got a ridiculous bill for it despite having awesome health insurance. (apparently it was because a deductible hadn't been reached). So, today when I was in the office for a check up from my hospital stay the OB who saw me said "you're getting the RH shot right?" And I replied no and stated why. He said "well if I were you, I would do it anyway."
And I'm like askgjagkjalkj what the french!? I can't return the shot or sell it to the dr's office so it's either I use it or I don't. I don't know if I can use it at 28 weeks and not order the one for after labor, but I don't get what the point is. Two negatives don't make a positive in this case! Also, the shot is really expensive and I don't want to shell out a couple hundred for something I don't think I need or don't understand why I need.
AHHHH any suggestions from you ladies? Has anyone been in this situation? Any questions that maybe I should ask my OB at my next visit to clarify? I am just such an anxious person to begin with that this conflicting advice did NOT help!!
I believe negative blood is a recessive gene so if you are negative and so is your DH then baby will 100% of the time also be negative. Since you and baby share the recessive gene and do not have the rh factor the shot is not needed.
I am also O- but I need the shot b/c DH is something else. But in your case, I would double check with your OB, but I *think* just like the others said that if DH is O- then you shouldn't need it?
see that's what I thought! I don't think o negative can be anything other than that and it's weird that one OB didn't think I needed it and another thought I should have it.
I think the OB who wants me to have it is more concerned with the "how are you SURE that there was no mistake and that he's definitely O negative." I mean my DH got it done through the red cross and got a card with his blood type on it, so I'm not really sure what the margin of error is there especially with both of his parents being o negative.
Ah I so had this figured out until my OB today threw me through a loop.
I'm O- and DH is A+. He also found out through a Red Cross donation, and got the card, and I'm relying on that to continue with Rhogam shots. Personally, I would not get the shots if they were not necessary.
It sounds like the justification, based on your previous posts, is that you already paid for it? If that's the case, perhaps you can "donate" it to someone else through your doctor's office? Rhogam is Rhogam is Rhogam. The only difference is if it's a minishot (which I received for spotting very early in pregnancy) or a full shot, which is probably what you ordered. I would look into that. You may be out the money - I doubt they could advocate for you selling it to someone else since it's medicine - but it's not like it's sitting in your fridge at home and you might have tampered with it.
I hope you can figure out a solution that you're comfortable with!