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I found out today that I can only have 1 person with me in the birthing room. REALLY GERMANY!?! Everything here is so old fashion and strict. Of course DH is going to be the one in the room with me even though it freaks him out a little but it's going to be his first born son. but my mom and my cousin are flying 9 hours over here because I wanted them both with me for support. Especially my cousin she's practically like my sister and we have been through everything together and we're always there for eachother, she can keep me calm and make me laugh and gives me strength, with my mom DH I always turn into the whiney little cry baby that needs to be taken care of and wants to quit everything because it's to hard. ERGGG..
Even if you can only have one person actually in the room, it could be really good to have extra people there. that way your support people can spell each other. and if it freaks your dh out; it may be extra good to have a backup support already present and waiting, in case he can't handle it or just needs a breather to collect himself.
and personally...I wish I had thrown out the baby daddy who was freaked out by the labor and birth process. he did not "step up" when the time came, he was not at all helpful, and it did not serve as a bonding experience for anyone. give yours a shot, by all means, but it's really not a big deal if he turns out not to be the best support person in the end.
I agree it will be nice just to have them there as extras for support Could they be allowed in temporarily if your DH were to step out maybe towards the beginning portions of the labor or a part you wanted/needed them?
Our hospital allows only 2 people in but I only wanted my husband.
I agree with the other gals, though. Labor can be long and difficult for both parents. It may very well help him be better able to support you if he is able to take short breaks here and there. It would be nice to rotate your support team so you always have a familiar face there to help and support you.