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September 24th, 2012, 06:36 AM
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Hi,

Ok, I have a 14 year old girl who I formula fed. I also have a 6 year old boy who I also formula fed. I am now expecting baby #3 and is thinking about breastfeeding. I am a firm believer that what you do for one kid you should do for all but I know breastfeeding is best. Also, both my kids had colic/gas and we had to switch formulas which was not fun. I am also thinking economically as the cost of formula is ridiculous, plus now we are in a house now where are bedrooms are upstairs and the kitchen is downstairs so they thought of warming up bottles in the middle of the night is not very exciting.....

So, my question is.....is there anyone out there that say formula fed their kids and then another kid breastfed or do you think this is unrealistic and silly.....any thoughts would be apprecaited...plus I am 34 yrs old and have NO CLUE how to breastfeed.....

PS My hubby says I should just formula feed since I did to the other two and in his words...it wouldn't be very fair......
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September 24th, 2012, 07:03 AM
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I would absolutely encourage you to breastfeed this time! I think that's just silly that what you do for one, you must do for all. Of course as parents we want to be "fair", but parenting is a constant learning process and the way we parent one child will not be exactly the same as the way we parent our other children. You love your children and want to do the best that you can for them. I would be willing to bet that there are things you have done differently already for your two children! I know that I change all the time as I learn new things. That's just called personal growth

I would highly recommend learning all you can before baby gets here so you know what to expect. Find out if there is a la leche group in your area, or a lactation counselor at the hospital who can help. I had GREAT nurses with my daughter; they just grabbed my nipple and showed me what to do (I had done all the research I could beforehand so when they mentioned particular holds and how baby should latch, etc. I had a general idea what they meant) and it went SO well.

Bfing requires persistence, so I really encourage you to make your mind up and stick to it. It is wonderful for baby and it's one of the things I can't wait for this time around - I just love the bonding and those sweet snuggly moments. There is very little in this world that compares. And YES, the savings is incredible, formula is SO expensive. Plus you burn about 3-500 extra calories a day . . can't beat that with a stick, lol.
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September 24th, 2012, 07:53 AM
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I would absolutely encourage you to breastfeed this time! I think that's just silly that what you do for one, you must do for all. Of course as parents we want to be "fair", but parenting is a constant learning process and the way we parent one child will not be exactly the same as the way we parent our other children. You love your children and want to do the best that you can for them. I would be willing to bet that there are things you have done differently already for your two children! I know that I change all the time as I learn new things. That's just called personal growth

I would highly recommend learning all you can before baby gets here so you know what to expect. Find out if there is a la leche group in your area, or a lactation counselor at the hospital who can help. I had GREAT nurses with my daughter; they just grabbed my nipple and showed me what to do (I had done all the research I could beforehand so when they mentioned particular holds and how baby should latch, etc. I had a general idea what they meant) and it went SO well.

Bfing requires persistence, so I really encourage you to make your mind up and stick to it. It is wonderful for baby and it's one of the things I can't wait for this time around - I just love the bonding and those sweet snuggly moments. There is very little in this world that compares. And YES, the savings is incredible, formula is SO expensive. Plus you burn about 3-500 extra calories a day . . can't beat that with a stick, lol.
Ditto, ditto, ditto!

Go for it! My mom FF her first three kids (I'm the oldest) and then when she got divorced and remarried and had three more kids, she BF. She was 36 with her first BF baby. It's never too late to start! Yeah, it's not "fair" in the strictest sense of the word, but that's parenting and life. As much as you try, your kids are not going to have all the same opportunities, things, or even rules as they grow up. My mom always thanks me her guinea pig, becuase as the oldest, she learned things from me to help her parent my siblings. It's the circle of parenting!

And as a kid who was FF with siblings who were BF, I can tell you first hand, I am really not all that upset about it. I was far more bent out of shape that I had a 9:30 pm curfew in high school while my younger sibs get to stay out until 11:00.

I second the idea of research and joining LLL. Also, be sure you have an LC to help you get the hang of it. Using good technique can make all the difference in how quickly the soreness passes and how efficient BFing is. It will take some persistence, but IMHO, it's all worth it! Bonding and free food for baby (formula is expensive) and all those extra calories burned! Not to mention it's portable and requires no prep.

You can do it! I believe in you!
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September 24th, 2012, 08:00 AM
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Wow, great post and responses. I have also had this run through my head. While this is only my second I was wondering if it would be "fair". I am glad I have others here who can provide some infomation and general opinions. I am going to get on the ball and do some more research.
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September 24th, 2012, 08:01 AM
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I FF my oldest who is six also and BF my last two. I don't think it is unfair for you to BF your new baby if that is what you want to do. I was the only one BF out of my two siblings and they could care less. I would do what ever you feel comfortable doing..
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September 24th, 2012, 08:12 AM
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I've been all over the board with BFing. My first was breastfed and I ended up having some issues that I had to be put on medication for and had to quit. She was also a very needy baby who ate ALL the time, I was young with very little support close by, etc, so BFing was very stressful. I ended up FF my second because of my experience with the first. My third I also tried BF but she had a cleft palate and we ended up FF after I pumped for a couple months but couldn't keep my milk up.

I am very much looking forward to BF this time around. I've had many friends who've had kids and done it or tried, plus, you know, older, wiser, etc... I'm right there with you DDB!
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September 24th, 2012, 08:26 AM
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So if you accidently dropped your oldest DD, would you drop the rest to keep it fair?

Each baby is different and what worked for my oldest 17 years ago may not work for this baby. I have had 4 kids and I have breastfeed, bottlefed, tubefed....basically if its a feeding method I have done it LOL.

I also think we know more about breastfeeding now then we did in the 90's. So it makes sense thatt we use the most current knowledge we can get for each child that we have.
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September 24th, 2012, 08:36 AM
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I FF my first after struggling to bf my premie after a c section.... But I really didn't have the best support.

I BF my second and he self weaned at 22 months and it was so much easier!! And cheaper! I blame a lot of my success on reading The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League while pregnant with my second. And also The Leaky B@@b Facebook page has tons of support!

I've done tons of things differently with my 2 children.... I am forever learning new things and think that's how it's supposed to be. PLUS all children are different and what works for one may not work for another. I think we just have to do the best we can with what we've got, that's our job.
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September 24th, 2012, 09:29 AM
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I definitely plan to make some changes relative to what I did with my daughter and she's only 2.5! I see nothing wrong with not doing everything the same, especially if you've come to find out new information or are in a different situation in life.

All children are different, and we are never the same mom to one kid that we are with the next (just because everything has changed). I think there can be downsides to trying to do everything the same. My mom tried this, and it really didn't work because my sister and I are VERY different people by nature.
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September 24th, 2012, 09:38 AM
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I FF DS and plan to try to BF this one. I tried with DS but he had a problem where he constantly sucked his tongue to the roof of his mouth and had a problem sucking on any nipple except the NUK ones that turn up. I hope to EBF this one for atleast six months but I am open to FF again if need be.
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September 24th, 2012, 03:49 PM
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Thanks Everyone!!! It's def something to consider!!!!
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September 24th, 2012, 06:47 PM
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Popping in from Nov. DDC! For me, this will be my 4th child. My first 2 were formula fed. My oldest has never really been sick. She's healthy as an ox. The second was hospitalized 3x before she was 18 months old. I felt terrible and actually tried starting to bf after he second hospitalization (9 months). Crazy, I know. Didn't work. So the 3rd I bf'd and NOTHING stops that girl! She rarely catches a cold! It does make me feel bad for not trying with my 2nd, but now that I know how much better it is, and that I CAN do it, I definitely will with this last one!
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