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November 6th, 2012, 10:55 AM
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Alright ladies, let's be honest - how is your sex life now that we're down to 8-12 weeks left?

We're still managing to do it at least once a week, but i've got to be honest - it's not much fun for me any more. I mean it's still fun, and i LOVE the intimacy with my hubby, but there's no finishing for me any more it seems! I really hope everything quickly goes back to normal postpartum!!
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November 6th, 2012, 11:12 AM
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I still have no sex drive...haven't had it since I don't know when. He's a little sad
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November 6th, 2012, 11:23 AM
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Ya, we're trying 1x a week, but it's more for his pleasure than mine....but that's ok, I don't mind He's been a good sport throughout, since I had ZERO sex drive throughout all of my fertility treatments and most of the first and 2nd tri.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:25 AM
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We DTD a couple times a week. He claims he never gets it, but that's a big fat lie. It's hard moving around like I used to and sometimes plus I feel like a huge whale. And I ask him not to finish inside because I get very bad cramps anymore from it.

Sex life never fully returned to normal after baby #1. Guess that's parenthood. I miss spontaneous sex. Now we have to be super careful because our 4 year old is curious about stuff and the slightest noise makes her so nosey. Little bugger told my mom that she saw her daddy ontop of me and how he has a hairy butt. When she saw this happen I have no clue.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:34 AM
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Wow we haven't done anything since 20 weeks when I had a bleeding incident. I was put on pelvic rest till 28 weeks and that cleared but here I am at 31 weeks and nothing yet.. he's in school all night Monday's and Tuesday's and I was working really early shifts. We just keep managing to miss eachother.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:38 AM
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Mine is pretty pathetic. By the time I go to bed I am exhausted. I feel big and uncomfortable so it's hard for me to get into the mood..plus the baby seems to get super active around that time and it is awkward. I told DH to take advantage of the second trimester hormones until they were kaput..
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November 6th, 2012, 11:41 AM
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We do it at least once a week maybe more sometimes. One thing that changed for us it we moved right by out church (my husband is the pastor) so he can come home when DD is at school and DS is sleeping. That has helped us alot because by the time night comes and the kids are in bed I am dead tired and DTD is not appealing.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:44 AM
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when I got to the 3rd trimester my hormones went a little nutty and I was wanting it all the time...but because of our schedules and me being exhausted at night it was only happening on weekends. Last weekend after dtd I had a lot of BH's and needed to rest so that kind of freaked DH out so we took a break this week.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:53 AM
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my doctor told me last night at my 28w appt that i'm "cut off" because of my bleeding incident last week. ...that's an insanely long time for us to go without, considering i'm not due til the end of january, and then the 6-8 week minimum postpartum wait. ick.

...guess we hafta wait til march or april.
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November 6th, 2012, 12:57 PM
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Man seems I am in a rare boat here - I want it as much as we can and DH says no. He's super paranoid about the baby and feels weird doing it AT ALL. I'm DYING over here! It's been at least a month since the last time (and to be honest, I sneak attacked him in the am while he was sleeping so it couldn't sink in lol), but lately no matter what I say or do he won't do me lol! I'm not even that large for 7 months and very little discomfort yet (just can't lay on my back, which was never my favorite position anyways). I have NO idea what to say to him to make him feel better about it (because we have talked about it, and nothing gets accomplished there), but it really hurts my feelings of intimacy and closeness with him.
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November 6th, 2012, 01:20 PM
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We do it probably once every two weeks. Then they're might be a time that my body suprises me and we do it twice in one week and then nothing for two weeks lol. I feel bad for DH, normal for us is 3-4x a week, until he knocked me up

All the times I am in the mood is about 4-6pm and DH doesn't get off work and home until nearly 11:30pm so then I'm dead tired. I haven't really had much of a sex drive this pregnancy to begin with. I wish it was like with DS where we did it all. the. time! But atleast I can look foward to (hopefully) getting my hormones back after baby, I miss the intimacy.
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November 6th, 2012, 01:26 PM
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Man seems I am in a rare boat here - I want it as much as we can and DH says no. He's super paranoid about the baby and feels weird doing it AT ALL. I'm DYING over here! It's been at least a month since the last time (and to be honest, I sneak attacked him in the am while he was sleeping so it couldn't sink in lol), but lately no matter what I say or do he won't do me lol! I'm not even that large for 7 months and very little discomfort yet (just can't lay on my back, which was never my favorite position anyways). I have NO idea what to say to him to make him feel better about it (because we have talked about it, and nothing gets accomplished there), but it really hurts my feelings of intimacy and closeness with him.
I had to talk to DH because I felt like he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Turns out he wanted it but never wanted to initiate not knowing how I was feeling. I told him I would rather tell him no if I don't feel good than to feel unwanted. That helped a lot til I started with BH's really bad after DTD and he got scared. And now I have a lot of pain in my pubic bone so it causes some really mixed feelings...hormones are still there but the idea of it hurts! But I'm definitely not ready to call it quits til 6 weeks after BB gets here.
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November 6th, 2012, 01:37 PM
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Ugh. We don't DTD nearly enough. I am almost always in the mood, but DH has been on a hard-core gaming kick lately and isn't interested. It's making me BATTY! Ahhhhhhhh!
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November 6th, 2012, 01:43 PM
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I'm probably one of the odd ones here but lately our sex life has picked up. At least 1 or 2 times a week right now. If I wasn't so freaking tired at night it would be more than that. Last night I was ready to go again 15 mins after we finished. Hahahahahahaa

Positions on the other hand? HA! That has def changed. We're trying to be creative.
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November 6th, 2012, 02:09 PM
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I feel bad for my hubby becuase I have been pretty neglectful this entire pregnancy :/ I am ok once I get started, but it's the getting started that is hard. The foreplay is fine but the deed itself, it's so hard to find a comfortable position and now that I am having MAJOR hip pain it is just not joyous. I'm trying for once a week, but I am sad to say it takes effort I feel like that is a big rut in our lives right now and I do feel bad about it. I mean I am lucky because my DH finds my pregnant body so sexy and loves it, but I just have a hard time working up the initative to do it!
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November 6th, 2012, 02:35 PM
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We tried a couple weeks ago and have found that with my tummy and his (he's a bit thick thru the middle) we just feel awkward...not in a sad way but to the point where we're laughing like, "Yeah...this isn't really gonna work anymore is it?" So we've resorted to taking care of each other separately which I don't mind at all...he's pretty dang awesome at that
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November 6th, 2012, 03:33 PM
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We aim for once or twice a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. It depends on his schedule and how tired we are. He's been working a lot more lately to help with baby bills, so usually we're both dead tired at night. We generally try the morning session or mid day if he has a day off. If it weren't for some "good vibrations" I don't think that I would be having any fun. Honestly, I can't wait for this tummy to be gone so I can just be comfortable again. Or like when he says, "move over here" I keep thinking "easier said than done!"
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November 6th, 2012, 04:27 PM
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It's pretty non-existant at this point...

Ever since I had early bleeding then on and off cramping the whole time, there really hasn't been a lot of time where I've really felt in the mood... Plus it seems like it's really hard to "get going" this time around.

I feel horrible, but he doesn't seem too upset, thankfully. He understands. I just hope I can pay him back postpartum.
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November 6th, 2012, 04:27 PM
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Sadly I have had ZERO sex drive since becoming pregnant. seriously nada.. dont touch me. My poor hubby, I help him out once or twice a week, we DTD or he gets little "favors" whenever he asks. Before I got pregnant we seriously had sex about 6 times a week minimum. So I know hes not happy!! I just hope my sex drive comes back PP.
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November 6th, 2012, 05:28 PM
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Not enough for sure.....DH doesn't get enough rest at all. He has to get up before 5 am and works 12 hours. He stays up until 1030 or 1100 every night. He falls asleep on the couch almost every night. I HATE it. I think when there have been nights that he hasn't fallen asleep on the couch, he just assumes that I don't want to or can't. I've been sick off an on and I'm NOT good at initiating. Even after 13 years of marriage, I still have an irrational fear of being embarrassed and rejected. I will lay there wanting to so bad but never do anything and be upset when he doesn't! It's stupid...i know...
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