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So I am looking into joining a mommy group in my area for a couple of reasons: I am relatively new to AZ and dont have any family or friends here and I want DS1 (20 months old) to make some friends and interact with other kids.
I need some advice from mamas who are part of a mommy group... Is it worth looking into?? I am kinda shy about meeting new people and most groups seem centered around SAHMs, which im not (however i am home most the week because I work 12hr weekend night shifts)... Are the members of these groups usually open to new members? Would they be a good place for me and DS1 to make some friends?
Any advice on how to find a good mommy group and whether they are worth joining is appreciated!!!!
p.s it would be highly convenient if we all lived near each other and could just form our own mommy group lol
I would love to join one too but can't find one in our area. Plus like you, I'm really shy and i'm so afraid I won't get along with alot of the people but they will want to hang out with me and I'll feel bad lol
I found one and was super nervous to go. I tried to get a friend to go with but she couldn't so I was stuck going alone. Everyone was super welcoming. It is run by a lactation specialist which is super helpful and answers lots of questions. It's also really nice to vent to other moms and find out if you are normal. I would recommend it!
I was pretty shy when I joined mothers groups with dd, but am soooo glad I did join.it literally was a live saver for me and my sanity. I met a bunch of great moms to talk and share with. I have kept a close bond with 3 of the girls for slmost 3 years now and our kids are best friends now. I wouldn't worry if you are not a sahm. Most groups meet during weekdays or you can find groups that only meet on weekends if you like. I was working part time when I first joined, and one of our members still works full time, but she still meets early mornings and weekends with the rest of us.
Also remember to find a good fit, like any friendship there will be some moms you click with better than others. I joined 2 different playgroups. The first one was a huge one and I really didn't 'click' with most moms ( they were much older And in different places in life then me'. But then I added a second group and met some of my best friends to this day!
I say go for it! You and your LO will benefit from it!
I LOVE my mommy group!! I'm actually in a couple of them but one of them is a larger group and I haven't clicked with the moms in it quite as much (they like to do a lot without the kids, lots of mom's nights out and they go to bars and things which is fine but it's hard for me to do a lot of that with 3 kids at home). The other group is full of my best friends and I met them all by joining the group (I knew NO ONE when I first joined).
Just try to keep an open mind and remember that it may take a little bit for you all to warm up to each other. I remember this one girl who I thought didn't like me for the longest time, but now she is one of my best friends and it turns out she is just really shy and reserved around people she doesn't know. So now I try not to judge anyone until I get a good chance to get to know them.
Do it! I found my groups on meetup.com. You could probably ask around on facebook too maybe.
Also look into (google) if there is a local mothers club. I live in the San Francisco area and know that there are dozens of them here. Most cities have one here and the smalle cities join up with other small cities. There are yearly dues associated with hem (50 bucks) but you get forum boards, annual parties and events, ours throws Easter, Christmas and Halloween parties for all the kids. Plus post other free events. Definitely worth the 50 bucks. Plus they have dozens of playgroups you can join. By age or they have crunchy mom playgroups, weekend playgroups, moms with multiple kids playgroups etc
I actually did this when I had custody of my grandson -- women my age don't have infants on a daily basis and I wanted company that could relate to where I was in life. yes, I was older but it worked out great. I am still friends with a few of them even now 6 years later! I did meet-up.com and found several in my general area. I say go for it!
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I am for sure going to look into a mommy group, but once Baxter gets a bit older. We moved here for DH's work about 5 years ago, and most of our friends are those we have met through his work. Perfect way to make some friends of my own, and it will force me to get out of my comfort zone a bit too!
Thanks for all the advice ladies! I looked on meetup.com and joined one of the mommy groups i found on there. I am going to go to a meetup on Sunday. I am anxious/nervous about it because it is way out of my comfort zone but I think it will be worth it