GRRR its always something else

lilangel91284 · #1 January 12th, 2006, 05:43 PM

Okay so me and isaac are on state insurance, and on MA right now well they send me a letter telling me that i have to collect child support, and that i have to cooperate with the child support agencys. Chuck basically gets everything for Isaac right now. I dont want anything from him. So we basically have to go to court either way and im not to happy about it. Also what kind of makes me mad is in the letter is says that i requested for child support but i never did. GRRRR Im dont know what to do.

~Trina~ · #2 January 12th, 2006, 06:56 PM

I have a friend who was in the same boat ....and I helped her sort through all that red tape...

Basically what it comes down to is ... if you live in MN and you want any type of public assistance (such as Medical Assistance or MinnesotaCare) for a child and you do not live with the father of the child, are not married to the father of the child, etc then you MUST file for child support so that they can get all of his financial information because they don't want to pay to "support" the child when there is somone else who they can get to do it ....

It's a lot of red tape and I understand why it's in place but its not exactly appropriate for all situations and can really cause a big mess!!

Madeline410 · #3 January 12th, 2006, 06:57 PM

I'm about to go through the same thing Angela...

lilangel91284 · #4 January 12th, 2006, 08:13 PM

It just caused a big mess. Chuck got mad at me because he thought i filed for child support. So now hes not talking to me.

lilangel91284 · #5 January 12th, 2006, 10:58 PM

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maddie did you file for child support? or is it the same situation im in? if you dont mind me asking.

*Danielle* · #6 January 13th, 2006, 04:28 AM

It's the same in Michigan. I'm not on any kind of state aid because of it, i'd rather my 1st childs dad pay me support rather then pay the state back for what little help I may qualify for.

I hope you and Chuck can get things worked out.

AlaynasMommy · #7 January 13th, 2006, 06:16 AM

With me, it's that I want Alayna's dad to give us Child Support, but the agency keeps telling me they're doing the paperwork when they aren't. We were supposed to go to court next month, but since they are JUST STARTING the process, when I signed the papers in October, we are going in April. She'll be 1 before ANY of this goes through. I know it.

With your situation, maybe just talk to them? I'm sure they'll understand

writinghoosier · #8 January 13th, 2006, 06:50 AM

Ladies, I'm not in your situation, but I have a SIL who is, and let me give you some perspective. It's nice to think that the father of your child will, for the next 18 years, be there to help you take care of your children, at least financially. But the truth is, unless you go through the courts, you have no recourse if they decided not to in a few years. If you get married or move in together, obviously those issues get resolved. Think of it this way... you aren't "going after" the father... you're protecting the needs of your child.

Angela, you can "write off" anything that Chuck has given you. Child Support is retro-active, so make a list so you can have that handy. And from that point on, you can do a deduction. I know it doesn't sound romantic, and I know Chuck probably feels like he's doing his part and why should he have to have court papers telling him what to do, but really, this is in the best interest of everyone. It just doesn't seem that way now.

MY SIL hoped the dad of her daughter would step up to the plate and help out with medical bills, food, clothes, etc. He never did... because she went through the courts, he is now getting his wages garnished.