Question about flower girl dress

Melissa_A · #1 January 17th, 2006, 05:07 AM

Ok, the bride for BIL's wedding sent a pic of the flower girl dress. I think there are 3 or 4 flower girls, two of which are older, and a 2.5 year old then Amelia will be 18 months. The dress she sent a picture of has spaghetti straps. My feeling is, it is too "old" for a an 18 month old, even too old for a 2 year old. They are babies to me, I think they need a dress with cap sleeves or at least something covering their shoulders. What do you think, am I being too old fashion? How do you tell the bride that...it's her wedding. I just think spaghetti straps on a baby is weird, like too sexy or something.

Amandalulu · #2 January 17th, 2006, 05:25 AM

I agree with you on the strap thing. They are babies they should be cute not sexy! I don't know what to say to her though. Maybe volunteer to help her look for a dress or just tell her.

Madi was in a wedding at 18 mo. and wore a purple dress with sleeves and was adorable. She did a good job too. D-uh, come to think of it she was in our wedding when she was 2yr.

lyssiesmom · #3 January 17th, 2006, 05:34 AM

i agree with Alyssa Tried on ones with spagehetti straps and i tell yah my sister and i wear oh no it made her look very old it wasnt cute at alland she was 2 1/2 at the time so i go right along with yah she really needs to wht they look like in it first they always look nice on a a picture

berrygirll · #4 January 17th, 2006, 06:41 AM

I agree with you but I don't know how you would go about telling her. She (probably) doesn't have children so doesn't know or think about those type of things, I know I never would have before kids. Maybe casually mention it. But if it's what she really wants, not too much you can do about it.

Colee · #5 January 17th, 2006, 06:46 AM

yeah I agree about the straps....my goodness my flower girls were eight and they had cap sleeves while the bridemaids wore skinny straps....Would she go for a little sweater or something? I know your in Flordia,so weather may be too hot for that. I bet she can find the same dress with some sort of sleeve to it,not spaghetti straps...I would mention it...it is her wedding....but she wants YOUR daughter to particapate....

babyn2 · #6 January 17th, 2006, 06:51 AM

The dress may not even come with the straps in Amelia's size, it may be cap sleeves...
I would just tell her that you would be more comfortable if her dress had something covering her shoulders. If you are not comfortable with that, tell her that Amelia will be pulling the straps down all day and she would be better off with sleeve.

Personally, I would not be upset if you said that to me, she probably does not even realize that it can be an issue. I am sure she will not be upset!

And if the dress does not come with sleeves, I am sure you can chop the length and have sleeves made. That is what I did for my flower girl, cause I agree and I did not want a 2 year old that looked 30!

Juliee8 · #7 January 17th, 2006, 07:31 AM

I don't blame you, I feel the same way you do. I definately think that some sort of sleeve would be more appropriate for Amelia. I know that for my sisters wedding she had 2 flower girls, one was 4 and the other was about 18 months. Their dresses were similar but not the same because it just did not look right on the 18 month old.

#8 January 17th, 2006, 07:40 AM

I guess I'm the odd one out on this topic because I love spaghetti straps! I think the little girls will look very cute in them... I don't think anyone is going to look at an 18 mo. old and be like "Thats sexy". I think anything you put on your daughter will be cute! BUT, she is your daughter and if you don't feel comfortable with her wearing it that is ok too! I don't know how I would go about saying something. If you do say something, she might be thankful that you did because I'm sure she wants you to feel comfortable about the situation! Good luck!!!

Melissa_A · #9 January 17th, 2006, 09:13 AM

Thanks ladies, at least I'm not nuts here. I definitely don't like anything like that style on a baby. I don't even like to see babies wearing 2 piece bikinis, to me, it is just weird. I think there is something about it that makes the child look like they are supposed to be grown, and I want my BABY to be exactly what she is, A BABY! I am definitely not going to let her wear the spaghetti straps, if that is the dress she wants to order, then Amelia will have a sweater or a small short sleeve jacket over her shoulders. She is MY daughter, exactly right, and if they wanted her to walk down in some crazy outfit I wouldn't allow it so I should stand my ground, nicely of course! Thanks!

meant2bemommie · #10 January 17th, 2006, 09:44 AM

Looks like this topic is covered. I have to agree too. I am not a fan of spaghetti straps on a baby...

Selestial · #11 January 17th, 2006, 09:59 AM

Okay, I agree about the dress, but I actually think 2 piece bathing suits are cute on little ones. In fact, I bought Syd a 2 piece for this year. However, I'm probably biased because some of my earliest memories have to do with my flourescent orange bikini

babyblue · #12 January 17th, 2006, 10:30 AM

The fact of the matter is, it may be her wedding, but she is asking for Amelia's services.. so I think she should respect your feelings on the matter. It's one thing when it's a grown person in someone else's wedding, but Amelia is just a baby, so you are the voice of reason for her. Just gently mention it to her; I think the other girls are right, she probably would never even think of something like that if she doesn't have children of her own.