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What do you do when you feel yourself running out of emotional gas? I"m at the point where I'm tired of coming home and doing dishes, cooking, dishes, homework, laundry, and bedtime (DH works from 9-9). I went on strike last weekand know what happened? I had a week's worth of CRAP to clean up. The kids can only do so much, you know? Summer's a GREAT help, but there are just some things Mommies have to do.
Anyway...what do you do?
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Jumping over from Oct 05 PR, I have 5 boys aged 16, 13, 7 and 5 yr twins...I always feel out of gas! I wake up that way. I feel as if I live the same day over and over and over again and never manage to keep up or even come close! It is so frustrating and exhausting.
I just keep trudging along cause there is nothing else to do.
My husband leaves at 4:30am and does not get back until around 4 if I am lucky and now the just changed it and he will be working till 4 pm then have to drive back in all the traffic out of dc so we figure it will be around 6:30 pm when he gets here
I try to cut myself a break once in awhile. It is only possible to do so much and keep your sanity. If I feel too overwhelmed, I make sure that I have some time for myself, usually when everyone is asleep.
There was a time when I was teaching full-time when TJ was little, and commuting 3 hours a day to my job where I felt if something didn't change my sanity would be gone and my marriage would fail. I had to decide what was most important, and my job took second place. I luckily was able to quit, even though it put us in a much harder place financially. But my own stress level evened out which made everything easier.
I find mommy life can be monotonous if I don't take a break from the vacuuming and laundry to just sit and enjoy my kids. Sometimes I have to remind myself to do that so that I can recharge and get through the many loads of laundry, and the neverending cleaning/cooking.
The days of keeping a near perfect clean home are behind me and I don't fret over it anymore like I did when I was younger. If I did, I would be a mess emotionally and physically. I do housework when I can and I usually do one room each day. I wake up before everyone else so I can a set amount of time for myself.
When everyone is up and running, there's little time for me when I am the Mommy, wife, cook, maid, tailor, laundromat, teacher (we homeschool), nurse, and any other occupation needed in the home. I take breaks and when I feel like I am getting stressed out over something, I step way to re-focus.
I feel better when I take care of myself so that I can then take care of my family.
Sandra. Wife to Timothy and Homeschool mom to Michael and Matthew
Married for 14+ years to the love of my life. Currently TTCing.
My husband leaves at 7am and doesn't get home til 9pm but I don't work so it helps me keep my sanity. I don't know how you do it Heather! I tend to call it a "day" after dinner. No more cleaning or laundry etc. The other night when dh got home and we settled to watch some tv together I was thinking there was no way I could find energy to do anything at night like working mom's do.
I guess the advice everyone is giving is the best. Learn to live with a messy house and take care of you first! I'm here all day and my house is never perfect.
Also- I had a wonderful childhood and my parents were great. Even though I only had one sibling our house was always a mess. To this day my mom feels bad about that but for some reason the mess is remembered with fondness for me. Home means comfortable not perfection. My best friend had a clean freak mom so she liked hanging out at my house more.