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I know this happens more than we know about, but it hit home with me cause it happened in a small town on the outskirts of the town I am from. This guy was supposed to be dropping his 4 month old baby girl off at daycare on his way to a military training thing (whatever it was, my mom was telling me and I didn't listen to that part) and he parked his car and forgot about her. He was there all day and didn't remember her until late that afternoon. I hope she was sleeping and never woke up. It just breaks my heart. She was so innocent and helpless. That is a terrible way to die. He is up for manslaughter charges, but you know it has to be killing him anyway. I just thought I would post it, cause it has been on my mind for about 3 days now.
I have to tell this story though. After church one day - this was when I was still together with my ex - we had decided to run to the store. My ex's mom and dad asked if they could take the kids. They already were holding Ayden, but my ex was carrying sleeping Ava in her car seat. I was getting into the car. He told them yes they could take Ayden. But he said we would keep Ava. We went to the store, shopped for 20 minutes, came out. I lifted up the back glass to the blazer and saw Ava's head move from the noise I was making!!!! I said, "WE HAD AVA! I thought she was with your mom and dad!" I couldn't believe it. He had totally forgotten. I didn't know she was back there because she was asleep and so quiet!
Thank GOD it was a cool day and we had the windows cracked. I was so disgusted. I still am.
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Stories like that make me want to cry, it is heart wrenching! I have a story too: I have a sister who is almost 12 years younger than me and I was suppose to watch her one morning before school, until my Dad woke up. Well, I poked my head in the door and told my dad I was going to school. I guess he didn't hear me and he got up and went and ran errands and came back hours later and was sitting on the toilet and heard a thump upstairs. My sister had fallen out of her crib! He had left her for hours because he didn't hear me and didn't know she was home. Thankfully she was ok and I like to think that she slept most of the time he was gone.
I am so scared I am going to forget about Isaac. I know it happens because people are in a rush but it scares me to death just to forget about my little boy sitting in the car.
This has happend way too many times this summer alone around here. DH was just telling me about one that happend yesterday (or the day before) a woman left her baby in a car and had left the car running with the air conditioner and had left for something. Not sure how long or where they were (store or home), but anyway, when she got back to the car some how the heat was on in the car instead of the air...and the baby was dead! Can you imagine a day that was already 100 degrees outside...then to be sitting in a car with the heater. Makes me want to cry for that poor baby.
Then last week in Memphis...a young man rescued 5 month old twins ...AT THE DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN RESOURCES...because the mom didn't want to have drag 2 babies into the building while filling out her paperwork to get on government assistance. The babies had been out there 30 minutes already when the boy found them with only the back window cracked slightly and a blanket over one of the babies!!! He heard them screaming and with his hands forced the window down to get the babies out. The police said temps reached about 140 in the car. Someone else ran inside to call the police and ambulance ... actually used the phone in the same office that the mother was waiting and she still didn't go check on her babies! Then they paged the woman over the intercom (once the police got there) for over 20 minutes before she finally came outside to see what they wanted! Needless to say this mom went to jail. This one had a good outcome...the babies lived...I hope that they don't suffer any damage from being in that hot of a car for that long.
I too worry that I will forget him in the car. But I am a little obsessive about it, and I always have him with me, so now it's kind of a habit. If he's not with me I'm constantly wondering where he is.
This happened near Charlotte a few years ago. Listen, it could happen to ANY of us. On the news they gave a great tip. Always remember to put your purse, briefcase, anything that you know you will "need" to get out that morning in the backseat. As horrible as it is, it was an accident and that man and his family will be in my thoughts.
The same thing happened in a city two hours from here a few yrs ago and I have heard of many similar stories. Its really sad and a horrible way to die, but like some have said, I can see how it could happen.
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I think it can easily happen to new parents, because babies are so new to them. But, I don't know...I don't think I could ever forget Aiden, he's too noisy!
The only time I forgot him was in my dream...we were at church and walking out the door when someone reminded us that he was still in the nursery. LOL Thank God it was only a dream!
I think it can easily happen to new parents, because babies are so new to them. But, I don't know...I don't think I could ever forget Aiden, he's too noisy! [/b]
It's habit for me too. Actually, I have a mirror so I can see him and I can't help but constantly check on him back there, never mind forget him.
If we go somewhere and my mom or sister is babysitting him, we'll be driving and I'll have like - a mini heart attack for a second before remembering that he is with my mom or sis.
I heard that it happens more easily if the parent isn't used to having the baby. Like if mom usually drops the baby off, but dad had to on this particular day. I can totally see how it happens, it is just awful! My mom said that the paper said that his wife called the police station and told them to tell him that "She loves him and she knows it was an accident."
That's so sad. I feel the same way as Kelly ... Hayden is with me 95% of the time that I go somewhere, so when he's not with me, I freak out for a second until I remember where he is.
That's gutwrenching. I cannot imagine having to live through something like that. The guilt... I, too, have the 'mini-heartattacks' when she's not attached to my hip, before I remember she's somewhere safe. That is my worst nightmare...
To think, if the world would just slow down a little bit so everyone isn't in a rush to get everything done, everything paid for, everything bought. This might not happen so often.
You ladies are right, when you don't usually have the kids (or didn't know your ex husband put the baby in the car as in my case) it's easy for your brain to loop around and forget you even had the baby in the first place (usually only happens when they are asleep and quiet.)
I know now if Ava is being really quiet, I'll jerk around really quick to make sure I didn't leave her sitting in the buggy at the store or in the parking lot or something. LOL. I don't expect she will be left in a car on her own anymore.
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I feel terrible for all the babies that this has happened to. I do agree with the previous poster's in that accidents happen. I feel for the parents that truly accidentally did this and these terrible tragedies happened to them.
Did you hear about the 3 or 4 year old girl that was suppose to be sleeping but wanted to play more so she took her game outside into the car and fall asleep. The mom thought she was sleeping very long and went to check on her and she wasnt in her room. She started looking every where and they found her in the car. She had already died by the time they found her. It was over 109 degrees in the car. They think she had fallen asleep in there.
My story isn't quite as scarey.... but it still made me look horrible, and feel horrible. I was at Canadian Tire (kind of a department store - Wal-Mart-ish) Anyways, I was paying for an oil change. I put Kayla in her infant seat up on the counter (she was very small, so this was safe), proceeded to pay. Then I grabbed Shayna's hand, and started to walk away! I was about 5-10 yards away before someone said, "Hey Lady, don't you want your baby?" I was MORTIFIED. I had to leave the store and go home without the other things that I needed.
Now, I'm so scared of forgetting someone, that I'll be on the road, and I'll ask "Do I have 4 kids back there?". They think it's just a funny joke, but part of me is serious.
I also like the backseat idea. Thankfully I have too many kids to just get out of the car. I always have to open the back to let the girls out.
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