[Lynettesmommy]

some of you know that I got to see Lynettes great-great grandmother(Jim's great - grandmother) at the nursing home every week. Well she has alzheimers (sp) and it is pretty bad and she likes to go "shopping" but it is other peoples rooms Well there is a man there that a few moths ago pushed her almost to the ground, and said if she ever came into his room again he would REALLY hurt her bad and not feel bad for it. Well this evening she went on a "shopping spree" in his room (not knowing what she was doing of corse) and he grabbed her arm (he is in a wheel chair) and dug his nails into her arm and scratched down her arm so bad that they had to bandage it and giver her a seditive because she was so upset and scared!!!! Ok this is the 2nd time this has happend to her and he has hurt other people in the home, one family even pressed charges. I think he needs to be taken out of that home he in indangering other patients, now he is in his right mind and knows what he is doing, "grammy" is not and she isnt really hurting anyone and if we see things that are not hers we give it back to the owners or to the nurses to give back and most of the people in there look out for her and dont get mad at her but try to distract her from taking things . OH and the nurses LIED to us about the whole thing!!! They told us a totally different story, but one of the nurses that tells us EVERYTHING told us the truth! I am so mad right now, I want him gone, but the rest of the family (Jims family , I really have no right) wont do anything I dont think. they dont like to make a scean and think if they do the nurses wont take care of her or something I really dont know what there reasoning is but its not right.


OK thanks if you got to the end of this and sorry it was so long and I feel better that I wrote it down

[nirvanasmarigold]

If it were me I would make an anonymous complaint to the boards that regulate nursing homes. I think it is your moral obligation to say something regardless of who's "feelings" get hurt. Think about the poor woman! If they won't move that man then I would see if there is way to move her out to a different place. Can you imagine not really now what's going on and having to be sedated when you are injured and your Lynette not doing anything about it because she was afraid someone would be upset Sorry I tend to be opinionated and blunt and I go for what is in the best interest of the people I care about..I hope it all works out I also had relatives in nursing homes and you have to really keep up on them...

Good luck honey!

[*Carla*]

That's so sad. I don't really know anything about nursing homes but I would think that the management would do something about someone that is physically hurting other people. Maybe move him or have someone keep a close eye on him? Your poor grammy.

[_Rebecca_]

I agree with Christine. I think you need to make a complaint. How kind of you to go and visit with your granny and take her shopping. That is so nice!

[billie1978]

I agree with the others...I would definitely make a complaint. Someone needs to make sure that man doesn't keep hurting your granny or anyone else for that matter. Who knows how many other people he has hurt that those nurses have covered up for him.
And, while I was busy making the complaint, I would also make a complaint against those nurses. They shouldn't be able to lie to the family's about things that happen to their loved ones while in their care. I would be SOOO mad at them for lying to me like that!!!

[baby~shawty]

This is infuriating and the main reason I hate nursing homes...

[MrsCMom2B]

I'm so sorry! I know its hard enough when family members need to be taken care of and the decision has to be made to place them in a nursing home, but sometimes it has to be done and the people should do their job!

[Allisonjuly]

I agree with the others...I would definitely make a complaint. Someone needs to make sure that man doesn't keep hurting your granny or anyone else for that matter. Who knows how many other people he has hurt that those nurses have covered up for him.
And, while I was busy making the complaint, I would also make a complaint against those nurses. They shouldn't be able to lie to the family's about things that happen to their loved ones while in their care. I would be SOOO mad at them for lying to me like that!!![/b]

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[Lynettesmommy]

I TOTALLY agree with all of you.....I will see who I can make a complaint to, I dont know if I even have the "right" to make a formal complaint, the reason I say the right is because I am not even married into the family yet (once that happens I will SOOOOO make a bigger deal) Jims side of the family knows how I feel and I think they need to make a complaint, I think it is rediculous that they are not!!!!! See Jims side of the family are ones that dont like to ruffle any feathers, if you know what I mean. Let me give you an example: If my MIL goes to a resturant and asks for lets say no Mayo on her sandwich and it comes with--she will not send it back or even say anything. She gets really embarresed when I send stuff back or say that is wasnt good!!! I cant stand that. But anyways back to the subject at hand I saw the cut and it wasnt that bad but that soooo isnt the point. I think I just talked my MIL into saying something to the home She is getting ready to call up there and talk to an admistrator.....Ill update when I find out what they said.

[Janette]

Oh my gosh, that is just NOT RIGHT!! I would be furious!!! One time of hurting someone could be looked at as a "mistake", but if it happens numerous times, that is BS and is totally grounds for removal!!

I think you have every right, just as a concerned aquaintance, to make a complaint. What if she had no blood relatives? Your voice is just as important as any family member - even more important since you seem to care so much!!! (((hugs))) Let us know what happens.

[Lynettesmommy]

Well I think Jims grandmother (her daughter) called up there last night and spoke to the administrator, I dont know what happened I havent spoke to her today so I will see her this week sometime and find out what happened. I am still upset that they lied to us and I spoke my mind to Jims mom last night and told her exactly how I felt about it and I think she got my point. We shall see.........if they dont say something I will.