[canadian_ehngel]

You know... that "You have to start putting your kid to bed earlier, when school starts what will you do?" DF's grandma and now his boss, too have told us that. I mean, obviously, but she's not even 15 months old yet!!! She's like 3 years away from starting school. It makes me SO mad. I know it probably shouldn't, but it just rubs me the wrong way. I'm thinking of getting Amber a shirt that says "Please don't give mommy any dumb advice, she's doing fine!" and put it on Amber when we go to DF's grandma's house or whatever. Maybe that would get the point across.
We were at his grandma's house a week ago, and Amber had no pants on because she'd peed in her diaper and it leaked, so we took them off. She said, "You're not gonna take her outside like that, are you? You're gonna put pants on her before you go home?" Well duh! Why would we bring our daughter outside in just a diaper in 0 degree weather?! Gah! Come on, woman! And everytime we're over there, she does tell us we have to start putting Amber to bed earlier for school. And everytime I say "Well yah, but school is still 3 years away." She just keeps telling me, and doesn't get the point that I don't care what she says. I don't need that useless advice.

[Anne07Nov05]

I'd be irritated too. Thatcher goes to bed later than most babies, but it works perfectly for our family. I know that he'll need to adjust his schedule by the time he starts school, but I'm honestly not concerned with that yet. We have plenty of time for that. He'll be sleeping less than anyway, so we'll probably only have to shift his bedtime by an hour or so.

Unsolicited advice about parenting can be so annoying. We take our job as parents so seriously, so I know that I personally tend to take "advice" as "criticism," even if that wasn't the person's intent.

[canadian_ehngel]

Yah, Amber goes to bed around 10pm, tonight was later cause we didn't have dinner till 9. Anyway, his grandma does mean to criticize me/us. She's the one I've always had troubles with.

[kmbaby]

Ugh! So annoying!!!! You know what is best for Amber, so just do what YOU want and just blow off others people's unwanted advice. Thats what I do! I act interested when they speak, but just ignore it!! LOL

[vnichols]

that stinks i have a mother in law like that too so i feel ya.

[nirvanasmarigold]

Yeah I just try to take everything in that everyone says and I make my own decisions. We are kind of going through the same thing at home here since we live with my grandmother and uncle. My uncle is the type of person that has an opinion about everything and always likes to tell others what to do (not in a mean way he just is that way). So I'll be doing something with Eric and he's like you should do this, where's his jacket, where's this, etc and I feel like I have to answer to someone...I'm going to have a talk with him before Eric can really start to understand us because I don't think it's good if my dh and I are telling Eric something and my uncle is over our shoulder saying to do a, b or c.

I know it's hard for him because he's here all day with me and Eric all day since he's disable and doesn't work but he'll just have to bite his lip! We are saving a lot of money while we are here so we are hoping when Eric gets into school that we can get our own place (or sooner) since I'll be able to work more and have more $.

[-Shannon-]

That is the most frustrating thing in the world! Why people can't keep their mouths shut unless they are asked a question, I'll never know!

[Hokie Momma]

Unsolicited advice drives me nuts!!!!! Even worse is the MOM M.D. My mom has a medical book, and when I go to pick Lorelei up at the end of the day, if she's been sick, or coughed that day or whatever; my mom has already diagnosed the illness.

[canadian_ehngel]

Well I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I'm thinking about ordering Amber a t-shirt that says "Please don't give my mommy any dumb advice... she's doing just fine" from a website I found. Or buy myself one that says either "My Baby My Rules", "No, your parenting advice doesn't bother me - it's gone way beyond that" or "I liked you better before you opened your mouth". Maybe then people will think twice before telling me stupid things.

[ImustBeNuts06]

You are a better person then me. I probably would have told her where to go and how to get there by now! It's one thing to offer advice, but give me a freaking break!!! Emily had a similar bedtime schedule when she was younger. It was only the two of us, so we went to bed late and got up late. She's in school now and has had NO problem what so ever adjusting her bedtime. Man, give me her phone number, I'll let her know she needs to zip it!