[~Casey~]

She is 20 wks prego, and it is her second. When she was prego with her first she really wanted a girl. When she found out it was a boy she was all depressed and was crying about it. Now she's prego again, and just found out today that it is another boy. She was sobbing on the phone, and too kthe afternoon off of work because she was too upset to work. I said I know you're upset now, but you will love the baby just the same. She said, "I will?" How can you not love a child because they were the wrong sex? Why would you try to have a child knowing you have a 50/50 chance of geting the "wrong" sex? She's my main friend. Other than aquaintences I don't really have any other good girlfriends. I'm trying to understand her thinking and reasoning, but I'm really kinda disguted with her. I don't want to make her mad or say the wrong thing, but I don't agree with her reasonings. Anyway, I went through fertility treatment and so did she. I was just thrilled to know we were going to be blessed with a child. She looks at it as she went through fertility treatment, and she deserves her girl. I don't get it.

[stephie1012]

i have a friend that was like that, her daughter was unplanned and she said that if she wasnt a girl her mother was going to adopt her...well she was a girl then she got preggo again and thank god that was a girl to....people like that upset me so much

stephanie

[toby]

I hate to admit this but when we found out that Mia was a girl - we were speachless and honestly I felt like I was going to cry. I guess we both had it built up in our heads from the start that our baby was going to be a boy. That's all we heard from everyone - friends, family, nurses & doctors - "you're having a boy".

Obviously, I wouldn't trade this little girl for the world but at the time I really felt crushed. Oh....and did I feel so very bad for having those feelings but just couldn't help it. Funny how you can build up things in your head and when they don't work out just like you imagine you just feel so let down.

Hang in there with her. I'm sure she loves her son dearly as she will with the one on the way.

[AlaynasMommy]

I wanted a girl so badly, but there's no way that I would have been upset if Alayna did turn out to be a boy!! I would have felt that it was a blessing all the same, and I'd just pray for a girl the next time around...but I was lucky enough to get what I prayed for, so I really can't say I know how she feels.

People like that do drive me crazy, though

[~Casey~]

I also really thought we were having a boy, and was shocked when she was a girl. I'm just not sure she'll really get over it. Unfortunately.

[~Cupcake~]

Originally posted by toby@Sep 28 2005, 03:00 PM
I hate to admit this but when we found out that Mia was a girl - we were speachless and honestly I felt like I was going to cry.* I guess we both had it built up in our heads from the start that our baby was going to be a boy.* That's all we heard from everyone - friends, family, nurses & doctors - "you're having a boy".*

Obviously, I wouldn't trade this little girl for the world but at the time I really felt crushed. Oh....and did I feel so very bad for having those feelings but just couldn't help it.* Funny how you can build up things in your head and when they don't work out just like you imagine you just feel so let down.*

Hang in there with her.* I'm sure she loves her son dearly as she will with the one on the way.
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Thank you Toby I felt the same way. DH and I always said that if we had one of each that would be it for kids and I just prayed on a girl since I really want three kids (which at this point I think I may be able to convince him for one more LOL) but the initial shock was hard and I did cry. It has nothing to do with not loving Emmett, I am so in love with him already and he isn't even here, but I would be lying if I said I was overjoyed. The part I was overjoyed with was that he was healthy and doing well. I just kept thinking somehow as well that having a boy would emasculate me some how. I know this is not true and I am so over it now and just excited to meet my little man. However it is good to know that I was not alone in my initial reaction.