[1234rachael]

My name is Rachael, I just turned 31 (christmas day) I got my BFP the day after my birthday!! Although I was pretty siked, but very reserved in the same feeling. I really want to be happy about this pregnancy, DH is extremely excited (we have no babies yet). I keep telling him, "try not to be too excited" I feel bad, but I am just nervous I'll have another m.c. and be let down again.

I've had 3m.c.'s this past year, undergone several tests to try and figure out what if anything was wrong, and Nothing has turned up, so doc said, go for it. We did after 1 month of fertility injections everynight, and progestrone 3 times a day. I have no medical problems, and work out at the gym, so it wasn't a weight issue or anything.

I guess I am just a little "on the fence" about this pregnancy & don't know if its right to feel this way & if anyone else felt this way. I am extremely happy, but keep telling myself 'try not to get to attached" is this right! I wish I could just forget about all the bad that could happen, and just say
"whatever, I am pregnant, and that thier is no way I could have a 4th mc?"

[ProudMommyxo]

I feel the same exact way you do. I lost a pregnancy last December and just found out December 26th that I'm pregnant again. I'm happy about it but still extremely nervous. I want this baby sooo bad if I lost it I dont know what I'd do. Every little pain or new feeling I freak out. I don't want to do anything wrong. I think about the pregnancy from the AM to the PM and all the time between!! I think we jsut need to calm down because we dont want to mess anything up from worrying. I'm sure we'll all be ok and thank God we have we each other to go through this with!

[1234rachael]

Yes, I think you'll become my new best friend!! LOL! I found out also Dec 26, maybe were due the same day? I too also think about it am to pm!!!!!!! God, its going to be a long 9 months!! But we'll definately have each other. Yes, we need to "calm down"" but, its easier said than done! as you already know

[ProudMommyxo]

No kiddin I can't stop thinking about it! Yep Maybe we'll be able to be Due Date buddies!! Better keep me posted! Sounds like we ahve alot in common on our pregnancies.. lol!! I'm excited to be here! Its nice to have women feeling the same way as me!!

[momma6_2angels]

I lost my first child 8 years ago and then had another loss in April 03. That pregnancy had been going along fine and then i found out the baby's heart had stopped. Needless to say, it took me a year before I wanted to TTC again. I could not get my mind around the fact that I would be holding a baby. My DR was FANTASTIC and let me talk and let out my concerns. I also found some pregnancy after loss groups for women who knew what I had been through. My best friend is from one of those groups and the rest of the girls are ecstatic now. I'm thrilled to be pg again but I still almost expect something bad. I think all will be ok and that's why I am so happy. I was happy last time but so reserved. With my losses, I couldn't get too happy or attached. ESP with the second, my husband pushed me to accept it. I wish I had relaxed more the last time. Just relax and picture yourself holding your precious little bundle. Remember too, God gives us the desires of our hearts! Hope i make sense!!

[MJONES]

Rachael I know exactly how you feel. I am trying not to get too excited for obvious reasons. I hope everything goes well for all of us.
I am due the same as Chandra so it sounds like you are due about the same time. I got my BFP the 19th, so I am thinking I may end up being due in late Aug.

[Isabelle]

I'm very nervous. Never been pregnant before, 37 years old and a huge worry wart! I am trying NOT to think negatively and just enjoy the moment. I think I'm just thrilled that I was actually able to get pregnant after 2 months of trying!

I'm so happy to be here! Positive thinkings girls! The mind is very powerful so only think good, positive thoughts

[sandyjoys]

I'm scared and nervous too. I don't want to trust it. Last time I began to spot two weeks exactly after I had my BFP. That was in May, my due date would have been Jan 13th, which is exactly 2 weeks after I got this BFP. It makes me so scared! I think once I get past the 13th (Friday the 13th too!) I will feel better. I think it is totally normal for us to be scared, we have every reason to be because we know that it happens.

[Cali*Luvin]

I have never had a m/c so this is my first pregnancy after ttcing for 17 months, but i often wonder will this stick i ahve cramps and i imagine when i go to the bathroom i am going to get a nasty suprise but nothing, just have to stop worrying and think everything is going to be fine. We have each other to lean on and support each other thru our pregnancies.

[susieq]

Hello, I was just popping in from Junes due date club and was reading your post and the comments of the other ones on here.
Thought maybe i could help in some small way. My story is similiar to yours. I have had 4 m/c's. I am finally pregnant again. I am 15 weeks now.
But the first 13 weeks were very hard and scarey for me, because like you I was always scared something bad was going to happen, if i got the slightest pain or cramp, I would freak out. I wanted to be excited but found it hard. At 7 weeks I went for the early ultrasound and we saw the heartbeat. That helped me some, but I still worried. At my 13 week appointment we heard the heartbeat again( which is the most wonderful sound).
This is what helped me get through it all. My friend taught me how to visualize(sorry about spelling). Find a quite place(i did it at night when i went to bed) take 3 deep breaths and then visualize your baby in your mind. Think about your stomach getting bigger, think about your baby moving and getting bigger each day.
Think about the whole nine months and then visualize the day your baby is born and you holding them.
I know this may sound strange to some. It did to me at first, but after I tried it, it really seemed to help me let go of some of the negtive feelings, and it let me enjoy being pregnant. Now I am 15 weeks and things are going good.
Sorry for this being so long
Good luck and try not to worry, you will be in my thoughts and prayers
Holly

[Isabelle]

Holly,

That's awesome! I am a true believer of positive thinking and I really try to think positive and focus on the good.

The mind and the way you say things are very powerful. For example: You don't say "if I get pregnant" you say "WHEN I get pregnant"

Congrats to you!