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It has been a long time since we have talked (in depth) about what is going on in our lives...... so let's do it. The good - the bad - and the ugly all welcome here. (Well ~ if you want to put the ugly in vegas we would understand that too)
Things are busy here ---- I may be working "part time" as in getting paid for working part time - but I am doing a full time job plus ---- then add the kids on to that. I am not complaining ---- I know what teaching is like - and at the elementary level it is NOT just during school hours. I am also doing preschool 2 days a week which was a good decision in that I get a little bit of extra money - and while the kids nap ~ I can do lesson plans and preps for the next day. But after dinner is over each night - and the kids are playing with their father - it is pretty much back to work until bedtime.
I love being back in VA --- but I am really really lonely. I don't have any friends yet - and really no way of meeting them..... the other teachers are all older than me and busy during non work hours. (So I guess I should be glad that I am working now and don't have much time to spend with other people anyways.)
My marriage is at a truce for the time being..... we are both focused on giving these kids a great childhood and it is nice to not be fighting but we still have no relationship. Kevin is getting ready to be gone for the next 2 weeks and totally honestly it will be nice to have a break.
The kids seem to be bigger every day. Shaun is in 5th grade - and really has a hard time making friends. He does really well at the school that he is at - and always does well with kids on his baseball team - but if they don't have baseball in common ~ he really doesn't fit in. He reads all the time so he has tons of knowledge ... but his interests are more adult things - he taught himself how to tie flies for fly fishing and taught himself how to fly fish --- he loves history etc... It really worries me for the future. I don't want him to have a hard time making friends but I don't know what to do about it..... Any ideas???
Dylan is doing great. He can be friends with anyone. He is doing well in preschool - he loves being there - he has an amazing teacher...... my main complaint with him is that he is getting bigger every day and I no longer have a baby. (and the WHINING that drives me UP THE WALL)
bad.......jeff travels a lot for work and that wears on me....the part that I hate is that they are SO hungry when I get them home so I cook dinner with a cranky toddler on my hip and Jacob whining.
I want to work out but I just can't seem to do it at night....I get up @ 530 so I can't do it in the am. I just need to motivate to do it at night. Jacob has been battling bedtime.......so I am lucky if he asleep by 9.
We are dealing with family drama on Jeff's side.......his older bro is a jerk and treats his mom like dirt and she is fed up. his brother is 50/50 on turkey day and that makes me sad for my kids. they love their cousins.
good......Jacob is doing good in school and really loves writing. He gets along well with all the kids. Hayden is a happy boy and is really talking a lot.
jeff and i are ok......i only wish we had more "us" time.
Or make something in a crock pot so its ready when you get home? www.crockpot365.com is a great blog, it is a mom who tries all sorts of crock pot recipes and then she rates them herself.
The bad - I'm having no control over my body and I'm getting fatter everyday. Some days I just don't care, but I'm starting to notice it affecting my every day living and I won't accept that. Except that I have no desire to do anything about it right now.
The other bad is that we're broke and we weren't expecting it. Noah makes a crap load of money, so we don't know where it all goes. I'm worried about Christmas gifts.
The good: Lucas is doing amazing. He is a different kid then he was just six months ago. Ever since we removed dairy from his diet. When he accidently has something with dairy in it, it is so obvious. He gets spacey, violent and angry. But without it, he is cuddly, playful, polite, talks all the time, asks a million questions. He is so smart and remembers everything (my neighbor gave him some stickers with the planets and he memorized all of them, and even says "Pluto is not a planet anymore." I started working on reading with him, he wants to learn, so that is fun.
Ryan is doing well. He is speech delayed but the past few weeks he has had a word explosion. His little voice is so sweet. He turned two a month ago and he def acts like it. He has daily tantrums over stupid things like the fact that we won't let him climb up on the bookshelves or lock him out of the kitchen. I don't know if its because I did it already once, or that he's my baby, but I'm so less stressed about his behavior than I was with Lucas. I have to remind myself that Lucas was crazy and super fast, I at least can catch up with Ryan.
Noah and I doing really well, still debating on trying for number 3 in the New Year. We change our minds every day. The other night we even made a pro/con list.
Cathy I used to have the same problem when I picked the kids up from daycare. I started keeping little baggies of raisins and dried fruit to give them in the car for the ride home. That would tide them over until dinner was ready.
The last few months have been running together for me and I feel like I have missed out on part of the year. My MIL's visit has been better than what I thought it would be. She's a retired school teacher and has taught Georgie how to read and she has memorized three boxes of site words flash cards. That part has been great.
We hit a deer in Iowa a few weeks back that totaled our Yukon, frustrating because she was paid for! We've spent more time than I care to remember test driving cars and hubby and I can't agree on anything. It was his turn to get a car for him but what he wants is two door and I refuse to have another two door car. I got ticked off the other day and said I refuse to talk about it again until April. Work is three minutes from home so we do not actually need two cars.
That is sadly it for my life right now. My MIL goes home in a couple of weeks, the renovations are done and I am hoping to enjoy a relaxing winter free from paint brushes and yard work.
Things here are going ok. I'll start with the good and that Hailey is doing wonderfully, our house is coming along, and we are relatively in good health. Those are the major pros around here. Plus we both have jobs, so these days I'm grateful for that.
Hailey keeps us laughing each day and she is learning more and more. She enjoys school and now does dancing (tap and ballet) every Saturday. She recently had her first dentist appt and got a clean bill of health there. I just can't believe she's 4 already!!
The bad.....I'm wanting a baby so badly! I just finished my first AF so I'm eager to start ttc again. My doctor suggested waiting 2 cycles, but 1 was such torture. I'm not sure what to do. I've researched a lot and read a lot on the TTCAL board on JM. It seems like its really a doctors preference as to how long a woman should wait. I'm just so afraid of it happening again!
Things with Jim and I have been ok. We've both been stressed and just exhausted that its been a bit hard keeping the romance alive. He's such a great guy and I feel terrible for having this happen. I know its likely just a phase, so I'm holding out hope for that. I know going out would help, but then that costs money and we are really trying to watch our pennies now that we have the house.
Mel - I so wish I was close to you so we could hang out. Keep your chin up you never know who you will meet one day and you would never expect it.
Cathy - that is awesome about Jacob and the writing. Hang in there with the boys. I can only imagine how hard it is doing it yourself a majority of the time. Hopefully things slow down soon with Jeff's travel.
Sandy - that is awesome about Lucas. Take it one day at a time with the weight thing. I know you can do it. Right now it sounds like you are stressed hopefully that will pass soon for you.
Stacey - you are always so busy...I'm exhausted just reading what you do LOL Don't forget to take pics of your Christmas decorations so I can ooh and ahh!
Joanna - big HUGS to you! My SIL was also told to wait 2 cycles before trying however after 1 they were pregnant again. Hang in there.
As for me things are good. It seemed like I had a few rough weeks emotionally (vegas posts) but after a much needed weekend away I am hoping I have a better outlook towards things here at home.
I met with both of the kids teachers and there was nothing but glowing things to say about both of them. I had lots of worries about Logan but his teacher assured me it is still early in the school year and he is one of the younger ones in the classroom. He is in a JK/SK split classroom (we have 2 years of kindergarten) so there are some kids in his class that will turn 6 in the new year (jan/feb babies). So there is almost 2 years difference.
Travis and I are doing great. His job is great. He goes in to work anywhere from once to 3 times a week depending on his schedule. Every other week I have taken in 2 before school kids that I look after. They come from 8 am - 9 am. I see them about 3-4 times in that week. It's nice to have a little bit of extra money. Right now the plans are for me to stay at home until Logan is in Grade 1 (so another 2 years). Then when I do go back to work it will hopefully only be part time so I can still drop the kids off and pick them up from school.
I guess I will start with the bad...My gma was in the hospital again and they just sent her home the other day on hospice, I'm sure you all know that is just a way for them to make 1 comfortable in their last days So, I am praying she is around for a little while longer, cause I have decided to go home for Christmas.....
My marriage is not that great, it hasn't been for awhile, and I feel like a fool for getting pregnant. We have ok days and we just don't communicate anymore at all, he sleeps on the couch more than in our bed, I feel the only time he is nice is when he wants something then he goes back to pretty much ignoring me..., all he does is sleep. But I refuse to leave when we are in this much debt and having another little one.
I am extemely lonely here, I have nobody, I thought this one girl was trying to be my friend, but she happened to be one of those people who say they are going to do all this stuff and never follows through.
My kids are doing extremely well in school!! Linds brought home straight A's, Kaila brought home all A's and 1 B, and Ethan brought home C's and above and that is awesome for him Erik is doing well with speech, he goes to the specialist next week and hopefully we find some answers! Madie learned how to sing the alphabet song!! She is really smart, and she is learing colors and how to write her name
My m/s is as bad as it was so I have been cooking dinner every nite and the family loves it!!!
Mel, we really need to stop talking about getting together and actually do it, I know Ethan is quite a few years older than Shaun, but I think they would get along, if we got together...It took Ethan awhile to fit in here too...I think he has 1 friend and he wouldn't even come stay at our house over the weekend, so I don't know....
Cathy, wow, to Jacob writing, you must be really proud!!
Sandy, that is awesome about Lucas!!
Stacy, That was really nice of your MIL to teach Georgie while she was there!!
Joanna, wow long time, glad to hear you are doing well and sending you tons of pregnant dust
Jen, glad you got some much needed time to yourself!! Yay, for you being able to stay home for awhile