[samlee]

Well last night my D/H'S nan passed away which we were expecting as she has been very very sick .D/H and I had already decided that it was best for me to stay home with Sarsh-Jane and Tristian why he travelled the 3hrs to her funeral as we both beleived it would be to much for Tristian to deal with. Well this morning my mother-in-law rang and i told her what plans D/H and i had made and she said i had to take the kids to her place and the funeral and made me guilty if i did not do that.Please ladies give me some idea as to what you would do in this situation!

[maximabella]

why do you HAVE to take the kids? Whats her reasoning.

Maybe she just really wants her grandbabies close right now...

[bexmommy]

[Rebecca^]

I'm not really sure what advice to give - I don't know - I'd say if grandma wants the kids there and it isn't a huge inconvenience, I'd probably take them.

[Melz]

Ditto to all the ladies.

Ditto, but if you really think it will have a negative impact on Tristian, then I'd put his needs before grandma's.

[Firsttimemommy413]

i'd say you do what seems right to you. You are the mom and although she may want to see her grandkids, you have the ultimate say! Good luck with the decision and i'm sorry to hear about your DH's nan!

[Proverbs31Mom]

As said above, she is sad and she might feel better with the kids around her...most times when someone dies, it's tougher for those who are left behind and MIL might be in need of something soothing to hold on to, YOUR KIDS.

[TylerJ1029]

I personally would go but we make 3hr drives all the time so its no big deal to us. I'm sorry for your loss.

[samlee]

Thanks ladies. D/H spoke to his mum last night and it turns out she just wonts her grandbabies around her at this point in time she said to him that she agreed that the kids should not go to the funeral it self but i should stay at her house with them and go to the cuppa at the hall with them after the funeral service at the church. D/H and Ive decided at this point not for me and the kids to go down due to we had a sort of talk with Tristan last night about things just told him his nan has gone to heaven up with the stars kind of thing and he turned to us and said so nans died has she which shocked both of us of course so we said yes to that of course as we dont wont to lie to him and he turned to D/H and I and said he did not wont to go down to nans so we are leaving it at that for the moment we dont wont to push the issue.Also my health is not the best at the moment even know its only a 3hr drive it still would knock me around a lot so were leaving it at that for now. Thanks for listening ladies it means a lot.

[NYCmom2Bella]

Great Choice!!! I am sooo sorry to hear about ur loss!

[Proverbs31Mom]

ALSO
Feel better also at this time.