Someone at my workplace had a miscarriage...

ozzysgirl · #1 September 22nd, 2005, 03:43 PM

I just heard someone at my workplace had a miscarriage. I spoke with her last month, she was ahead of me by 2 weeks. I don't see her everyday but I feel bad and will feel bad the next time I see her. I think I'll feel worse when I start to show (I'm only 10 weeks) and my office will surely throw me a baby shower.

Cindermella · #2 September 22nd, 2005, 04:27 PM

that is sad
you know at 12 weeks you would like to think you are safe

cdunlop1679 · #3 September 22nd, 2005, 04:36 PM

i know how you feel, when i had my first DD I was still living at home, my sister had a friend that used to come over, she was about 3 weeks ahead of me and at 5 months she went into labor and delivered a little boy-who didn't make it. I used to feel so sad when she would come over to our house after I had my baby, you could just see the sadness in her eyes, it was very difficult.

maximabella · #4 September 22nd, 2005, 05:08 PM

awww, that totally freaks me out!

hsteacher · #5 September 22nd, 2005, 06:10 PM

I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks. Some close friends of mine had just had a baby. My husband told them about it for me (because they were pressuring us a lot to get pregnant too, and I didn't want to deal with the comments). They expressed their sorrow to him and bought me some icee things that I always used to eat whenever I went to their house.

It was a touching sentiment, but I really hated how they ignored it ever happened when they were around me. I know they felt awkward, but a simple "I'm sorry" would have been better.

I'm sure this person knows you feel uncomfortable, but talking to her about it may break the tension a little. Just tell her how sorry you are and that you realize that your physical state will be a sad reminder for her. Or you can send a card or letter. I'm sure she would appreciate it.

cdunlop1679 · #6 September 22nd, 2005, 07:02 PM

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Originally posted by hsteacher@Sep 22 2005, 08:10 PM
I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks. Some close friends of mine had just had a baby. My husband told them about it for me (because they were pressuring us a lot to get pregnant too, and I didn't want to deal with the comments). They expressed their sorrow to him and bought me some icee things that I always used to eat whenever I went to their house.

It was a touching sentiment, but I really hated how they ignored it ever happened when they were around me. I know they felt awkward, but a simple "I'm sorry" would have been better.

I'm sure this person knows you feel uncomfortable, but talking to her about it may break the tension a little. Just tell her how sorry you are and that you realize that your physical state will be a sad reminder for her. Or you can send a card or letter. I'm sure she would appreciate it.
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Those are great suggestions~