grrrr... my dad!

justjaQ · #1 November 6th, 2009, 06:59 PM

i am rather offended tonight. my dad stopped in, and we were discussing my pregnancy. first off, he hasn't told his girlfriend about the baby yet, because she is THAT much of a nag, and hates that he tries to be hands on with his grandkids. wth? he is 54, and she keeps him on such a short leash, it's ridiculous. we all hate it, but want to see him happy, not lonely. not sure how happy he is.... but she says that she raised her daughter, and is done with kids.

guess he should be too, in her eyes. but ahem, he still has a 15-year-old son!

anyhow, what really irked the heck out of me, is when he said, "you're not still thinking of having the baby at your mom's, are you?" i told him that i did not see it working out, as mike was against it, and he let out a little "rant", beginning with, "good, so am i!" and telling me how it's the 21st century, home births are dangerous, so what if i don't like hospitals and obs, etc. i was pissed! afterward, i said to my grandma, "did you hear him practically lecture me? good grief!" she nodded along in disgust. hello, i am 25! grrrrr.

JustBeginning · #2 November 9th, 2009, 10:10 AM

lmao.. um... they were more dangerous way back then weren't they?? It seems what with advances in practices and ambulances and all the stuff we've learned since the many years past... that it would be safer now. How goofy.

viXen · #3 November 9th, 2009, 11:09 AM

I think he just has a total different perception of it, like Sarah said, they were much more dangerous back then. I actualy won't have a home birth ever, not because I wouldn't enjoy them, but I don't think it is safe for mother or baby to do it (my opinion of course). I have a feeling he was just being a dad and being concerned hehe. I wish I had my dad around to lecture me a bit, it's what dad's do!

justjaQ · #4 November 13th, 2009, 07:00 AM

yeah, i mean, i got over it. i know he loves me, i just feel kind of alone in my perspectives about birth and parenting, and that is hard. esp. with mike being so different... but then i get my dad saying that, and criticism about other things from my mom, and i feel like i don't have many people to turn to. in person, i have one-- my grandma.

and jess, i'm sorry- i wish your dad were here too.

ibdancn · #5 November 13th, 2009, 07:35 AM

I'm sorry you don't feel supported with most of the people in your life. It's really hard to do any sort of parenting or birthing thing, without support. I got a lot of flack from my parents for doing a VBAC in a birthing center. I knew they were just scared, since both work for the hospital, but I really felt like I needed support that they didn't give me. But I at least had the support of my husband. I don't think I could've done it without that. I really wish that you had people around you that shared your views Jaq.