[jenninator]

So DH's brother is getting married at the end of October. I sent back our RSVP a couple weeks ago and then got facebook message last night that they were not having kids at the wedding.

So my question is - if you are having a kid free weekend, shouldn't you inform people with kids beforehand? Or is it my mistake for not noting that the kids names weren't on the envelope? (I threw away the envelope and only kept the invite). Since it is DH's brother we've had the date on our calendar for almost a year now, so I didn't pay a whole lot of attention to the invite except to admire that is was pretty, haha!

I guess it just seems like it would have been nice if we had known it in advance. I don't know why, but I felt kind of bad/stupid after reading the email. I don't think I would have felt so bad if he had sent us an email beforehand explaining their decision. It's their day and it's their choice how to do it - they way it went down just didn't feel good to me. Oh well!!

Since we are out of town It's not so simple as just getting a babysitter for the night. I guess we need to decide if Jimmy will head down there by himself. Since his brother is moving to Missouri after the wedding it will probably be years before we see him again, if ever. He's visited Dallas twice, but not had time to see us, so we will not be going up to Missouri to see them!

[SydneynDeansMum]

I am shocked that close family, niece and nephew aren't allowed esp sinc eit is an out of town issue. How frustrating! Can you bring the kids and hore a sitter from the area for the hotel for a few hours? IDK?

[jenninator]

more than likely we'll probably just have Jimmy go down for the evening by himself. We have high school girls from our church come to babysit for us every so often for a date night, but it just doesn't feel right to me to get a sitter in a different town that we'll really know nothing about. We do have one close friend in town that has watched the kids overnight once for us, but with a 5 and 3 year old that really is a lot to ask. Haley and Joe and their son (also 5) get really amped up together, and bedtime with the 3 of them is exhausting. When they are a little older, I think that will get a little better.

My sister, who just had her wedding told me if the inner envelope only said my and Jimmy's name that they were within "etiquette." It's all good I guess - but Emily Post or not, I just think it would have been nice to have a heads up. I guess I should just be glad that it's a 4 hour drive and not something we bought plane tickets for hahaha!!!

I'm glad I'm at least not the only one that was kind of taken aback by it! I can tell you I'll look over every other wedding invitation I ever get with a magnifying glass!

[kitt]

That's crazy they wouldn't invite kids or at least have a hired sitter watch children in another room.. I really find that rude. They really should have let you know in advance with a phone call or something. Anyway, were you planning on getting a hotel room in the other town? If so you could go along and stay in the hotel room and bring the boys out for the reception. If you weren't planning on staying in the other town, you could still hire a sitter for the day

[Kaypea]

I dont understand kids free weddings myself, they are my favorite part of the whole event That being said i think a heads up to family is nice, I know for some people or venues it works better to exclude kids. I would just send jimmy, no stranger babysitters in a hotel for me!

[jenninator]

Originally Posted by Kaypea

I dont understand kids free weddings myself, they are my favorite part of the whole event That being said i think a heads up to family is nice, I know for some people or venues it works better to exclude kids. I would just send jimmy, no stranger babysitters in a hotel for me!

I know - I enjoyed some of our friends kids being super cute at our wedding reception! I had wished that we could have had a flower girl and ring bearer- but we didn't have any family or close friends with kids that age at the time.

Even though I really do think it's their choice how to do their wedding, it still kind of stung, but I'm over it now! Jimmy's going to drive down for the day. We'll have a Mommy movie night, haha!