We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
So lately, Josh has been resorting to biting, sometimes without even thinking about it, but most of the time, it's been out of anger. The first time he really BIT me, was Friday evening. Brian and I had him on our bed with us and we were playing, and all of a sudden, he got caught up in the excitement and bit my hand - not out of anger, but it left a nice perfect little "V" mark (no teeth marks, which was odd). The second time he bit me was Saturday afternoon, and I was trying to hold him still for a second so my grandpa could mark his height on the garage door (something he has done since my sister and I were little girls, it's like a tradition). Anyways, Josh didn't want to stand still and started getting mad and screaming and crying, so I leaned over to give him kissies, and as soon as I did, he CHOMPED down on my cheek, enough so that I fell back and just let him go. My dad was right there and swatted his hand, which of course just hurt his feelings and he got even more upset, but I was on the verge of tears myself, out of pain! Then again, LAST night, he got mad at me because I was laying on the floor playing tug of war with his blankie, and at first he was having fun, but then he just got pissed, and went to bite my shoulder, but didn't follow through because my dad and I both yelled at him before he could actually chomp. But I felt the teefers!
So my question is, WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THIS?? This is really the first time since becoming a parent that I'm honestly at a complete loss on how to handle the situation!
I have no idea what to tell you. A friend of mine had a biter and it lasted for years. Her daughter finally just grew out of it, but it took a while. Hopefully one of the other girls has some advice for you.
I would keep telling him no, and stop playing with him when he bites. If he hurts mommy, he doesnt get mommy's attention for a while. Lorelei will throw fits when she doesnt get her way. I just look at her and walk out of the room. She stops immediately crawling after me, because its my attention she wants. I hope he stops soon, I know that must be painful!
When he bites say, "NO!" and look him square in the face when you say it. Do not smile or laugh. Look like you meant what you said and put him down and walk away. Then everytime you know he's GOING to bite, don't move but say, "Don't bite, Josh." This can be said with less force once he knows that biting is bad by the first part of this instruction.
Will was a biter, BIG TIME. We haven't had an issue since we started doing this. We can tell that when he gets all excited he'll open his mouth and go to bite a shoulder or something. So, catching him beforehand is pretty easy and he knows what we mean, but the fun isn't ruined.