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did you ask someone to put it on for you or did they offer? My mom was supposed to give me a shower, but now it just seems like too big of a hassle for her to do anything about it. I didn't have one with my son and my husband said to ask his mom because she would be more than willing to give me one, but I don't want to ask because it seems kind of rude to me... Oh, and my mom also decided that she didn't want to come up and help me with Alexander next week like she promised me that she would..
Aww, I'm sorry you are having a rough time. Dh's Grandma and my Mom just kind of said, we need a list for your shower, so start thinking about who you want to invite.
Can you have your dh mention a shower to his mom, since it is HIS mom? Maybe even just say, Well my Mom was planning a shower but now has told me she doesn't want to be in charge of it. Maybe your MIL would get the hint and offer.
I just brought it up in conversation...like "well when i have my baby shower...." and my mom was like..."oh yeah, when you want to do that?" so...im sure just like last time though ill end up planning most of it for myself...(sad i know). ive picked the date and now it looks like im gonna be buying the invites too. blah...and we are having it at my house so yeah....
Awe I am sorry you are having a tough day. It is kind of strange to ask someone to give you a shower.
I am also sorry your mom isn't willing to help you out. It is hard when you think someone will be there then back down on you. Do you have anyone else to help?
I had a baby shower with my first child and didn't get another one until baby #5 came and my two daughters did both of them. I remember when I had my first son I would have loved to have a shower. There were many boy things I needed. I think it doesn't matter how many children you have each baby is special and you deserve to be treated like that.
My friend Aubri told me that she was going to throw me a shower. No asking if I wanted her to, just told me she was...lol
I didn't really have one with Cora. 3 of my friends threw a small party and gave me clothes, and it was just the 4 of us. It was a fun little shindig, but not really a "shower" per se. That was 2 days before she died.
Remarkably, I actually had one shower with my DD. I was about 24 weeks along and visited my parents in Maine. My sister had a shower planned and even included "Schnoodlers." I am also a member of Schnoodles Unlimited, a Yahoo group, with members everywhere. Two are in Maine. I didn't know them before I joined that group and they were at my shower! There was about 20 people there. I was super impressed because I never asked. I was suppose to have one at work, but was on bedrest for nearly a month by then and missed it. Then folks were going to come to my house and I went into labor two days before! So, no shower from my co-workers here... But that was OK... I am really not into attention like that. I really don't expect a shower this time. I was talking about it with my sitter today. She has three kids and is adopting another (one is adopted as well). She expects a shower and had one or more with each of her kids. So, I think it is different for everyone. I would ask DH to drop a major hint. Well, not even a hint!!! Just TELL them!!
One of my friends offered about two months ago, long before I was even thinking about it! I feel better, since I had to throw my own bridal shower. Tells you what a winner I am, huh? I don't know how much I will need by then anyway. I already have a box of clothes from Kelli, and two moms at work have offered to bring in their kids clothes. One even brought in bedding today, but I let another teacher have it, since she should be going into labor anyday.