[mommy2emma&adam]

I am having problems with my job. I was hired here when i was just 2 months pregnant, my friend got me the job. I work at a law firm and i have previous experience, working at another law office for 2 years. This law firm on the other hand is much more challenging and its WAY too much for me to handle. I dread coming to work everyday, in fear that I am going to screw up. I mean, you should see my desk, i have over 20 files on my desk, i sit in my office and cry because I am so unhappy here.
I would have quit a while back, but I am afraid that no one will hire me because I am pregnant. And I cant be without a job for too long because of bills and so forth.
i mean, its not worth crying over, its really not, im stressed out enough over finding a house and just getting everything together before the baby comes, and the job does not help. I dont want to find a dead-end job though.
sorry for going on and on, but has anyone ever gone through this before??
any suggestions?
thanks for listening!

[lauraec20]

I am sorry you are having a hard time. You can always start looking for another job to just see what is out there and if someone will hire you while pregnant. I would not do anything like quit before you have another job lined up (espcially if you are worried about bills and stuff).

Do you think you could hold on there until after the baby is born and then try to find something else? Wish I could help more. Hope something works out for you.

[MLBelle]

I was having a difficult time with my job too. I had such a power struggle with my ASM. I would have to walk in back and cry. There was even a time when he sent me home because we got into an arguement over where cards go. (Seriously) Just hang in there. I try to make work fun no matter what. If it's so terrible than when your baby's born, just don't go back. Leave and then find another job when you're not pregnant.
I hope everything starts looking up. I feel overwhelmed so much at work (I'm the only female there too)

[georgieshrinks]

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is the worst feeling in the world, not wanting to be at your job and HAVING to go every day.

I can relate somewhat, I had a high stress job when I was preg with my first but I stuck with it thinking the same as you...I NEED it and there will be no other jobs available cause I'm pregnant. Plus we live in a small town and it is mostly Agro businesses. My husband is GMO for one of the main Grain terminals...so another hit against me nobody will hire the preggo wife of the competitor's GMO! (I was in office management.)

I regret being so stressed during that time in my life, but I will be honest with you, even in hind sight I do not know how I could have done it differently. (But then again I didn't try anything else either)

Can you maybe talk to your boss and let him know that you are feeling a little overwhelmed and could you maybe get some help until you are caught up again? He/she may respect your honesty and appreciate that you have the best interest of the firm, rather than being too ashamed that you aren't able to complete it all on your own. I can tell you have great work ethic, because you don't want to screw up...maybe your boss will see this too.

Good luck and I hope things get better for you.

[Lauren]

I'm so sorry your going through this and I know what you mean about finding a new job. I actually used to do what you do but left to focus more on school. No one will hire me which is agravating and illegal because when I start i'll be 6 months pregnant my advice is stick it out for the next few months then while on maternity leave start looking for something else. Also is there anyway you could go on disability most docs will write a note. That may be a short term option which I always hate to use but an option none the less. Hang in there sweetie.

[sunshinealyssamichelle]

I had a job before this one that I absolutely hated. I was working third shift in the laundry department at a nursing home. I hated hated HATED that job with a passion, but at the time, I was the only one working, so I kept that icky disgusting job just for the insurance and in order to pay bills. I was searching for another job 1.5 months into the beginning of my laundry job. I finally found one and took it. I felt so good about myself for keeping that job that I absolutely hated with a passion because I was taking care of my family-and that's what is most important.

Would you be able to talk to your boss and see if you would be able to get some help with the files on your desk? I think that your boss would respect you if you told him/her that you need help instead of being so overwhelmed.

Good luck, hun.