[eli's momma]

i posted on the toddler board, i don't recall anyone else here in the PR having similar problems but any advice anyone has is welcome, i'm about at my wit's end! (this is concerning night terrors and/or paranormal "issues") Heather I know you've mentioned some things before.....I am just really scared for Eli to be going through any of this and I want it all to stop....I feel like I am not in control and I don't want him to be scared, and I feel so helpless b/c I can't figure out how to make him feel better.

http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f1...l#post17843360 (getting worried about my 2 yr old)

[Mom2MacyandDru]

I didnt read the other post, but Dru had nightmares and I feel so bad for him.
I personally dont really believe in alot of paranormal things, but for example the other night I heard him talking and then he became paniced and then started crying well when Jason got in there to him he said he had the shade in his room pulled back and was staring out the window just shaking....it was pouring down rain so I think maybe that is what he was looking at, but it kinda freaked me out!

[eli's momma]

sorry, i know that other post is LONG lol....there's just so much going on with him right now.

eli has been scared of bad weather, etc. before but these dreams he has, he doesn't seem to wake up from and is even scared of me....it's very scary seeing him like that. and the things that have happened with him talking about/to people who are not there....were never scary before, i always just thought it was kinda weird. but today he was wide awake and seemed scared to be in my bedroom and it wasn't just something he could snap out of, it was so intensely scary for me.

IDK. Samantha spooked Darcy and I at dinner the other night. We were sitting eating and she turned to the counter, waved enthusiastically to the cupboards and said Hi to "Grandpa." IDK.

[SweetSimpleThings]

OK, I deleted the first part I wrote, and I'm going to re-post it in the hideout.

I'm certainly open to the possibility that there may be things in life that we can't see or understand or explain. I think the best thing to do is try to be calm and not appear afraid and just talk to him about stuff - like ask who he is waving at, but in a super calm way so he feels fine talking about it.

But it is most likely a combination of night terrors (Michael gets these quite often lately!! it's very hard to console him and sometimes he is saying things that don't make sense - or talking about something in his room, etc.) When I mentioned this to my doctor, she said that at this age, children get a lot more graphic memories, and particularly sometimes something they've seen on TV can "re-play" but in a scarier way.

I've been making sure there's no tv for the few hours before bed, and we've also tried to limit "scary" play right before bed. DH used to do a lot of peak-a-boo, and "find daddy hiding behind the door" kind of stuff. DS would laugh and laugh, but we wondered if it was getting his system all worked up right before bed.

His night terrors do seem to have lessened lately so hopefully it's helping.

It's hard not to interpret strange meanings to things they say sometimes - the other night, DH had to ride home in his own car, and DS and I followed about 20 minutes later. The whole way home, every time I mentioned going home to find daddy, DS would say "No, daddy gone. Not home, daddy gone. Bang." So there I am driving along in the dark thinking "what the heck!!" Of course, when I pulled up, there was DH's car in the driveway, perfectly safe. Who knows WHAT he was referring to. Maybe he mant Daddy was gone because he wasn't in the car with us like he normally is? But in that moment, it sounded so freaky!!!

Sorry, I'm not sure if I'm much help!

[sethsmum]

It sounds like night terrors. My friends little brother has them nearly every night and he ends up sitting up in bed head banging and screaming until his Mum calms him and gets him to lie down again. Hopefully it is nothing, but I would think its worth mentioning to your doctor, just to put your mind at ease

[Karilynsmom]

I am sorry I didn't get a chance to read the original post...but in regards to the paranormal piece I just wanted to add something. I am thinking it may have something to do with the age because just a couple of weeks ago we had a situation where we are pretty sure Karilyn was seeing my grandmother. She passed the month before Karilyn was conceived. Really long story so I don't want to steal your post but basically she just out of the blue started talking about Grandma (she doesn't have a "Grandma", my Mom has always been Gigi and she has no one else that she knows or we have spoken of). She was telling me all kinds of things about Grandma being all gone, going bye bye, that she plays catch with her blanket with Grandma. Then by the end of the day she was saying things like...Me no want Grandma, just Gigi, Grandma go bye bye. Sooooo I didn't think too much of it....told my Mom about it and she suggested putting out a picture of my Grandma for Karilyn to find and see what happens. So I did and Karilyn says point blank "OH Mama there's my friend" I said what is your friends name and she said " There is my friend Grandma" Still to this day I am not sure how I feel about it....there hasn't been any more talk of Grandma, but there are other strange things that she does to make me feel like she is seeing things. I could go on, if you would like to hear just let me know, but I don't want to ramble any more than I have.

I guess my point is that it seems like there are a few of us seeing this lately so maybe it is true that children have more of an open mind than adults and our LOs are getting old enough to talk about it and/or be fearful of it enough to react. I hope you are able to find something that helps and put your mind at ease about everything going on. It must be really hard.

[BrookeN]

I don't have any personal experience with Carter, but I did want to tell you that my BFF's daughter is almost 4, but for the past couple of years she has seen "people" in her house, talked to them, about them, woken up in the middle of the night scared of them. I'm prone to agree with Amy, maybe it's just the age.

[*Kiliki*]

my oldest went through night terrors!! it was horrific!! she would wake up screaming but it seemed like she was awake but she wasn't and she wouldn't remember anything that she did...she did eventually grow out of that and hasn't done that in years....but we would just sit with her til she calmed down and put her back to bed

[hockeymomto4boys]

I wish I had something to add! I hope you figure out what's going on, like the others have said, maybe it's this age, heard of this happeneing at this age a lot! My friends son kept seeing his grandpa that he never met and even recognized him in a picture with out ever seeing a picture before!!