[danniegirl]

So DH and I have been civil lately. Until he started talking to this one girl. Now he wants to be a rural pain in my butt. I got furious with him so at work last week i decided to see what i am allowed in child support. he claims all he can afford is 600 well the state of NC is around 941 yea. So I mentioned that to him and told him if we can agree than it would be easier. well I wanted 800. He is flipping out that I am trying to make him the bad parent that cant do anything with his kids. Which I am not. What I am trying to do is provide for our children. i dont bring home that much. he is stiffing me with a almost 1000 rent payment that i really cant afford plus the stupid electric and water and all that other crap. plus 900 dollars amonth in daycare. I did my finance. 600 a month and if i get it on the first i am not going to be able to pay one of my bills. he doesnt understand this. So now I can afford to keep the kids in daycare so I am trying to find someone to watch my kids for cheaper maybe at my house.

In the meantime ALL he talks about it what he wants to do. he wants all this new crap for his truck has he yet once talked about what he wants for his kids. NO. All I want is whats best for our children.

Then I made the comment I dont want him to have the kids overnight at where he is staing becuase of who is roomate is. They both have a drinking problem and drink ALL the time. normally i am there and sober. But his new roommate gets very violent. I seen him slam his wife up against a car and what not now they are both getting divorced and I dont want random women in out out of the house when the children are there. I am trying to be very civil about this but he is just making me angry. So I have decided to not worry about screwing him over I will let the courts decide. I borrowed some money from my parents and got a pretty good lawyer. The lawyer I have is a wife of a guy i work with and she has never lost.

Sorry this is so long i am just furious with him. I lost ALL of my friends due to this marriage as he didnt like him and I literally have no one to talk to.

What sucks the most is I still love him and care about him and every little thing he does hurts me. I want to not be hurt anymore but thats all that is happening to me and i do not like this.

[melkissa2004]

Sounds like you are doing what is best for the kids and that's all that matters! I'm sorry he is still hurting you.

[SilverRose]

I'm sorry! I understand what you are going through.. I'm going through custody stuff here as well and I remember what it was like when Shane and I first split up 2 years ago. I had NO income and he was paying all the bills and when he left he stopped paying for anything at all.

[.Shelly.]

I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I hope it works out well for you and you get everything you need to best take care of yourself and your babies!! I'm sure it will! You're an awesome mama!

[~FaRRaH~]

T&Ps its a tough time, you are strong... hang in there!

[danniegirl]

Well I had to agree on 600 just so I can get something but I am just going to empty out my savings and hire a lawyer. I hav been on leave and all he talks about it he misses the kids well we got home and he rather be at a concert thN seeing his IRS. Samantha is really uPset and I feel bad sock told her daddy was working. My kids may he 4 and 2 bur I know they know something is going on.

All he tLis about is when I will file the Paperwork. Mean darn I don't have 200 to file yet. I mean I am not really getting any help

[SilverRose]

I'm so sorry! Men can suck sometimes!

[alethia]

I'm sorry that he's hurting you and making it so difficult. You really are trying to do whats best for your kiddo's and hopefully he'll see that.

Hang in there!!!