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May 20th, 2008, 12:53 PM
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I have 2 aunts who are identical twins and they are really, really, really loud and they tend to speak at the same time so imagine how loud they just can be. Well 3 different times they played with Dylan and he actually looked kind of scared. By playing I mean talking to him very loud. Well all 3 nights he woke up at least 4 times which he NEVER does. He wasnt hungry most of those times because he had just finished a full bottle an hour before or a half hour before, so this leads me to believe that he was either over-stimulated because of my aunts or scared and possibly having nightmares. This doesnt happen when anyone else sees him and plays with him.

I avoid them on the weekends as much as I can because of Dylan, but now its getting to the point where Im running out of excuses and I dont want to hurt their feelings. Theyve never had children so they have no idea how to handle them so its not their fault. I told them a few times when they last saw him to keep their voices down but that didnt last longer than 5 min. What do I do?
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May 20th, 2008, 01:03 PM
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I wish I had answers. I have the same problem with Meg when we go visit DH's family. They are loud and rough.. and it makes for a very long weekend.
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May 20th, 2008, 01:39 PM
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wow, I had to giggle because I have a hard time handling loud people myself. My MIL and her sister scare me when they get together but at least they know not to be that loud when dealing with Cadie. I guess just try to tell them what happened? Say it has happened in other situations too so it's not like you are saying it's only them, KWIM? If that doesn't help I dunno what to say, get him ear plugs!! hee hee

are they always together? maybe alone it would be easier to deal with.
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May 20th, 2008, 01:45 PM
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LoL. I'm sorry I have no advice on this, my whole family is LOUD.. all the kiddies are use to it.
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May 20th, 2008, 01:49 PM
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Ditto! With 3 other kids in the house it is never quiet around here. Sadie is used to it. I hope that you can work it out.
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May 20th, 2008, 01:50 PM
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yup Cheryl theyre always together.

I just get so ticked off when its 3am and hes already been up 4 times and i think about how my aunts are sleeping soundly while DH are stuck dealing with a screaming baby
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May 20th, 2008, 01:57 PM
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Ugh that sucks. I think they are still too young to have nightmares, but I'm sure the overstimulation is causing him to be overtired and that's why he can't stay asleep well. Best advice I've received as a new mom is USE YOUR VOICE, IT'S YOUR CHILD. If they won't listen to requests to quiet down a little, simply remove Dylan from the room or at least their reach. You can always find excuses like a diaper change or that he needs a nap.
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May 20th, 2008, 02:29 PM
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Repeat repeat repeat, they will get the idea eventually.
It's not rude to start shhushing either.
I can relate somewhat, my inlaws think getting in maddies face, I mean IN HER FACE every 5 seconds going OOOHH HEY BABY I CANT WAIT TILL YOU GET BIG! and crowding her makes her withdrawl and does nothing to build trust. Sure smile, make faces, but give the kid space, she doesn't know who you are yet. Once a month for 2 days isn't going to cut it grandma! Back off and be gentle, a little at a time.

We were giving her a bath and suddenly she had 5 people around her all going OOOHH BABY BATH and putting water on her and hands everywhere, someone scratched her (Grandma!) and she started crying and her normal relaxing bath routine was totally shot. grrr...

People don't understand overstimulation and babies, just just get excited and think about 'their time' with the baby, rather than the babies state of well being.
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May 20th, 2008, 02:38 PM
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Repeat repeat repeat, they will get the idea eventually.
It's not rude to start shhushing either.
I can relate somewhat, my inlaws think getting in maddies face, I mean IN HER FACE every 5 seconds going OOOHH HEY BABY I CANT WAIT TILL YOU GET BIG! and crowding her makes her withdrawl and does nothing to build trust. Sure smile, make faces, but give the kid space, she doesn't know who you are yet. Once a month for 2 days isn't going to cut it grandma! Back off and be gentle, a little at a time.

We were giving her a bath and suddenly she had 5 people around her all going OOOHH BABY BATH and putting water on her and hands everywhere, someone scratched her (Grandma!) and she started crying and her normal relaxing bath routine was totally shot. grrr...

People don't understand overstimulation and babies, just just get excited and think about 'their time' with the baby, rather than the babies state of well being.[/b]

Yup that sounds like what they do. They are right in his face talking at the top of their lungs saying things like"YOURE SOOOO CUTE, TEEEEE DEEEEE DEEEEE DEEEEEE!" and he just hates that.
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