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I just need to get this out, and you ladies are always so supportive, so I figured, who better to vent to. In the beginning of June I got a phone call from one of my closest friends, we also teach together at the school. She asked me if I heard about Noah's mom. (Noah was one of the boys in my class this passed school year). I told her no. Then she tells me that Noah's mom Jenn was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer - all over her body. I was absolutely blown away. I had just had a conference with the woman right before I had Maryella and she was doing really well. She looked great, and was so much happier. All school year she had been trying to separate from her hubby. He was degrading her in front of the kids and was verbally and mentally abusive and she wanted him out of the house. Of course he held the fact that she was a SAHM over her head and was trying to tell her that everything was his because she does nothing, which was completely untrue. She was such an involved mom - always at the school doing all kinds of activities, a teacher's dream parent, and a fabulous mom. She was a little less involved this year since she was having such a hard time with hubby, but all I had to do was call and she was always right there to help. Anyway, by spring she was feeling great. She finally got him out of the house and was finally getting back to normal. She looked great, felt great, everything was wonderful. So I was absolutely shocked when I found out she was so sick. Apparently she was too. She had no idea that there was anything wrong much less that she was so ill. Of course I wanted to call her as soon as I found out, but my friend told me that Jenn didn't want to talk to anyone. The doctors were giving her 6 months without chemo and 2 years with. She didn't want to do the chemo last I heard. My friend and I had decided that we would wait a while and then call her later this summer to see how things were going once they had time to adjust. Jenn told her sons about the cancer right before the end of the school year (mid-June), and her hubby moved back in to help her. Well, yesterday I went out with my mom all day. I get home and DH tells me that my friend called and that something was wrong. I call her back and she tells me that Jenn passed away on the 4th of July. I just can't believe it! I thought she had at least 6 months. My mind just can't process the fact that this really young woman with 3 beautiful son's (one of which isn't hubby's) is gone. I know that everything happens for a reason, and I'm not entitled to know what that reason is, but I just don't get it. She was everything to those boys - she did everything. They need her, and now she's gone. Her hubby now gets off without having to pay alimony, child support, or having to fight for custody. He gets her life insurance policy, and worst of all he now is the sole provider for these children. Financially I know he can do it, but he's not a nice guy. Those kids are the sweetest most precious angels, and all they have is him. I doubt he's going to let them see Jenn's parents very often. Ugh. My heart just breaks for them. I know that Noah was just a kid in my class, but I treat and feel for all of the kids in my class like they are my own. I worry about him and his brothers. I worry about the oldest boy who isn't hubby's. I wonder if he's going to keep him or be spiteful and kick him out to go to his grandparents. From what I hear noone knows who his dad is. This just seems so unfair and horrible. If you got this far I apologize for the book. Thank you for listening.